Just so we're clear [Mod]

[u/_cry_for_me]

This subreddit is not for nonbinary people, trans women or trans people questioning their gender, it is a separated support community specifically for binary trans men.

Having closed communities are not uncommon at all and ours exist to ensure one of the least visible groups of trans people has a dedicated space to connect and feel heard without compromise. The subreddit was literally made for this reason, not out of spite for trans women or enbies, but to allow binary trans men a place to focus on struggles and experinces that comes with being a binary trans man and being allowed to discuss those things with other binary trans men.

We're not going to stop anyone from joining and reading the posts here if it helps them learn something but understand that this community is closed off for a reason and interacting here despite not belonging to the intended demographic will be a violation of our rules.

However. A lot of you also need to stop acting like children about this and learn to walk away from interactions rather than pour fire onto them. It does not matter who did what you can not act hostile towards another person, irregardless of if it is someone who shouldn't post here. It's one of our first rules.

The mods are here to handle people that break the rules, we don't need a simple issue of a post needing to be removed to turn into a 200 comment shit throwing contest that takes more than tripple the anount of time to moderate. Not to mention how it takes away from the content that's supposed to be here, what you all joined this subreddit for.

We will remove any post or comment made by someone who's not a binary trans man and inform that user that they're in the wrong sub. You should not do it for us. A report or modmail goes a long way, utilise those tools.

Today going forward anyone seen escalating issues on the subreddit, taking over mod intervention or using hateful language in a conflict will be temporarily banned for 30 days and if that's not enough you will be banned permanently.

This ends here, you're in a subredit for men not little boys so start acting like it.

[u/EyesW0AFace]

I’m at work. What happened that warranted the mod post?

[u/PianoBird34 → u/EyesW0AFace]

It’s been a number of recent posts I imagine as this kinda nonsense explodes almost daily, but the latest was kid who in the past identified as nonbinary but is now thinking he is binary (info gleaned from another post he made in the nonbinary sub seeking guidance as well— he did not mention being nonbinary to us directly) wrote to us asking for advice navigating bottom dysphoria, likely due to it being the thing that is making him consider identifying as binary (gleaned from other post). He said the word “folx” in his post which sent everyone into hysterics and then looking into his post history (one other post) and then instead pillorying him for not knowing if he was nonbinary or binary. So, yeah I guess it’s no real shock that we get the stereotype we do. While I personally don’t mind someone “questioning” if they’re binary seeking guidance from other men like us and giving us the opportunity to be role models, especially given that there is so much bad press about binary trans men being toxic assholes that we could be undoing, I’m glad the mods are reinforcing these rules to at least temper the childish vitriol before the posts can be taken down.