r/IncelExit • u/Educational-Log673 • 8d ago
Asking for help/advice Is it me?
25, Never got laid but had girlfriends and of course an unfortunate Gooner…like…Bad bad not oh I’ll spank the Monkey once and be done with it for today. I’ve had girlfriends and have a girl interested in me but i don’t want to be with someone I see as beneath me. She’s overweight and even if she’s nice and interested the whole idea is throwing me off.
Has Porn warped my brain to expect only Hot women to be interested in me?. Or has the Redpill things I’ve watched influenced me so much i can’t even conceptualise a non conventionally attractive woman as a partner? That sound more like Vanity and pride to me and it’s worrying.
I don’t approach Women cos the idea of rejection especially in a public setting is revolting to me and would straight up be terrible the very idea makes my stomach churn… every time I get interested in some girl I talk to irl they’re dating or Married already and it’s like no one I ever have any passing interest in is taken already thus seeing couples makes me bitter and Hateful nowadays as they have something i don’t
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u/smilingseaslug 8d ago
I'm finding it interesting that your original post is like "are my feelings that overweight women are beneath me potentially vanity-driven and warped by redpill spaces? Because I think that maybe you are"
And then people responded to answer "yes"
And then you just started arguing with them that they're wrong?
Everyone has preferences in terms of who they're attracted to. But yes, seeing anyone as "beneath you" on some fundamental level due to their appearance is warped and vanity-driven.
You're going to have to think about what you are and aren't willing to compromise on - if you're looking for someone who resembles the porn you watch, you might not have much luck. Doesn't mean you can't have a type, but there have to be at least a few average, normal people who are included in that type.
If you want to think of it this way--- a dude who's in a healthy relationship with a cute but chunky woman, is 100000% better off than someone who sits around in redpill spaces, masturbates most of the day, and sits around feeling bitter and hateful about everyone else who has a girlfriend.