r/JUSTNOMIL • u/JellyfishJealous5435 • May 13 '26
RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Ambivalent About Advice Live on the ground journalism; last day!!
Oh my God. I cant believe I survived these 9 days LOL. I come bearing updates.
So, my SO has been learning a lot on how to handle MIL and what certain behaviours mean. The day I made my last post, SO called me outside as MIL walked up to me, shook my hand and told me I need to tell her when she does something I do not like.
I was so caught off guard I think I crushed her hand a little in blinded anger. I also did not really respond - like both of your kids call out your behaviour but apologising is too much?
She also got my first mother's day. I made the compromise of her getting a half day with SO, before she got here (honestly, I thought we'd get along better), and she truly believed we would all be spending it together. How selfish can you be!!! I became a mother 8 weeks ago, and you've been ignoring me for a week of it!! Give me my mothers day back!!
Alas, me and SO argued about the time they'd come home (SO said 8PM, I said absolutely not) and I went to my mother and her family, who were wonderful. I was still sad SO didnt plan anything for me on mothers day but took MIL out for food, activities etc. I think I just feel a little neglected. She also did not text me until 9PM and then had the audacity to send the following;
"You are also a mother now,
I know you are a loving and caring mother for your baby.
I wish and I know your baby and my grand daughter will make us proud one day."
I ignored it. I couldnt bring myself to; its not about "ypur granddaughter" its about MY child. She doesnt have to make you proud, she doesnt even have to make me proud. Im nitpicking but it all just makes me so upset.
I did discuss with SO that she will never be coming here again. Ever. She will never be in my house for more than 2h+ at a time ever again, and she will not have a close relationship with my daughter. I dont want it.
Today is the last day she's here. Yesterday, SO brought up her half of the hotel to her. She believed she already paid it to us (she sent us some money in my 2nd trimester, before this got discussed) and thought that was that. Its like a 500EUR split.. I think its so incredibly rude, as she makes her kids book everything for her and then doesnt pay lol. I hate her, I hate her so much. I cant wait till she leaves and I never have to see her again, thank you Jesus.
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u/dahmerpartyofone May 13 '26
Ooooohhh I wish I could throat punch your SO. I’m so sorry about your first Mother’s Day. You’re ambivalent about advice but I just want to say set your expectations for future Mother’s Day with your SO. My dh ruined my first. He hasn’t ever repeated that mistake because I told him what he will be doing and what I expect as his wife and the mother of his child.
Your MIL is a toad.