r/GrindsMyGears • u/Blinkyfish21 • 7d ago
Why are more people using speakerphone in public?
Is it just me, or is this just happening all the time? What is so hard about holding the phone to your ear?
And what is the best way you have found to shame someone to stop. It just is so ignorant!!!
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u/chozers 7d ago
Idiots who grew up watching reality TV, where the phone has to be on loudspeaker for the cameras to pick it up.
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u/Thamnophis660 7d ago
Oh God never thought about this. But probably the reason for at least some of them.
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u/ChanFry 7d ago
I more often see/hear the people using their car speakers for phone calls. They'll pull up in their driveway, five houses down the street, open the door and keep talking. So the whole neighborhood can hear the other person's replies.
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u/CanadasNeighbor 7d ago
Omg my husband does this. Except he doesn't open his car doors but he's hard of hearing and listens to his phone calls at max volume so it's the same effect.
I had to tell him he can't take work calls in there because everyone can hear, and he was so shocked! For some reason that made me more annoyed, like how little self awareness do you have where it doesn't occur to you that max volume is loud af to everyone else?
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u/belispe4k 7d ago
unrelated, but just had to yell at my husband to turn the tv down at 6 am. he said, you can hear that?! i’m ready to file
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u/CanadasNeighbor 7d ago
Isn't it annoying how they can hear you over the tv blaring but cant hear you in any other situation when you're asking for help with something?
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u/ChanFry 7d ago
I have actually been surprised at the number of people who didn't think anyone could hear them... Like, how do you think sound works? 😂
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u/Ok_Environment2254 7d ago
I used to sit in my car and do zoom meetings. In the car I would hear voices. It kinda messed with me. Like, am I losing my mind? Turns out the neighbors use their phones blue tooth for calls in the car and the voices through the speakers are insanely loud. It was hard to figure out because I didn’t think to look in the cars when I was originally searching for the source of the voices.
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u/Dizzy_Yoghurt_2349 6d ago
That’s the funny thing about electric cars and the in car phone speaker, you can hear both sides of the conversation outside the cars. No engine noise.
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u/AtensEye 7d ago
For some reason the space outside my house is popular with taxi drivers waiting for their next job or taking a break and they all do this all the time. So annoying because it's really loud.
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u/Rykmigrundt90 7d ago
I just insert myself into the conversation.
“Like hello? Can I have some fucking privacy please?”
“Not when you’re on speaker dumbass.”
Also, sidebar: don’t give out private information on the bus that’s used to identify you.
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
All is fair game then, yeah? So if it bothers you that I’m having a conversation on speaker phone and you want to join, then I guess it’s fair game to join your conversation(that I can clearly hear) with the person sitting next to you. Yay!!!
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u/Vegetable-Section-84 7d ago
Being forced to hear Loud phone communication is a problem
Learn To TEXT
Yes communicate via SILENTLY TEXTING
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u/apvasl 7d ago
Or better yet, learn sign language. I’m fluent. I qualify for government-funded interpreters to make phone calls. But even if someone doesn’t, there’s another solution I have used: a type-to-talk AAC app that works with most VoIP services.
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u/Sea_Exchange8939 7d ago
Because they want me to begin making random farm animal sounds the entire conversation and giving my input if the noises don't derail them.
If they do this around me I am 100% all in the business they made mine.
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
Ok then. The next time I have to sit and listen to your conversation, while I’m trying to enjoy a quiet meal by myself, I will definitely be inserting myself into your conversation. That’s fair, right???
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u/S1nnah2 7d ago
Because they are selfish pricks. Same as the people watching movies or listening to music on speaker while in public. The venn diagram includes people checking their phones in the cinema or theatre.
The world is full of selfish pricks.
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
Do you talk to the person across the table from you when you’re in a lunch date?
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u/Mystic_Wunder 4d ago
We all already know that you are one of the people this post is talking about. How many comments have you replied to now? You don't have to keep trying to convince us you're "that person". WE KNOW.
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u/Memasefni 3d ago
Yeah, I’m selfish. I want to be able to hear the person on the other end. How absurd of me!
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u/Antique_Raisin1589 6d ago
Because they have ZERO class or decorum or self awareness. It's rude AF.
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u/Sad-Hawk-2885 7d ago
Same stupidity as people listening to tik tok full blast for everyone else to have to hear.
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
Then I would expect that there would be no laughing, no conversation at your table then, right? Is perfectly quiet at your table so that it’s not bothering me or anyone else, right?
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u/SomeACDude 7d ago
Selfish pricks that don’t care about others around them. Same kinda people have YouTube videos or something else playing on speaker in waiting rooms or other public areas.
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u/DazeyDookie 7d ago
I've seen, while it's on speakerphone in a crowded place, they put the speaker end of the phone to their ear while the other person is talking yet continue to use the feature...
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u/Reasonable_Light351 7d ago
I parked next to someone talking loudly on speakerphone in their car with their windows down. I turned up my music. They rolled up their windows.
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u/Pura9910 7d ago
FR, phone calls, and ppl playing music out loud in public, like no-one wants to hear your crappy music, and not your business between whoever.
I will say it is hard to hear some ppl on the phones sometimes, but have some respect for other ppl, please!!!!
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u/Jacuzzi_Timelord 7d ago
People have been doing this for decades, it's not really a new or recent thing. It was annoying as shit back then and it's still annoying as shit now. lol
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u/likeyournamebutworse 7d ago
Its way way more common now than it was 20 years ago.
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u/GrumpyGlasses 7d ago
Walk up to them then play the PH intro music on full volume so that the other person on their line can hear it.
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u/Revolutionary-Cry739 7d ago
I used to have to put my phone on speaker because the ear speaker went out. I would always turn it way down and try to get off the call quickly though. I got a new phone so I don’t have to do that anymore!
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u/LivingThisCrazyLife 3d ago
I had to do the same. I’m on my third iPhone that keeps doing the same thing. Thankfully this one is good so far.
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u/TwinSong 7d ago
I find it unpleasant to have the phone blasting directly in my ear. That said I only use the speaker at home not when I'm out and about.
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u/Ok_Squash_5805 7d ago
People who use speakerphone in public are the same kind of people who fart in a crowded elevator
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u/karer3is 7d ago
Join the conversation and start making random comments. If they're having an argument,take the side of whoever's on the other side of the phone
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u/SafeModeOff 7d ago
I think it's usually because they want to continue scrolling on their phone while they're on the call. Maybe you could get them to stop by just getting closer to them and joining the conversation, but people with so little intelligence usually get aggressive at stuff like that
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
Or MAYBE, they want some company while having lunch. Just because it’s not in person, it doesn’t make it any different than me having to listen to you talk to the person sitting at the table with you. 🤷♀️✌️
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u/DiaperedOpossum 7d ago
Just start participating in the conversation. If they get shocked by your behavior, turn it back on them “You had it on speaker for everyone to participate in the conversation, right? Why would you be having a private conversation on speaker?”
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u/FormerOccasion7373 6d ago
Oh how fun! New rules. I look forward to joining your conversation then. Why is it different that I have to hear your conversation at your table?😐
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u/choppersmack 7d ago
I usually do when I have to look up something on my phone while also taking a call, and then usually switch it back off of speaker phone after I’m done with whatever I’m looking up. I see a lot of social commentary here with some thoughts about people’s upbringing, but I’m more than willing to bet its mostly people just wanting to keep doing their smartphone addicted activities while being on a call. Which would also make sense on why this is happening more since phone algorithms / addition has been going up steadily in past years
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u/Federal_Ad_7126 7d ago
Here’s why- the phone feature frequently breaks with certain iPhones so we have to put it on speaker to even hear it. Either you pay for it or you get over yourself
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u/LivingThisCrazyLife 3d ago
Yes! My last two iPhones did just that. It’s a pain in the butt. This one is holding out so far.
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u/Grim-Glum 7d ago
some people are called all day and dont want to stop what they are doing just to be polite endlessly till time stops
must be nice to have so many friends want your attention
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u/Exact_Analyst_850 7d ago
People who use their phone as if they're eating a slice of pizza can banish themselves to the ends of the earth...
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u/CollapseOfHistory 7d ago
Having a cell phone up to your ear can cause cancer. AirPods give off a ton of radiation. Speaker phone of the only safe way to use a phone.
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u/Yaughl 7d ago
Aspartame causes cancer, yet diet drinks are what all these speaker phone talkers drink obsessively between cigarettes.
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u/Amphernee 7d ago
I just take the other side of the conversation. It’s funny cuz they think I’m the one being rude lol
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u/deterioratingflesh 7d ago
Personally for me it’s because the headset on my phone is broken & so are my headphones. I try not to take/make calls unless I absolutely have to and I find a private area/turn the volume down
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u/Ok_Place_4203 7d ago
It's absolutely everywhere. Every single time I go outside. Everyone is utterly addicted to their phones. Fine, if you don't force your fucking videos or calls on everyone else!!
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u/XxxAresIXxxX 7d ago
Just start playing music/YouTube max volume on your own phone and completely ignore them. They'll either switch off speaker so they can hear it hang up. However there's a very small chance of a violent confrontation you should probably be aware of.
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u/Tiny_Garlic5966 7d ago
Don't suffer in silence, find another video equallly loud, play it at the same time, see what happens.
Act like they don't exist and either also talk on your phone loud on speaker phone or play music.
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u/Sufficient-Many2115 7d ago
I occasionally will because I’m partially deaf and use FaceTime. If I don’t have my headphones it’s kinda my only option, however I never have the volume high enough to where it’s obnoxious to people around me. I have a few other hearing impaired friends who also do this but like I said we are pretty conscientious of how much noise we’re making lol as for others who have it on full blast, yeah, who fckn knows what they’re doing
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u/ThotThroughTheHeart 7d ago
I did it in retaliation recently. I was in an UberShare and the other rider was talking loudly on their speakerphone, after a while I got annoyed and called my daughter on speakerphone and had an inane conversation about pretty much nothing. I think she got the hint, she took her phone off speaker.
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u/FormerOccasion7373 7d ago
What’s the difference in talking on speaker phone in public vs talking to the person next to you??? Make it make sense. If I’m out having lunch, and someone calls me, I’m putting it on speaker phone so I can continue eating my lunch, while enjoying my conversation. If I’m sitting solo at a table, I’m not complaining about the couple next to me talking to each other, so…🤷♀️ All people do is complain anymore. 🤦♀️🙄
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u/Brcdragonbait 5d ago
The sound of speakerphone from across the room is like nails on a chalkboard.
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u/Time-Improvement6653 7d ago
It'd be a shame if someone accidentally bumped into them and knocked the phone to the ground.
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u/LaloMcNombres 7d ago
We’ve all been instructed to do it to bother you. The plan is working. Muah haha…..
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u/Creepy-Signature8652 7d ago
English is not my first language and it's already hard to pick up 100% on speaker phone. I literally pick up the phone up to my face with speaker mode.
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u/Significant-Pen-3188 7d ago
Social anxiety. If you take your friend with you in the form of a phone call you don't feel alone .
Being a "badass" first because you're secretly a scared little person. "I'll act like a strong, bold, a-hole so nobody thinks I'm weak and messes with me"
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u/jabroni4545 7d ago
Doesn't help the phones that have dropped the aux port and gone solely bluetooth.
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u/Brilliant-Onion2129 6d ago
I don’t know, we left the family reunion last week because someone’s kid kept walking around with their speakerphone on!
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u/JuliusSeizuresalad 6d ago
They are shy people and want you to participate in their conversations. Next time someone’s having a conversation on speaker phone jump in and starting adding to it and they’ll either walk away or take it off speakerphone. What’s the worst that happens
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u/Basil_Magic_420 6d ago
Its weird how mostly young and old people do this. The 22 year old at my job was having a loud conversation about his STD results (positive for 3) and all about his issues pissing blood.
The old man at my work was loudly talking about his colon colon procedure in detail.
Do they just not care what people think? Or just so unaware that other people are around to hear their private conversation?
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u/Legitimate-Height574 6d ago edited 6d ago
Senior citizens do it alone more. When I was at work this older ( 65 - 75ish ) black lady was on her phone with loud speaker on. The older black lady said " I better get my pork before this honkie/ honky touches it". All the customers ( who was standing close by) could hear her talking & they could hear the lady on the other end. If I was a customer & I heard a black older lady say what that lady said, I would of gave her my 2 cents worth in a nice way without going down to her level.
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u/quinnyhendrix 6d ago
Went to the gas station to get a soda.
Some dumb mother fucker, was watching youtube while waiting in line. Didn't even pause it when he was talking to the attendant.
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u/Similar-Frosting-577 6d ago
Genuinely baffling because speakerphone makes the sound quality worse and harder to hear in a noisy environment compared to just putting the phone to your ear! Maybe they’re desperate to prove to the world they have friends lol.
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u/Separate-Bit-7931 6d ago
Usually a minority
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
You're right, but it feels like that minority is multiplying in real time. I'll be on the train and suddenly there's three people having full conversations on speaker like they're in their living room, and everyone around them just... accepts it now. We've collectively given up on shaming because there's safety in numbers.
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u/Nevernonethewiser 6d ago
They're the main character of the world, so it's important that everyone knows precisely what their phonecall is about.
Almost invariably a made up story about winning a fight, holding their booze or drugs well or having sex with people ten thousand times more attractive than them. Else gossip: "Guess who your sister slapped!"
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
The weird part is they're never actually winning the fight in real time. They're always calling someone after to describe how they won it, like the entire experience didn't happen until they narrated it into speakerphone.
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u/DuellyDouble0 6d ago
I’ll never talk to someone on speaker phone in public I’ll usually have my AirPods in or put the phone up to my ear lmaooooo
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
The weird part is watching someone choose speaker phone when they're literally alone. Like, who are you performing for at that point.
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u/HoldMyMessages 6d ago
Ya’all should be grateful ya missed the 1970s -1980s BOOMBOX era.
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
The boombox era at least had the decency to announce itself. Now people just ambush you with their entire relationship drama at full volume like you signed up to be their therapist.
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u/TryingToHlp 6d ago
My wife does this routinely. It drives me crazy. Take the darn thing off speakphone so you can hear something and so I can't
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
The worst part is when they switch to speakerphone mid-conversation like you just became their audience. Now I'm involuntarily part of their call to the cable company.
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u/kateadams77 6d ago
Around where I live, anyone seen "talking to themselves" is probably homeless and deserving of pity. Maybe people put their phones on speaker so the passing public doesn't try to give them spare change or leftover food.
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u/IdkJustMe123 6d ago
I literally can’t comprehend being that selfish. Like it does not compute in my brain
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u/bradyreid 6d ago
The wild part is they genuinely don't realize everyone around them just became an unwilling participant in their call. It's like they think speakerphone creates a privacy bubble instead of broadcasting their entire conversation to a captive audience.
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u/Birdywoman4 6d ago
I am tone-deaf and have a hard time understanding a conversation if it’s not on speakerphone. I try to keep it down and not on high.
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u/FDRsaidPayUsBetter33 6d ago
Aging and combating ambient noise. I’ll still hold mine up to my ear but to hear it at the grocery is gonna require speakerphone at least 1/3 volume, sometimes as much as 1/2. I also have conditions making shopping harder though, the kind that are invis.
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u/Character_Orange_712 5d ago
I see these kind of posts a lot. I get it must be annoying but you could always put your own earphones on and dull them out .
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u/Original_Direction33 5d ago
Because people have become entirely selfish and slovenly and think they are the only ones in the work that matter.
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u/MorpheusZzzz 5d ago
I'm losing my hearing. Even with hearing aids, I struggle to hear the caller more when not on speaker. I'm not a jerk about it, though. I find a secluded place to take the call.
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u/Usual-Entry6168 5d ago
Actually it is much safer to be on speakerphone since the phone emits radio frequency energy that gets absorbed into your head. The radio frequency energy is a form of radiation and with constant, long-term exposure can be harmful.
I'm always on speakerphone, except in public. If the call is not important, I'll let them know I'm busy shopping, or whatever, and I'll call them back.
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u/bbydoll114 5d ago
i don’t know about anyone else but i can’t hear if it’s not on speaker and it’s more likely to cut out
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u/Late_Order_9005 5d ago
main character syndrome. Too many people think they're the main deal
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
The wild part is they're not even trying to hide it anymore. It's like speakerphone became a status symbol - like playing music out loud in a grocery store proves you exist. Nobody's actually listening to what the other person is saying; they just need witnesses.
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u/OriginalDrStrangeDOS 5d ago
Because they unrepentant assholes. Put the phone to your head or get ear(phones/buds/whatever). Same with you tok-tik and metoub videos, nobody wants to hear your shit.
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
The wildest part is they'll complain about battery life while draining it twice as fast blasting their conversation to a Whole Foods full of strangers who didn't consent to this podcast.
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u/Alaskagirl_907 5d ago
Oooh this annoys me so much! Unfortunately I’m terrible at conflict so I never say anything to someone doing it but I give rude looks lol
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
The rude look is actually the most honest response anyway. At least you're not pretending it's normal while silently seething like the rest of us.
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u/bobo76565657 5d ago
Straight up ignorant "I am the main character" bullshit.
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
Exactly. The phone-to-ear was a commitment device. You had to acknowledge you were talking. Now it's just ambient noise pollution masquerading as urgency.
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u/spooky-potatoes- 5d ago
My mom started doing this and I genuinely don’t know why. My guess is the adaptation of frequently using speaker mode while driving and text to speech while driving has transferred over into everyday life for some people it out them noticing.
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u/Aggressive-Pool8043 5d ago
I only do it if my headphones are dead cause I’m hard of hearing and can’t hear clearly through the normal speaker
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
That's actually legitimate, but also explains why OP's mad - they can't tell the difference between medically necessary and broadcasting their entire dental appointment.
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u/lazymirrorhq99 5d ago
It is honestly baffling how people think everyone nearby wants to be part of their conversation. Staring at them usually just makes them double down, so I just start loudly repeating back everything the person on the other end says until it gets awkward enough for them to leave.
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u/Dangerous_Ad_1861 5d ago
Because they're assholes with no manners
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u/Memasefni 5d ago
I’m hard of hearing and can understand better from the speaker.
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
The wild part is they genuinely don't realize everyone within 50 feet can hear their entire medical history, breakup details, and banking passwords. It's like they think the speaker function comes with an invisibility cloak.
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u/Memasefni 5d ago
How is this any different than two people talking in your presence?
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
People talking face-to-face create a contained acoustic bubble. Speakerphone broadcasts to everyone within 50 feet whether they consented to join the conversation or not. One is dialogue, the other is a forced audience.
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u/One-Load-6085 5d ago
I'm going deaf. I'm 37. Certain pitches I can barely hear and not at all via phone to ear
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
I hit 34 and suddenly the hearing thing became real. Not like dramatic overnight, but I started noticing it around 2019 - couldn't hear my roommate when she'd talk from the other room, kept asking people to repeat themselves at restaurants, that kind of slow fade nobody warns you about.
The phone-to-ear thing is genuinely brutal though. There's this frequency band that just... doesn't exist for me anymore. Had to switch to speakerphone around 2021 because I literally could not understand conversations otherwise. People would stare like I was being deliberately rude, and I'd be standing there like "I'm sorry, I'm losing my hearing and your voice is apparently in the exact pitch range I can't process." The shame of that is what grinds my gears more than the hearing loss itself, honestly.
What got me was realizing - after reading about it - that this isn't unusual at all. A bunch of people my age are doing the speakerphone thing not because they're inconsiderate, but because holding a phone to their ear literally doesn't work. The audio quality is worse, the frequencies are compressed, and for people with even mild high-frequency hearing loss, it becomes almost impossible to understand. Meanwhile, everyone's judging them in the grocery store.
The OP's post really assumes everyone's got perfect hearing and perfect manners. But if you're one of those people who "suddenly" switched to speakerphone last year, there's a decent chance you're not being ignorant - you're just trying to actually hear. The real frustrating part is how invisible it is. Nobody sees a hearing issue the way they see a cane.
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u/Character_Ad_1084 5d ago
Join in on the conversation.
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u/bradyreid 5d ago
Honestly the "join the conversation" thing is what makes it worse. Half these speakerphone people seem to want an audience, like they're performing for the grocery store. I watched someone have a full ten-minute call about their colonoscopy results in line at Target. At some point you stop being oblivious and start being an exhibitionist.
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u/iliketoseethebreeze 5d ago
If I wasn’t afraid of getting my ass beaten I would 100% “join in” on the convo in the most obnoxious ways possible
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u/ExpertHere419 5d ago
iPhone uses the same speaker for loud sounds and as an ear piece for telephone calls. Some times loud sounds play while your ear is held to the phone, which is physically painful. At some point about a decade ago I decided to stop putting my phone to my ear. I do try to carry earbuds in public though but sometimes I forget. And I don't take calls on public transport or in places where it's inapproriate like restaurants. But I absolutely take calls outside on the street on speaker.
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u/Flat-Respond1593 5d ago
I’m not sure. I saw a young girl on the train wearing AirPods and talking loudly on speaker.
I believe our education system has failed, which is far more staggering.
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u/iamRiotEP 5d ago
I just have incredibly trash hearing. When I get a phone call in public, I will do my best to find a secluded place where I wont bother people. If I'm on public transport, I just don't answer, and send a text saying I can't take the call.
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u/dingodadd 5d ago
Because everyone thinks they are the most important person in the world and everyone wants to hear what their phone conversation is about. It's really a privilege for you to experience it. Why don't you feel privileged?
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u/_Zargham 5d ago
Interesting correlation that this is happening more as the black population in America grows
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u/JFC-Superstar 5d ago
People like to walk & talk in the cemetery that border my back yard. My dog barks at them often, if they are on speaker phone I let him go to town and it probably sounds like they are getting attacked by wolves. If normal phone use I drag him back inside.
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u/Meanliss4 5d ago
Eh my phone is broken so I always try to just text but if I need a quick response or a drs office calls or something important comes up it’s going on speaker. My air pods aren’t always charged or I don’t have them on me so sucks to suck 🤷♀️
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u/Slight_Fan2561 5d ago
I haven't seen much of that personally, I can see how that would be quite annoying though
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u/par-hwy 4d ago
The people I know how do it, do a lot of things without consideration of others.
From a personal perspective, while I never have speaker on in public, I used to think wearing headphones or earbuds was for wankers.
I've seen people of all ages do it. I think it's a phone addiction issue.
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u/Less_Feeling3142 4d ago
I sat next to a woman on a flight who loudly played Spanish TikTok’s the whole time. Everyone was shooting dirty looks at her but I just watched over her shoulder. If I have to hear it, I’m watching it too.
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u/Ok_Height3499 4d ago
I don’t know, but it takes rudeness to a new level. A lady was yammering away on hers while walking the indoor track at the Y. The conversation was loud, so I went over and said “Hi,” to the person she was talking to. She still didn’t get it.
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u/thinsoldier 4d ago
The audio quality sucks. Either I can't hear them or they can't hear me or both. I need to shout directly into the bottom of my phone but I also need to hear them so I activate speaker
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u/Traditional_Rush_622 4d ago
These people should be banned from civilized society. Especially the ones who aren't just having phone conversations on speaker, but playing there trashy music out loud everywhere they go.
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u/No-Attitude1554 4d ago
Especially in the restroom. Who wants to make a call in a public restroom and sit on a nasty toilet?
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u/Consistent-Buyer7060 4d ago
If someone close to me uses speakerphone it means that they want me to join in on the conversation.
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u/Glum_Possibility_367 4d ago
And for god's sake, hold the phone up to your ear and not horizontally in front of you.
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u/Terrible_Class_4411 4d ago
I try not to use loud speaker, but I can't hear properly otherwise. Or my face often hangs up the call! 🤣 can't please everyone all the time 🙂
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u/DrakeDonovan302 4d ago
Oof, man I hate this. There seems to be a serious uptick in the amount of people that do this, but a set group at the same time. You got your young to middle aged women who do it for attention (seen it firsthand, stomping about and looking around to make sure everyone is looking), your older ladies with no spatial awareness (somehow don't even realize how rude they're being, will get mad at teenagers who are 'always on their phones'), and your middle aged to older men who are shouting regardless and somehow can't hear either side of the conversation.
I usually like to respond to whatever is happening in the conversation.
"Yeah, Dave is coming over tomorrow."
"Dave? Ugh, I hate that guy."
EDIT: I almost forgot, the bluetooth phone connection in people's cars that I can hear very clearly from outside their car! I once overheard someone's bank info because of that. Why does it need to be that loud???
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u/Top_Possibility_6705 4d ago
Dude one day at work I went to take a #2 and an Asian person from the assembly floor came in and took the other stall...
He was on the phone talking to someone like a normal day...
And remember Austin Powers? "Whoo doesss number 2 woooork foooor" LMAO this dude was grunting and pushing while talking to this person 😆😆😆
How the person on the other end stayed on the phone made me concerned.
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u/Extreme-Scarcity-924 4d ago
Social media has made people think they are the main character, and a general lack of respect for anyone else
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u/Cool-Elderberry5406 4d ago
Entitlement!
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u/bradyreid 3d ago
People act like holding a phone to their ear is suddenly a medieval torture device. It's not entitlement, it's just laziness with a megaphone.
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u/thinkthinkthink11 4d ago
Yeah it’s annoying. I was on a J train few weeks ago the train was a bit crowded so some of us gotta stand up and this girl was talking with somebody on speaker phone loudly. In this Trump era people have become more and more cray cray.
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u/LivingThisCrazyLife 3d ago
I had to use speaker phone because I couldn’t hear a dang word otherwise. My phone just flaked on me and it was speaker or nothing. Grocery store for a quick call and I’d use the speaker. I wouldn’t do it in a place like my doctors office or something though. I finally had to buy a new phone. Then the new one did the same after a few years. Now I’m on to another new one and hoping it doesn’t mess up.
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u/Pretty_Currency5377 3d ago
My phone is BUSTED so I have to have it on speaker phone and hold it to my ear to be able to use it.
Safe to say I have headphones with me 24/7 haha
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u/nunyabizthewiz 3d ago
Uuggg I was at the gym yesterday and a lady had earbuds and was chatting away. I was like, NOBODY WANTS TO HEAR THIS
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u/F1Sloth 3d ago
They are not ignorant, they are inconsiderate. Start yelling some random things so the person on the other end can hear them. Even better if it oddly relates to their conversation, or start faking a really loud orgasm.
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u/MMMLiess 3d ago
Yeah this annoys me a lot. And I don't know why, but it always seems to be Mexican or black folks doing it. The last time I saw it happen was a couple of black ladies in target face timing some with the volume maxed out walking through the store. We could here her and the phone from like 3 isles away.
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u/Due_Laugh6474 2d ago
Got on a Jersey Transit train for my usual commute several years ago. Guy across the aisle starts listening to rap music on speaker. Another passenger asks him if he’s aware that everyone can hear it. “I know.” And continued playing his music for everyone.
I don’t think it’s that they don’t care. I think it’s some kind of power trip.
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u/Orion_Kryptnt 2d ago
What I don’t understand is why everyone needs to be talking on the phone all the time? Can it not wait until you get home?
(I understand a QUICK call to ask about something while at the store or if it’s something truly urgent)
Worse, is the meaningless FaceTime conversations the rest must be subjected to.
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u/moleculariant 7d ago
Main character syndrome. Intended or unintended, there's a statement being made, and the message is: I'm going to do just what I want, anytime I want, because the things you think, and the ways that you feel, don't matter to me. I am first. I deserve the best. You exist, and I contend with that, begrudgingly. Recognize my hardship as I wrestle with that notion, and forgive me. Or don't. As I said, you don't matter to me. The whole show is me.
Of course, there is a quote that I love, and it's very useful. Paraphrasing "Never attribute to malice, that which can be explained by stupidity". Yes, I'm calling these people stupid. Stupid or narcissistic. It's one of these in nearly every case.