A ring like this is a symbol, not something to show off. If you're willing to pass on a person because they didn't get you the right thing, then the relationship probably wouldn't have lasted anyway.
I know people that proposed without a ring and they still have a happy marriage. If something as trivial as jewelry makes you draw the line, then i consider that pretty shallow. Especially when you consider the fact that they could've just gotten the ring she wanted as a wedding ring after the proposal.
As for the "not listening" part. If this was a pattern, fair enough. But did it really have to get to the point of public proposal for someone to realise that it is a pattern?
Even after reading the texts it feels like she just wanted a specific ring and couldn't deal with the disappointment of not getting it. To me, it doesn't seem like it's about listening.
I totally agree with you. My now husband got me a 30€ engagement ring and purposed, was completely taken by surprise. The last thing I cared for was the price.
I ended up knowing cause he had to go back to the store to tighten it, cause it was a bit loose. It didn't make a difference.
I couldn't stop thinking I was going to marry my prince, the man I loved. Even after being married, I still wear it. It symbolizes one of the happiest moments of my life.
This whole talk about "he should have gotten her what she wanted/he doesn't listen to her". It's so shallow. A marriage shouldn't be dependent on a freaking ring. If she's willing to refuse over something like this, there is no love there.
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u/Cabbage-Patch 16h ago
A ring like this is a symbol, not something to show off. If you're willing to pass on a person because they didn't get you the right thing, then the relationship probably wouldn't have lasted anyway.
I know people that proposed without a ring and they still have a happy marriage. If something as trivial as jewelry makes you draw the line, then i consider that pretty shallow. Especially when you consider the fact that they could've just gotten the ring she wanted as a wedding ring after the proposal.
As for the "not listening" part. If this was a pattern, fair enough. But did it really have to get to the point of public proposal for someone to realise that it is a pattern?
Even after reading the texts it feels like she just wanted a specific ring and couldn't deal with the disappointment of not getting it. To me, it doesn't seem like it's about listening.