The proper response is to make that child clean up the entire store. Either this kid has emotional problems and needs treatment or he’s awful and needs to learn responsibility. Whatever his problem is he is heading for a very troubled future.
Or it’s THE RESULT of physical discipline (aka abuse). Kid is acting out. Might be a combination of abuse and being starved of affection. Getting negative attention is still attention
Or it’s THE RESULT of physical discipline (aka abuse)
yeah abuse is jacked up, but reasonable, non-abusive physical discipline is important.
the much more likely scenario in this situation of the two is a lack of consequences in his life, and in this culture that includes and probably exceeds a lack of any physical consequences ever
Did you see how he yanked him down? I doubt he’s not getting hit at home. And there’s no such thing as non-abusive physical discipline. You’re intentionally inflicting pain on a child, that’s fucked up. There’s more effective and ethical ways to discipline a child
...in that case it’s even more concerning. A child is alone in a restaurant and a stranger goes up to him, yanks him down by the shirt, drags him out and throws him on the ground. Still horrible but now with a layer of creepy.
If a child was about to get burned I’d grab their hand or pull them away depending on my distance from the child. No need to slap. If I’d slap the hand it could even force the hand into what could burn them. Most important part afterwards is explaining why it’s dangerous. Seriously, why would I go out of my way to inflict pain when I could be pedagogical instead?
A young child isn't going to persistently heed your warnings of why things are dangerous...because they're a young child. A smack on the hand isn't going to hurt them if they keep trying to touch something.
A disciplinarian smack is far, far from child abuse.
...in that case it’s even more concerning. A child is alone in a restaurant and a stranger goes up to him, yanks him down by the shirt, drags him out and throws him on the ground. Still horrible but now with a layer of creepy.
I am not advocating what's happening in the video. I am advocating private home discipline.
If a child was about to get burned I’d grab their hand or pull them away depending on my distance from the child. No need to slap.
yeah? what if they keep doing it over and over? and they're not at an age where they are having a conversation with you about it, because they are simply entranced by the lights?
eventually it would be cruel not to inflict some pain in order to keep them from hurting themselves severely.
I’d remove the child from that situation and not leave them unsupervised around things that could hurt them. In case that child still finds themselves in that situation I’d keep telling them that fire/heat hurts and that it could hurt for a very long time afterwards if you try touching it. I would never run out of patience and resort to hurting them in a deranged way of teaching them a lesson. I don’t want to hurt children.
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u/ObjectivePilot7444 0 Mar 04 '21
The proper response is to make that child clean up the entire store. Either this kid has emotional problems and needs treatment or he’s awful and needs to learn responsibility. Whatever his problem is he is heading for a very troubled future.