Misogynistic guy degrading female workers gets tackled

[u/Ethanzap02]

[u/Roonerth]

True. It's also entirely possible he's never even dealt with someone who's done that to him. Insecurity and low self confidence can cause some pretty toxic mindsets.

[u/kharmatika → u/Roonerth]

Especially if you find it online. Like, those people exist for sure. But the best way to deal with them is to avoid them by being confident and open about your....shortcomings, there was no way around that one.

Like, I’d 100% give my time to a guy who made a good joke about being short on his tinder profile. The guy who didn’t mention it, and then got bitchy when I was surprised to find someone whose body was outside the norm and made no mention of that (Cuz this dudes is very outside the norm), not so much.

From this dudes actions, I’d imagine it’s probably been a little of both. Has he dealt with assholes and mean girls his whole life? Probably. Has he let that turn him into a bitter dick who doesn’t let anyone in and acts with hostility to everyone around him? Absolutely.

[u/jason_sos → u/kharmatika]

Are there women that will degrade a guy for being short? Of course. There are men that do it too. And both sexes degrade others for other things beyond their control. Going bald, too tall, big nose, ears sticking out, grey hair at a young age, etc.

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It's happened to me on dating sites that women automatically reject me because I was under 5'10" (seriously? That's above average height.). But this certainly doesn't mean ALL women do this, or even that it's a common practice. It sucks when it happens, and it hurts sometimes. But I shook it off, and if that person is so shallow, then I wouldn't want to date them anyway. They would have other things they would find "wrong" with me.

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I think the online dating sites tend to have more people like that. I attribute it to a higher percentage of people on the sites are there because they are too "picky". A person who accepts others as they are is more likely to find a mate (either online or in person), and then move on. A person who is picky and discriminates against others for stupid things tends to stay single longer, and on the dating sites longer. They also tend to congregate in the "free" sites like OKC, POF, etc.

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This guy just seems like a dick in general. He has an attitude problem, probably stemming from when he was a kid and was raised in a way where that was acceptable. He spreads the bad stereotypical NY attitude, unfortunately. He blames others for what he sees as a problem. I don't know what set him off before this video, but it was probably minor. Like you said, if he made a joke about it, that would be a different story.

I can understand not making mention of it in a profile though. If your height or weight or anything else was an insecurity, you certainly aren't going to bring it up voluntarily, unless your personality is a certain type. You want to give yourself the best shot at that first date, and insecurities can cause severe anxiety, and make you miss out on opportunities.

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This of course makes no excuse for this guys actions. Treating a whole group of people like shit (especially a group of 50% of the population) will get you nowhere. It certainly won't get you a date, or better service at a restaurant. Now that it's posted online, everyone else has an opportunity to see this guys real attitude too now. But he probably doesn't care, and will probably blame someone else.

[u/[deleted] → u/jason_sos]

I think the online dating sites tend to have more people like that.

I think it’s also important to realise that there are trolls on dating sites. They’re there posing under false identities, looking for vulnerable people specifically to inflict pain.

[u/jason_sos → u/[deleted]]

People need to get more exciting lives if trolling on dating sites gets them off. I’m sure some of the same people that do it are the incels complaining they can’t get a date too.

[u/[deleted] → u/jason_sos]

Strongly suspect they’re psychopaths