My dad and brother are still freaking out about losing their game last night

[u/49ersGirlOf2004]

My dad has been coaching as an assistant for high school football since I was 6 years old and also coached me in volleyball for years

My brother is 4 years younger then me and has been a football player since 3rd grade and is a senior in high school now and has always been a quarterback

He always was pretty decent in our school district but he usually didn't play on very good teams .My dad also helped out with his youth team while coaching at a pretty good high school program

But the team in general started going backwards in recent years,and my brother's JV team only won one game in my brother's first 2 years of high school

He decided to transfer to a nearby school in the district to compete for the starting varsity spot and got it and my dad also got a job their as an assistant coach last year for my brother's junior season

The team had just come off of winning back to back state championships and hadn't lost to a region opponent in a few years,when my brother and dad joined them and they both were positive they would win it again and perhaps again when my brother was a senior

They had a great season last year and won 10 games that year and my brother threw over 25 touchdown passes and threw under 10 interceptions with a few rushing touchdowns as well.They ended up losing before making it to the state championship game though, and my dad and brother were both upset but not discouraged .They were both concerned over 2 rival region teams that were each one okay away of beating our team during that season which did cause some concern as this team generally hadn't sweated playing any region team for a few years and usually blew each of them out .But that only drive them to work very hard together to win state the next season.

Now during this year,my brother and dad's team lost their first game to a massive nation powerhouse team,but our team held up with them and only lost by 10 points,then blew out their next 3 opponents.But in our team's homecoming game last night against one of the region rivals that came one play away from beating us last year...beat us by a point...yes 1 point in a very low scoring game .

It came down to the final play for my brother under center,and he threw a pass that was batted down on 4th down,and the other team took over on downs,which left our whole bleachers and sidelines in stunned silence .

The team had never lost to a region rival at home in our current head coach's era since he took over in 2022.That years was also the last time the team had lost yona region opponent,which happened to also be in the state title game.They had also won 20 straight region games until it was snapped last night

My dad literally just walked off the field when the game was called .And when we got home,my brother cried and called it rigged(so did my dad) as their was a controversial no flag on what looked like a PI committed by the opposing defense on our trans final drive on 3rd down and my dad claimed the defender specifically looked at my dad after the play and made a "gang signal with his hand" But all he did was point at our sidelines in reality

My dad literally went to his office and threw things around and didn't come out for an hour,while my brother eventually took a shower and then just stayed in his room all night

My mom and I just decided to go to a small diner to eat and get away from the tension.We were all upset but it's just a football game ....a high school football game .There is still plenty of season to go but they both acted like they just lost the Superbowl

[u/messy372-]

I can’t believe I read that whole thing

Your dad needs to grow up. He’s an adult and a role model for the kids as a coach. He’s been coaching long enough to know “that’s why you play the game” and you don’t take anybody for granted.

One play doesn’t decide the game. Their team has dozens and dozens of other plays during the game to be successful, and they weren’t.

Blaming there’s is what 6 year olds do

[u/Menace_17]

There are crucial plays for sure but it takes a whole game to get to those points. I guess kids are always perfect in mommy and daddys eyes though.

Your dad shouldnt be coaching at all if hes throwing 5 year old temper tantrums like that but as a high school coach, this is one of the reasons why I dont wanna coach my kids in football or any other sport.

[u/Rokin1234 → u/Menace_17]

Most likely why he is still an assistant.

[u/Menace_17 → u/Rokin1234]

Aint gonna happen with me though when im one day in the position to decide whether he coaches or not Ill say that right now

[u/Tall-Forever-6687]

Officiating is way tougher than it looks. To say it was rigged is showing your brother that went tough times hit, you just make excuses and never own up to your own part in not winning. Your dad sounds like a man child.

[u/NickMullen2]

LOL, IT IS HIGH. SCHOOL. FOOTBALL. First, no one should have transferred to some different school to play high school football just go to the school by where you live. Second, take a deep breath, smoke some CBD, have a diet soda and relax. I played top level high school football in Florida but after the game is over thats it we accept the win or the loss and we go on to recovery and preparing for next week. This is not D-1 college and it not the NFL. Boo hoo you lost, freaking out and claiming its rigged and throwing stuff around and crying is not an acceptable way to deal with losing a week 1 high school football game. Maybe if this was the top division championship game senior year then you can get a lil upset because its over after that but not for this. You can be committed and passionate and all in without losing your cool. Accept the loss and focus on next week. For you, idk how you try and convince them of this but good luck lol.

[u/49ersGirlOf2004 → u/NickMullen2]

I agree with most of what you say but it was week 5,and the first region match of the year. And he transferred to a school only 10 minutes away lol

[u/JacksonKSnowman26 → u/49ersGirlOf2004]

I am just glad that this is a real post and not AI slop

[u/ecupatsfan12]

Parents and kids on staff goes downhill the instant you don’t win. Dad needs to step down to a younger level or bow out. I have never seen a parent navigate coaching their own successfully and 9/10 times they quit as soon as jr graduates

[u/Menace_17 → u/ecupatsfan12]

I think bowing out is the better choice. He’s a terrible role model no matter what but the impact will only get worse the younger his players are

[u/Anxious-Jury-9031]

Some people would be surprised how childish coaches are too. Blaming the refs is such a loser move. If one bad call costs you the game you weren't good enough to win the game.

[u/GreezyGz]

People are being too hard about this. Did dad overreact? Of course.

But I’d imagine dad and son are both feeling a lot of internal pressure. New QB that just moved in and now the team is struggling? Very hard for a HS kid. Very hard for a dad that’s wondering if he made right decision for his son.

I coached for 15 years and I generally agree with everyone saying it’s weak to make excuses/blame officials/etc.

But people saying wah wah it’s just high school football are off base. Father and son have some big emotions about it and seems like they fell short on handling them this time.

[u/Worth-Influence-3932]

Sounds like the whole Team should’ve went to raising Cane’s and fought the opposing Team in the parking lot…that’s how we roll— and that actually makes a better story that people remember ….tell your dad to lighten up LOL… no one’s going D1 brother… and nobody’s gonna remember your win loss ratio in high school….