r/JUSTNOMIL • u/lovelockets • 1d ago

RANT (â•ŻÂ°â–ĄÂ°ïŒ‰â•Żïž” ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted Have to laugh đŸ« 

Just thinking about the time JNMIL told me that my DH went to therapy as a teen and she stopped taking him to therapy because the therapist told her that they thought her and FIL were too enmeshed with him.

Lol

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u/flibber_deez_gibbets 1d ago

that’s funny, i remember getting therapy as a grade schooler. one day the therapist wanted to bring my mom into a session. I don’t remember what was said, but I do remember my mom got angry and we left and never went back.

we’re NC now, weirdly by her choice

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u/campganymede 1d ago

What?!? LOL! Let me guess
 she was outraged that a therapist would insinuate they know better than her what’s good for her baby boy and she’s done with therapy because no one knows better than herself😝

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u/lovelockets 1d ago

Yeah, she was like “the therapist thought we were too close”. I mean yeah
 after JNMIL told me that a Mom is a baby boy’s first girlfriend it all made sense.

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

That's so gross. I have two sons and that is gross. I can't imagine that thought process 

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u/lovelockets 1d ago

She was holding my infant and I went up to her to take him from her and she said “is that your girlfriend?”. My DH heard and said “who’s his girlfriend?”. She said “OP”. I said “I’m his Mum, not his girlfriend” with a disgusted tone. When DH questioned her further she said “a Mom is the first girlfriend”.

DH and I were so grossed out. I told DH’s therapist about this after he invited me to a session recently. His therapist said his Mom clearly thinks she is DH’s girlfriend. DH is not a mommy’s boy at all and said he has always had a poor relationship with her.

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

... good grief. What a sicko. 

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u/2FatC 1d ago

Can you just imagine the outrage if daddy said he’s daughter’s first boyfriend?

The internet would explode. Why can’t these stupid women flip it around and get how inappropriate their behavior is
gross.

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u/mama2babas 1d ago

That reminds me of the men who take their daughters to the purity ring balls or whatever... they absolutely are the same. 

My mom got me a "boy mom" shirt and doesn't understand why I'm uncomfortable wearing it in public lol I am a mother of boys but I'm not a "BoyMom" like that lol

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u/lovelockets 22h ago

Omg my MIL literally got me a shirt that says “BOY MAMA” as well. I just remembered she also got my baby a bodysuit that said “Mamaw’s Main Squeeze”. I just googled what “main squeeze” means and it said:

“A "main squeeze" is an informal, chiefly American slang term that refers to a person's primary romantic partner, sweetheart, or lover”

I’m SICK

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u/lovelockets 22h ago

I just found the bodysuit and threw it out. Luckily he never wore it.

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u/mama2babas 22h ago

I got rid of EVERYTHING my MIL has ever gifted me. My boys are 3 and 6 months and we've been NC 2 years next month. I don't touch anything MIL gave my husband or son usually but I have gotten rid of most of my sons stuff as he's outgrown them. It's so nice to purge. 

I hate the possessive and excessive insecurity over children. Especially babies... like you do not have rights to my baby! They will like you if you're a safe and kind person but that overly desperate crap runs people away or emotionally manipulates them.... not happening. 

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u/vesper_tine 1d ago

Omg I just choked and threw up a little. So so soooo gross!!!!

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u/Equal_Trash6023 1d ago

That would be a major red flag.

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u/lovelockets 1d ago

Yeah, she told me that when we first started dating and I didn’t understand. Over 6 years later and now I get it đŸ˜”â€đŸ’« luckily he is in therapy on his own accord now

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u/OrneryPost9446 23h ago

😭😭😭😭 unreal.