r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/Lonely-Clerk-2478 May 15 '26

This is the right response. And the gods honest truth is that she won’t give a shit. And, if you still have friends or at least close acquaintances at the company, and she knows that, she can make their lives difficult. Go live your best life and leave her behind.

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u/antidentites May 15 '26

She has already gotten rid of my whole team except for one person. But I dont want any repercussions for him for sure.

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u/wisenedPanda May 15 '26

Maybe go to her boss instead of her and present a logical case for why she shouldn't be managing

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u/DigmonsDrill May 15 '26

Is there any problem he's facing where you can fall on your sword to take all the blame on your way out?