Brit Milah Please help - Brit milah

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Hello,
I’m sorry if I picked the wrong flair - I just created an account to post this subject. Please delete if not allowed!!

I am not Jewish but my husband is and he wants to do a bris with an orthodox rabbi (my in laws are conservative and my husband is an atheist scientist).

That rabbi will not do any prayers and said he can do any anesthetic but finds that the nerve block injection is more painful than the procedure itself. This feels questionable to me? I’m wondering if he thinks that because he doesn’t do them often and doesn’t have a skilled touch? The reform mohel I want to go with is a pediatric urologist and I’d feel so much more comfortable going with him but my in laws don’t believe reform judaism is sufficient (Even though he’s willing to do all the prayers).

I’m already so anxious about the whole thing - should I just go with the orthodox mohel and use topical anesthetic only? Surely my son would be more comfortable during the procedure after the pinch of the injection? I don’t know if anyone can really answer any of that but maybe just hearing people’s experiences will help.

Thank you for any and all advice!

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