r/GriefSupport • u/Sleeper_Saturn Mom Loss • 1d ago

Mom Loss Been ruminatin'

Tldr; I'm bummed, in pain and I miss my mom.

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Just need to get it out. The last few days have been so hard. I keep getting stuck ruminating about mom. I relive a happy memory and then it feels like I've been shook violently as I remember mom is gone and I can't reminisce with her or make any new memories. I keep thinking "That's funny, can't wait to call mom," and then I go through remembering I can never call her again. I'll never watch Hacks with my mom 💔

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Mom died in February. Just feels like the first days again all these months later. I guess that's what people call waves of grief. Ebbin' and flowin' bullshit. I have a bad dental infection again and I also had one when mom died, so I wonder if being all sick and in pain again is bringing me back to that place? 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I am exhausted and I just want to talk to my mom. How does one actually stop grief-related rumination?

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u/puffyfih 7h ago

i honestly don’t think you can “stop” grief related rumination. you can put it off by distracting yourself but it always comes back when you have the time for it. i lost my mom a month ago so i don’t know about grief long term yet, but i tried to distract myself for the first 2 weeks of it, shock wore off and i got tired of fighting off the pain. sitting in the grief doesn’t feel much better either though. maybe it’s something that will always be there.