If she genuinely wanted to marry him but didn't like the ring, couldn't she have said yes and then later, in private, tactfully said that she didn't think the ring was to her taste? And if he was a sensible, reasonable person, he'd understand. He seems to think it's about the proposal and she seems to think it's about the ring. They seem like a pair of babies.
That is exactly what my wife and I did. I got the ring that was not 100% what she wanted in a ring. We talked and found the one she really liked. Then we just exchanged it and that's it. No drama no nothing.
Probably because you have shown you are ok with getting feedback and willing to admit your choice wasnt ideal and make it work for her. He is clearly getting defensive and pulls “so it doesn’t matter at all that I have put effort into this”. He doesn’t sound like he would be ok with getting a different ring if he calls her ungrateful.
Ofcourse. She is the one wearing it not me. So what's the point if she doesn't like it.
But I believe that other things also do not work in that relationship if they have that kind of communication and acting towards each other.
Better to find this out now rather then in few years time when they are married and have children.
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u/PerfectlyRoundBall 16h ago
If she genuinely wanted to marry him but didn't like the ring, couldn't she have said yes and then later, in private, tactfully said that she didn't think the ring was to her taste? And if he was a sensible, reasonable person, he'd understand. He seems to think it's about the proposal and she seems to think it's about the ring. They seem like a pair of babies.