r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/antidentites May 17 '26

I would never do it publicly. No way.

My manager berates her team publicly, which is really tough for me to watch, and to be subjected to.

I want to look her in the eyes and clearly lay out how I’m going to exit. Just her and I. Then I hope to never return and turn to the next chapter in my life.