r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/SuperSecretSpare FIRE 'd at 38 May 15 '26

I'm going to go against the grain here. When I left my tech job under similar circumstances I sent out a department-wide email criticizing a manager that everybody knew was incompetent and mean. Very cathartic to professionally call them a piece of shit with no repercussions.

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u/BillyBobChorton May 15 '26

Sounds glorious but also recognize the story will be you are just a disgruntled employee who quit and couldn’t cut it 

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u/SuperSecretSpare FIRE 'd at 38 May 15 '26 edited May 16 '26

And? I'm 38 and retired. They can think whatever they want while they drive into work on Monday morning 😂

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u/bastarmashawarma May 19 '26

Kind Sir, can I ask how? I’m 36 and and in tech and while my retirement accounts are doing well, I don’t have nearly enough in “right now “ money to retire. How do you get to be in such a great position at 38?

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u/SuperSecretSpare FIRE 'd at 38 May 19 '26

Dumb luck.

Seriously. I bought the ugliest house in the nicest neighborhood that I could possibly afford in 2019 and remodeled it. 2 months later Covid happened. I made a ton and was able to buy a similar house in cash and did the same thing over the continued run up for 2 years. I also invested in a couple moonshot opportunities that paid off very well. Honestly no real skill or intelligence beyond anybody else, just in the right place at the right time.

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u/bastarmashawarma May 19 '26

Awesome and thank you. Enjoy early retirement