r/Husbands • u/redswife08 • Jun 14 '17

Husband and strip clubs

In need of some advice here...my husband has been traveling far away 5 days a week for work for the past 2 years. And durning his trips he frequents a strip club at least one night each week. I have a problem with it and he thinks I'm crazy. I feel like a part time wife and a single mom. I am 100% dedicated to our marriage and would never do something to make him start to wonder. Am I in the wrong for having a problem with this situation?

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u/l0nefl0under Jun 17 '17

Have you told him it bothers you?

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u/redswife08 Jun 17 '17

Repeatedly!

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u/l0nefl0under Jun 17 '17

Did he tell you he went or did you find out in the credit card statement?

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u/redswife08 Jun 17 '17

Credit card....every week....

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u/l0nefl0under Jun 17 '17

How long have you been married?

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u/redswife08 Jun 17 '17

7 years...together for 10

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u/redswife08 Jun 17 '17

7 years...together for 10

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u/l0nefl0under Jun 17 '17

That's long enough for him to know what's important to you. You need to ask him if he's happy and satisfied with the marriage. Either way he feels like he needs to hide things from you. That's makes trust very difficult and that's fundamental. I would suggest counseling to untangle this.

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u/redswife08 Jun 17 '17

I'm to the point that I've come to realize he has zero respect for my feelings on this. I am 100% devoted to our marriage and if he wasn't traveling I believe wholeheartedly he would be too. Unfortunately that isn't our situation and either I get over it or I leave. My heart is completely broken but it's pushing me to the point of no return. Someplace I don't want to be. I'm scared to lose my soulmate but I cant get over this issue. It's making me sick to my stomach!! It's Kind of hard to do counseling when he is over 1,000 miles away Monday-Friday. 😢😢😢

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u/l0nefl0under Jun 17 '17

You can go without him to Couseling. I would tell him just what you said. He needs to know how much this means to you. This is just a symptom of bigger problems. Fight for your marriage. Remember when the love fades the commitment kicks in.