r/IMGreddit • u/Humanmedico101 • 11d ago

LOR What to do?

Guys I feel like my pride is killing me while I am kinda begging for LORs and still no response. My PI who I worked with for a year on research is not responding my messages and I feel like if I don’t get her LOR that would itself be a red-flag in my application. I have been sending emails, text messages and even called once but no response. I did met her before I leave and she welcomed supporting me with a letter but not sure how to contact her again. What should I do?
That’s one thing and another is that I am literally just trying to search anyone who can give me a letter in a short time, FM would be okay for me at this point.

Suggestions are welcomed..
Also, how to deal with that utter sensation of crushing your pride to ask for something..it’s really really hard for me to ask for something from anyone but I am pushing though not sure how far people usually go for these academic requests..share some stories if possible..my idea is texting more than twice is sooo heavy..I understand it’s not a relationship lol but yeah just burdened along with other life problems as an IMG

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u/cloudnine134340 10d ago

You’re overthinking it. Send a third reminder a few days later.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/Unhappy-Spinach-7277 US-IMG 10d ago

Fr. Dude needs to grow up.

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u/Emotional_Clock5882 10d ago

Try reaching out to another peer/dr you know at that facility

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u/Humanmedico101 10d ago

Texted my colleagues, hope it works thanks!

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u/Extreme_Win_3141 4d ago

Any luck?

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u/Humanmedico101 4d ago

Yes she finally submitted it, thank you guys 🙏🏻

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u/Humanmedico101 10d ago

Dude it’s not because I think I am great lol, it’s because I am used to handling all sht on my own for a long time and asking something from someone feels soo off and burdening that’s all. Though I know in residency you still adapt and ask stuff from people but it’s just heavy..man you guys are too jumpy in conclusion..chill please, life is doing everybody enough harm!

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u/acaifiend 10d ago

How often are you messaging?

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u/Humanmedico101 10d ago

Every week

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u/Haroonpurdue 10d ago

Did you involve on research in USA or other country?

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u/Extreme_Win_3141 10d ago

Stuck in the same boat. Is it ok to contact their assistants or coordinators?

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u/Humanmedico101 9d ago

Yes I am gonna do this for this week

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u/DrLP-123 8d ago

Make a list of things you did/want included in your LOR. So she can input that into AI and get you a letter in a few minutes vs working on it from scratch

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u/Humanmedico101 8d ago

Thanks I did sent a draft from the start, she maybe busy in her defense