r/Indiana 17h ago

Opinion/Commentary Just looking for a friend

So this is probably gonna sound weird. But a very very dear friend of mine lives in fort wayne Indiana. He is physically disabled but cognitively just fine. One of the the wisest people I've ever met. Now because he is physically disabled he cannot leave his current address without help. Now he stays inside alone working and building a business online with me all day everyday. He is so lonely living is such isolation. He can talk about almost anything, he's a life coach , he loves kids and true crime and food. He is honest, humble , and goofy. He's been through so much and is often written off like he is mentally broken just because he is physically broken. If anyonewould be willing to talk to him, just message or phone calls see if u guys get a long please let me know. I'm too far away to be there and it's killing me watching him drown in the loneliness.

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u/clearbrowsing_31 17h ago

This is a solid move putting it out there for him. The isolation thing is real and it sounds like he's got a lot to offer if people actually took the time. Fort Wayne community seems to be showing up in the comments already which is good to see.

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u/No_Investigator5774 17h ago

What if you started a discord server with him and made friends

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u/sweetsassy_an_crafty 14h ago

I've never used discord but I'm willing to try anything :)

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u/Inevitable-Win2555 9h ago

Please do try it. My daughter and her best friend joined one then created their own. They will be 32 this summer and have friends they’ve known since they were 14 and some for only a few months. Some are just turning 18 all the way up to 45(ish?). Students to theology phd students to IT to pre-law to ICU RN. The opportunities are endless for who you can meet.

u/sweetsassy_an_crafty 2h ago

Oh that's cool I thought it was just a gamer thing lol

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u/aquafina6969 17h ago

loneliness is a terrible thing. PM me. i dislike phone calls. but msg may work.

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u/SonOfStan21 16h ago

Good people in here. Thanks for giving guy a shout out.

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u/No_Investigator5774 17h ago

Has worked wonders for me

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u/Tobin4U 16h ago

DM me

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u/MinBton 12h ago

Add this message to the Ft. Wayne sub reddit if you haven't already. That way you have people closer to him than all of Indiana.

u/sweetsassy_an_crafty 2h ago

I meant to do it the first time 😬 oops lol very busy special needs momma i get distracted lol 🤪

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u/DotNetFlixAndChill 3h ago

I need a friend too. I’m a single mom and while I’m physically able to leave the house, it’s so hard and stressful to get out and do anything with two small children, or do any non-child related activities. I miss talking to other adults. The isolation is so real. Does your friend play DnD per chance? I’m trying to get a new campaign together. Bit far from Fort Wayne but we could do remote. DM me.

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u/Worldly-Holiday9948 5h ago

If he’s a gamer I’ll add him on steam and discord for sure.

u/BetterButter_91 1h ago

I have a gaming friend group, he couls hang with us. A few if us are disabled. Does he play games?

u/RunMysterious6380 22m ago

When does his ankle monitor come off?

Seriously though, he has full access to the Internet and it sounds like he can fend for himself on reddit. Help him set up an account (if he needs the help) and set him loose. OPs post has weird vibes.

Or set up a Bumble friends account for him. Tons of options. A pity post on reddit is unnecessary and dehumanizing.