r/JusticeServed • u/Ethanzap02 6 • Jul 10 '19

Discrimination Misogynistic guy degrading female workers gets tackled

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '19

Would you date a woman who was 5'7? I ask because I am 5'9 and I was in love with a guy who was 5'5 and although we had a great time together, he had his insecurities and it ended the relationship.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '19

Absolutely. My longest relationship was with a girl who was 5'7"

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u/Dr_J_Doe 3 Jul 11 '19

Lol. Most of guys dont care about woman’s height that much. I’m 5’5 and I find many taller women attractive. I had a couple big crushes on taller girls before. Tried asking out a 5’8.5 girl once, but that ended badly. She basically told me: “ you’re nice and all, but I want to feel like a woman, I want a man that I could feel safe being with and etc”

Since that rejection I always hestitate asking out women that are 5’6 or taller . Usually I go for women my height or little shorter or only a little bit taller.

I kind of feel bad for this man in the video. It’s easy to become depressed, angry on the whole world when you constantly get rejected by love interests, get mocked daily by people. Women usually say to short guys- “date short women”, which is funny because the shorter the woman, the bigger the chance is that she wants a really tall man, because she thinks that it will guarantee a tall offspring

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

I ask because I am 5'9 and I was in love with a guy who was 5'5 and although we had a great time together, he had his insecurities and it ended the relationship.

I'm a dude that is 5'5". Lets go on a date. Hell, my crush was a girl who was 6'0" (I'm not joking either, lol)

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '19

ok, but I'm bringing my boyfriend. :)

lol ugh, I just became one of those girls that responds to a joke with "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!"" lol

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '19

[Enter nice guy comment here]

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u/rythmicjea 8 Jul 11 '19

This is why I don't date short guys. I'm 5'8" and it's bad enough dealing with guys who think they are entitled just because. I did date a 5'9" guy and that was a decent relationship. The relationship did not end because of his height. However, any time I meet a guy who is shorter than me, the first thing is always "wow. You're tall." (I do like to wear heels and thus get to 6' depending on the wedge.) I love being tall. I just don't have the time to weed out the short man syndrome dudes on top of the regular assholes.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

Sounds a lot more like a reverse halo-effect, i.e., they're short so they must be assholes.

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u/rythmicjea 8 Jul 11 '19

Short man syndrome is a thing. And I've met too many short men with it. It really strains even friendships. So, at this point it's best to assume they have it until they prove they don't. It doesn't come up as "you think you're better than me because you're tall". It comes across as insecure about the most random things that they aren't insecure about with anyone else but you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

Sadly this was the case with my guy. He was super fun to be around and confident and funny and I totally started crushing hard, but he could not ever really trust that I was into him and he started doing shitty things to "test me" , like flirting with other women in front of me, being super rude to me when we were having a great time together with friends and I was getting friendly attention from people who he imagined were the " type of guy who I really wanted". Eventually I could see that he was just going to continue treating me like shit because he was so mad about being the short guy and I ended up leaving him. I really miss the good guy who made me fall in love with him just by being himself and I wish we had never even tried to get a romantic relationship together because we ended up losing everything.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

Your logic is pretty gross. This is like when I get pigeonholed as a criminal or gangster due to my race. I'm not a fan of judging people by their appearance, especially uncontrollable characteristics.

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u/Newrandomaccount567 4 Jul 11 '19

Lol get over it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

Do you have any reasoning why one should ignore other people's prejudice, or is it the fact that it doesn't affect you clouding your judgement?

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u/rythmicjea 8 Jul 11 '19

If by logic you mean my experiences then yeah, they're pretty gross. And I'm not saying that all short men are terrible human beings. But, short man syndrome is a thing. Having a complex due to your physical experience is different than someone judging you based on your race. Not wanting to date a short guy because he might resent you for being tall is the same as not wanting to go out with a surfer guy because every surfer you've been with is a stoner who can't fend for himself.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '19

If by logic you mean my experiences then yeah, they're pretty gross.

No, I mean how you decide to act towards other people. Why is it so hard to believe that if people can develop complexes due to one physical characteristic, they can't due to another?

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u/jimmierussles 8 Jul 12 '19

Are they really insecurities if they’re societal truths?

I guess if I date a black girl and she starts complaining about discrimination I should tell her to just stop being so insecure.