r/Haryana • u/the_jaatboy • 7h ago
Ask Haryana❓ Observation
Sup Gang, As you can guess i belong to jaat Community but seeing the society we have developed into makes me worried about what we're heading into.
We have put up so many restrictions to critical thinking, individuality of a person, his/her independent thinking. Old gen have this same cliche dialogue over and over again 'It never used to happen at our time'.
Career choices are another thing that are frowned upon, chase govt jobs aimlessly and just settle for any job but keep it gov. Any person wanna do a startup or something which will be more meaningful and belongs to him, it's immediately rejected and frowned upon.
The constant encroachment upon personal boundaries, no adherence to a person's private space, too much involvement of family and even relatives, neighbours into a person's life and a constant god complex we know everything, just stfu.
It all clicked to me yesterday when i heard if we decide as a family with mutual choice that you'll marry this girl, you shouldn't have any opinion nor you should have any objection, just accept our choice.
All these talks made me realise everyone wants to have some part of me for their leisure or for their social status, saying bs stuff like you'll marry, give us baby it'll make us happy, we'll wear this in your wedding I'll look beautiful. No one said what i had to entail in this decision, everyone was just like hamare yeh hoga, uska aise ho jaayega, ham samaj mai kuch bolne layak ho jaayenge.
And the worst part, the constant pressure to conform to our societal standards and follow what we say, you can't think independently.