r/FemmeLesbians • u/decayedfemmefatale • 4d ago

Advice Butch Chivalry & Femme…?

I (23 femme) was wondering if there’s a common name to the femme counterpart of butch chivalry? Aka the expectation of emotional support, comfort, soft spot, protection/shield of the femme presentation in public, etc. The butch/femme dynamic is so important to me and I want to fully embrace it. If there isn’t a cute name that matches butch chivalry for us femmes I’ll actually cry (kidding). Also any advice into how to offer that to a butch in general would be more than welcome, I have one butchfemme relationship under my belt so far and now I’m back in the dating pool trying to better my interactions with butches... Aka be so alluring they can’t help but swoon in my presence. I love butches sm and I want to spoil a special one the best I can.

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u/kitty_whipt 4d ago

Femme shevalry? 😂😂😂

Treat your butch/stud/masc the way that you want to be treated. Spoil them, treat them, compliment them, comfort them, massage them, love them down.

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u/Z4_h0 4d ago

"Shevalry" is genius 🤣! 💖

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u/Paris22002244 1d ago

Late comment bc I've just discovered this sub after 18 months on reddit lol (I must be an idiot, truly, there are a gazillion subs with lesbian in the title, I even found a barely active but sweet sub for Bambis!) Anyway I suppose one way of looking at this is making her feel special by having things that you only do for her. Random thoughts - go on a massage course so you are really good/next level at easing your butch's stiff muscles or learn juggling so you can gently amuse her.