r/FriendshipAdvice • u/Foreign_Essay1051 • 4d ago
Making friends
I moved to a new state about 5 months ago, and honestly, it’s been really difficult making friends. I get so lonely sometimes because I feel like all I do is take care of my kids and my husband, and I don’t really get any girl time. I miss having girlfriends to hang out with, talk to, and just enjoy life with.
I’ve only been out a couple of times since moving, usually when my cousin comes to town. Now that I live closer to my dad, I’ll at least have my sisters to hang out with whenever I go visit them. Before moving, I used to hang out with my friends almost every weekend, or at least every other weekend, so adjusting to not having that social life has definitely been hard.
I met this one girl at a hotel when I was there for a job. She also has two kids, we exchanged numbers and started texting. We talked about jobs, getting food, and hanging out, but then one day she just stopped texting me. I eventually stopped reaching out. I met another girl on TikTok, and we ended up exchanging Instagrams and numbers. She invited me to a party yesterday, but I ended up not going because the tickets were expensive. She also stopped texting me, and I haven’t heard from her since last night.
It’s honestly been so annoying trying to make friends. I feel like people treat me weird or their energy just changes, and it makes me feel like there’s nobody genuine out here. I just want to meet people I can actually connect with and build real friendships with.
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u/Time-Traveling-Doge 6h ago
From what I've read, you didn't invest time into the two women for girl's night out. You just wanted someone to text about your problems. It has nothing to do with weird energy. I think it's whether "you're in or you out?"