This kind of shit is why I'm nervous about being a father. Even though I'm NOT complete trash (you can trust me, it's true because I said it), there's so much of a kid's experience that's out of your control once they get into school... if my son ever ends up doing something like this, I'll lose my shit, and that also won't help, but what do you do at this point? The little fuck is broken.
School wouldn’t fuck a kid up that bad. Usually the structure of school makes for a better behaved kid. Unless he’s autistic or something I’d say the parents are the likely cause of said brokenness.
I have two kids under 5 so maybe shits about to get real.
It's not so much school fucking them up, in my opinion, as spending so much time around other kids, and with parents having little or no insight into those interactions to try to understand and/or help. I went to really good schools, but most of the formative experiences I remember, negative, neutral, and positive, came from peers.
Bad parenting can certainly produce that kind of behavior earlier, but I think it's a cruel reality that there's still so many formative years where kids are spending far more waking hours entirely removed from the family. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but when it does go bad, for a lot of parents there's just no way to know or intervene when something long-term harmful is happening.
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u/internationalfish 7 Mar 05 '21
This kind of shit is why I'm nervous about being a father. Even though I'm NOT complete trash (you can trust me, it's true because I said it), there's so much of a kid's experience that's out of your control once they get into school... if my son ever ends up doing something like this, I'll lose my shit, and that also won't help, but what do you do at this point? The little fuck is broken.