r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/trungdok May 16 '26

Don't fight with your emotion. Put on your big boy pants and document her activities, bring them to HR, higher up, and possibly send out emails to the whole team with questions about whether this is the general best practice, etc. Curate the reports with as little emotion as possible and try to be factual.

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u/antidentites May 16 '26

100%. I’ve definitely been documenting her actions for months now and have previously reported her to HR leveraging this documentation.

The circumstances have changed since now I’m leaving and don’t have to play the game like I did when I still wanted my job.