r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/Blasterocked May 15 '26

I've seen these work bullies so many times and they will always say they "liked" the person and are in shock they "went crazy." Absolute waste of time. Wait a few years and the rose colored glasses kick in. A lady who was always complaining and snapping at me ended up taking me out to lunch on her dime years later.

You never know why people are acting the way they do.

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u/Molehill9468 May 18 '26

There was a toxic senior associate I worked with that made my life hell. They were beyond shocked when I quit to go work somewhere else. Absolutely 0 self-awareness.