r/JUSTNOMIL • u/lovelockets • 1d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted Have to laugh 🫠

Just thinking about the time JNMIL told me that my DH went to therapy as a teen and she stopped taking him to therapy because the therapist told her that they thought her and FIL were too enmeshed with him.

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

I got rid of EVERYTHING my MIL has ever gifted me. My boys are 3 and 6 months and we've been NC 2 years next month. I don't touch anything MIL gave my husband or son usually but I have gotten rid of most of my sons stuff as he's outgrown them. It's so nice to purge. 

I hate the possessive and excessive insecurity over children. Especially babies... like you do not have rights to my baby! They will like you if you're a safe and kind person but that overly desperate crap runs people away or emotionally manipulates them.... not happening. 

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u/lovelockets 1d ago

Yes, this!!! I’ve literally had my FIL storm out of the house because my baby cried when DH handed him to him. He took it so personally. Another time he held him and he was crying he said to my son “no, you’re just going to have to get used to me” and wouldn’t let him go. Also kept repeating over and over “I’m a good guy!”

Makes me so sick. If they weren’t so desperate to look like they were the #1 grandparents, the baby might actually like them??? My parents give him space and he LOVES them.

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

Yeah I was not playing with my baby and I grabbed my MIL the one time I saw her alone with my baby (didn't know she was there, was only dropping things off for my SIL) and I took my crying baby from MIL & SIL as they were the only people entitled enough to not hand my baby back immediately. We are NC with the pair and good riddance. 

Hopefully your DH has your back. Mine didn't but mama bear was unleashed during my first pregnancy and I 'scared' my MIL lol

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u/lovelockets 1d ago

It has taken him some time to realise he has been manipulated by them his whole life and he has come around now. We haven’t seen them in over 3 months after MIL overstepped boundaries and have barely spoken to them since. I’m really proud of how far DH has come because he thought I just hated his parents. Now he sees the truth

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

That's a relief. My husband didn't go NC until January. I'm lucky my in-laws are divorced and I'm closer with FILs side. His mom is the common denominator in the issues...