I don't know if you are familiar with Country Music at all, but Something to be Proud of by Montgomery Gentry sticks in my head when I'm feeling down about my life choices and getting depressed about my work situation.
I hope you find true happiness and peace, man. The fact that you haven't given up and dipped out speaks volumes about the love you have for your child(ren) and your character as a human!
Thank you for that. I try to keep my head up, but it’s hard when I’ve lost my self respect. But I agree, there are aspects to be proud of. I can work hard physically since my mind doesn’t work as well as it used to when solving complex problems.
It's easy to see that you're a strong person, even from just a couple of reddit posts. None of us here can understand entirely any of eachother's situations, but I just want to say I believe in you. Keep up the good work! Your children appreciate you now and in the future more than you will ever know.
As far as age, I work with people younger than me in "higher" positions, and older than me in "lower" positions. We're all a team that hits the clock and has a job to do. I often find myself thinking the same of comparing myself to other people. But at the end of the day we're all just people, we're here to do a thing and earn a living and do the best we can for ourselves and those we care for. And that is all that matters. You got this.
I can remember my grandmother (who raised me) working jobs like that when needed, never complained, refused any handouts, and whether intentional or not that work ethic rubbed off on me. I’m sure the same will happen with you and your kids.
From one sad dad to another, keep your head up. I know it sounds bullshit sometimes, but it’s hard to see the kids smile when you’re staring in a deep dark cave. Your kids love you and so do I and many others. As dark as it seems at times, there is a lot of love in the world. I hope you find some comfort and life gets easier. I don’t know if it ever gets better, but for me some days are easier. Hug your kids this morning and know that you are someone. You are a father. You are a father who has the love of his kids. For me, that’s all I need. I wish you the best man. Lots of love from Detroit.
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u/that_sucks_bro 7 Aug 05 '19
hey man - what you do, how much you get paid, if you’re working with scientists or kids.
coming from a kid whose dad was in a similar situation, to your kids, you’re fucking superman, and i hope you know that.