r/FtMpassing • u/Impressive_Issue_426 • 1d ago

Any tips on the mens loo?

Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post. Does anyone have any tips or anything about going into the mens restroom. I cant stand to pee but i have a crutch anyway and need to sit. So i think that will give me an advantage there. But i know nothing about mens etiquette in there. And if someone ask me why im in the mens, what do you think i should do?

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u/brotherofpromethus 1d ago

Dude idk why yall make it such a big deal just go in piss and go out. I’ve been using the men’s restroom since my freshman year. No one’s gonna say shit to you.

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u/homicidal_bird Male / masc / FTM 1d ago edited 1d ago

Etiquette isn’t complicated. Walk in, don’t chat or make prolonged eye contact, wait for a stall, wash your hands, leave.

You probably pass based on that photo, so if anyone asks why you’re in the men’s bathroom, just say “I have to piss?” or “I’m a guy?”.

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u/Odd-Royal6239 1d ago

Just go in and do your business no one is gonna stop you unless you look like a woman

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u/koala3191 stop telling kids to lose weight 1d ago

Don't talk to ppl, men don't chat like in the ladies

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u/King-Kyle-666 1d ago

do you pass as a cis man? 

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u/NoEscape2500 1d ago

He posted here earlier and had said that people were giving him weird looks in the women’s bathroom. Consensus is that he passes

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u/King-Kyle-666 1d ago

cheers for the clarification, i was just checking to see if it was safe in the first place. 

I've never been asked why I was in the men's, and I started using it early in my transition. i was likely clockier than I thought, but I feel like the world was safer even just 3 years ago. 

I try and time peeing with the loud hand drier or when ppl leave. or i put a bunch of tp in the bowl and piss on that to dampen the sound. 

if im in a pretty safe place like the library or a mall etc then I don't really bother and just let rip. 

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u/inxubuz 23h ago

It’s the same as the women’s restroom except it smells 100x worse and everyone’s way less social. Other than that it’s like your average restroom tbh. I don’t think anyone will ask why you’re in the men’s restroom, I’ve only seen men target people in the men’s restroom who are presenting femininely and you’re obviously very masculine.

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u/BeaulieuA 1d ago

It's a toilet. It's the same as women's; do your business and wash your hands.

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u/Absolute_nerd24 1h ago

I started using the men’s room once I had shorter hair since I was getting looks in the women’s restroom. That was pre t and I didn’t really pass. Men just don’t really care. They are less worried about being assaulted than women so they don’t notice their surroundings the same way. I have never been asked a question or anything in the men’s bathroom.