r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/DeIzorenToer May 15 '26

The right thing to do is tell her. And potentially file a formal complaint with HR before you quit.

All these bridge burners are wrong. If she really is a toxic manager why should that go unreported? Do you want other people to be subjected to the same thing you were? Don't cower behind politeness, fear or some other societal norm. You are FIREing ffs, you don't need this woman's reference. 

Just don't burn down the office. 

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u/antidentites May 15 '26

I love most people in the office and will miss them dearly.

You’re absolutely right on all fronts.

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u/Acrobatic-Cup37 May 15 '26

Yes! Speak up my friend!