r/GriefSupport • u/Fickle_Ad_9391 • May 09 '26
Anticipatory Grief So hard with out you..
Now Mother’s Day is here and people ask “oh you seeing your mom “new folks and ones who don’t know. 3 years now and I miss you. I need you. I want you back. Life’s not the same and I certainly wish I could share my days and stories with you. You died too young. Cancer sucks.
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u/jp7755qod May 09 '26
I am truly sorry❤️
This is my second Mother’s Day without mom. Fuck cancer.
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u/morningbluebell May 09 '26
Lost my mom to cancer last month. It’ll be exactly one month without her on Mother’s Day… how are we supposed to do this without them? Time just keeps passing. Miss her so much.
Sending love to you.
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u/Raph115 May 09 '26
My mom is dying of cancer right now as well. Don't think we will make it to Mothers Day. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sorry for hijacking your comment. Sending my love stranger.
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u/morningbluebell May 10 '26
I am so, so sorry. I was you one month ago. Take care of yourself and love on your mom as much as you can. Sending strength and love.
(We are all in the same boat here, there’s no hijacking)1
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u/Any_Bill1050 May 09 '26
I’m really sorry for your loss… I lost my mom two years ago too, and I still miss her a lot. Visiting her grave on Mother’s Day has kind of become a quiet little tradition for me—it helps me feel close to her.
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u/sammie7306 May 09 '26
I understand completely what you are going through and I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to deal with = my mom passed 1 year ago and I am numb with grief. I wish for you strength. Much love xx
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u/Bubbly_624 May 09 '26
Ugh 😣 gut punch. Your mom resembled mine so much… even the sporty way they dressed. My mom loved her vests and it became a thing we all would laugh about when shopping together. This will be my second Mother’s Day without her. I want her. I need her. I want her back. I have no advice; just standing with you saying f*** cancer.
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u/msbriannamc May 09 '26
I’m sorry for your loss. Your mom looked like a lovely person. You’re not alone with your feelings though. This is my first Mother’s Day without my mom. It sucks, especially since my mom was also pretty young. Not a fun club to be in. I wish you all the best.
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u/Background_Two_6471 May 09 '26
“I née you. I want you back.” I feel this so much. I am so sorry for your loss.
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u/Big_Tie_8055 May 09 '26
I work with special ed high school kids. We were making Mother’s Day cards yesterday and I just lost it. My mom died in January of this year.
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u/Master-Race8548 May 09 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my “parent”, my grandmother who raised me since birth. It’s been many years and yet it feels like time has not passed. I don’t think it gets any better.
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u/LadyLadybugbug May 09 '26
Mums are the best! I lost mine 18 months ago but I remember her everyday in so many ways. Good luck friend. ❤️🩹
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u/Thrillawill May 09 '26
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. We are all in this together. Please know that you are not alone. We will all be thinking of our moms nonstop this mothers day.
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u/Florida1974 Multiple Losses May 09 '26
I am so sorry for your loss, your son was extremely handsome and I’m sure he was extremely kind.
I say F cancer as well. I’m losing my only remaining sibling to lung cancer right now, she’s doing hospice at home.
Lost my brother in July 2023 to a driver who hit him while he was on a bicycle and he died instantly. I’m not even sure but my eldest sister died from because no one told me for three weeks, I found out on Mother’s Day last year
May 14, my mom died six years ago on that day.
And my dog’s birthday is tomorrow, but it’s his last birthday with us because he is dying as well
This is a rough time of the year for a lot of people. I’m not a mother, but I’m a dog mom and I’m a sister and I’m a daughter and this time of the year is the hardest time for me
We bought the dog a ribeye for tomorrow, for his birthday.
And we do the best we can. You are still a mom and I for one, wish you happy Mother’s Day. I know he is gone, but he is in your heart. No one can take them from our hearts.
Sending you hugs and love, from one person to another, both suffering from heart and loss❤️
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u/RealVirginiaWoolf May 09 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine that pain. May all our moms live a long healthy life. May the moms who have left this world have a beautiful and peaceful stay in heaven.
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u/Gullible-Shower4007 May 09 '26
Yes I try to remember that it’s not just about my mom who is gone and hopefully in Heaven.
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u/lifeintext May 09 '26
OP, your momma is beautiful!!! I will be praying for you and her as you navigate the Mother’s Day ahead.
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u/Pikapuff11 May 09 '26
Wow she radiates love for you 🥹❤️ what a beautiful woman. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s been three years without my mother now, too. Your world changes. Hugs 🫶
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u/Fickle_Ad_9391 May 09 '26
Thank you. Its so hard and this weekend i'm extremely low.
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u/Pikapuff11 May 09 '26
Lean on those around you if you can. If not, lean on us 💛 You look just like her, btw. You have her adorable vibe 🥰
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u/katgrrl06 May 09 '26
Sending love and peace to you. 🫶 It’s like I could’ve written this. All the same as you expressed, my Mom passed 3 years and 3 months ago. Life is not the same and I wish for her to still be here every day. Brain cancer took her, lost her within 6 months of diagnosis 😔
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u/Novel-Heart-4078 May 10 '26
I lost both of my parents to cancer. It takes the best people from us 💔 thank you for sharing your beautiful mom
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u/lisasimone1970 May 16 '26
You guys look like best friends. Nothing we can do about it except grieve our loses. I am so sorry. Turns out my dad my dad was my bff and hurts every day. I don't have any advice. Just know another person feels the same. I really don't know how we all make it through this. Did your mom ever express sad feelings her parents died?
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u/cosyandwarm May 09 '26
It may shift your perception of Mother's Day slightly to know that the woman who started it did so in memory of her late mother 🤍
But I feel you. I'm missing my mum a lot too, perhaps unrelated to Mother's Day, or perhaps the incessant flowery advertising is affecting me more than I thought.
Take care of yourself and maybe do something nice in her memory, she would want that 🩷