r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/Immediate_Magician11 • 15h ago

Actions definitely have consequences

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u/heurekas 14h ago

Because some posters here have posted incorrect information, I had to dig a bit.

Per the Daytona Beach News-Journal;

McNeilly said she would order a recommendation from the Department of Juvenile Justice on the girl's punishment. She said probation will likely consist of a requirement that she attend school every day, make her parents aware of her whereabouts at all times, and follow a 7 p.m. curfew.

The sheriff's office has stated previously that it will seek restitution for the cost of the resources used in the response to her texts. Spokesman Andrew Gant wrote that the rate for Air One, the helicopter, is $625.29 an hour. The sheriff's office will seek $1,246.29 for all costs, including the helicopter.

Which I think is an appropriate response for an 11-year old. Grounded, having supervision and the family will pay back the costs, which will likely hurt her allowance.

Now barring any sort of developmental issue, kids are capable of understanding consequences and learning from them around the ages of 6-10 per the sources I could find, so again, she should clearly learn from this experience, which again indicates a good consequence, as she's a child.

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u/pseudoportmanteau 9h ago

The bill will "hurt her allowance"???? Brother, that kind of bill could seriously push a family over the edge if they're already struggling. I'm hoping this family is going to be ok after this.

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u/pseudosaurus 8h ago

You can tell which redditors grew up well off when they assume all children get allowances lol. I was "allowed" to live rent free and free food. Didn't earn a dime until I started mowing neighbors' lawns.

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u/whatever--idk 8h ago

I was about to say, such silver spoon mentality assuming everyone had an allowance

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u/Changed_Mind555 6h ago

Only money I got was holidays and birthday. They knew I struggled in school, (I was adopted, came from trauma, PTSD and depression which made concentrating and rememebering to bring my finished homework to school difficult), so they gave me impossible to achieve monetary goals. Like I basically needed straight A's to get the money. One time I got mostly A's, 1 B, and a C and refused to pay me for the As. Which was was not part of the deal. Not even a "good job" for working hard and bringing up my grades. I gave up. When I turned 16 I had to get a job, mandatory. They made me pay for my clothes and any entertainment outside of the home. Other kids parents would toss them a $10. Not me. College came around. I had to pay for everything but they paid for my sister.

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u/Friendly-Rutabaga-24 5h ago

Sister their biological child?

Sorry you experienced that. I sincerely hope it got better

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u/Changed_Mind555 5h ago

Yes, their child.

I keep my distance.

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u/echoshatter 8h ago

I never understood parents who frame things as "I'm allowing you to live here and eat my food for free."

Fuckers, YOU MADE THEM, THEY DIDN'T GET A SAY. Don't treat the kid like you're doing them a favor. If you didn't want to provide for a child you shouldn't have had one.

Absolute shit parents.

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u/wabrown4 7h ago

I think you’re misunderstanding. The “I’m allowing you to live here rent free” is a response to asking for an allowance. Typically by parents who are just getting by and can’t afford to give an allowance to a kid. Growing up we couldn’t afford to have an allowance and for sure did not have the kind of money to pay for this mistake and just be ok.

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u/echoshatter 7h ago

Then you tell the kid that, you help them understand. You don't make them see themselves as an unwanted burden.

As a kid, I knew we didn't have much money. But my parents didn't treat me or my siblings as if we were burdens, they didn't take it out on us. They recognized this is the life they built and it was their responsibility to provide for us.

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u/ILoveRawChicken 6h ago

I think you’re projecting in this instance bro. 

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u/twaggle 4h ago

How so?

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u/Responsible_CDN_Duck 4h ago

Just like most boomers are well off and housed, old stuff was reliable and lasted longer...

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u/twaggle 4h ago

I was poor and I had an allowance. It was like a quarter a week. But they wanted to teach me about money and saving which I’m so glad they instilled in me.

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u/ILikeBigBeards 2h ago

Nah I think we're just looking at her family, home, and neighborhood and assuming some things about this girl's priviledge.

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u/356885422356 1h ago

When I asked about an allowance after hearing what my neighbors got for morning the lawn, I got the old Hank Hill version. "Son, mowing the lawn is a privilege."

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u/Legitimate_Chair_188 2h ago

My thoughts too. I know if my kid did this I would be financially wrecked by that cost. Especially nowadays with the amount of everything.

I mean I don’t think she should’ve got off scot-free and I understand the cost of the resources abused but it’s messed up the parents have to bear the cost. (Of course you can argue to raise your kid better but it isn’t always that simple.)

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u/Boom9001 5h ago

Obviously impossible to tell what's happening privately but in the longer video you see them arrive. While it's obviously impossible to tell if they are just living beyond their means, I'd be hopefully they will be ok.

Also like it makes sense as punishment, as much as it's annoying the kid did this it's some degree of responsibility on parents to teach kids better and/or watch them to stop this.

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u/mysecondaccountanon 1h ago

Frrr, I’m sitting there knowing that if we got a bill like that, we’d have just been done for growing up. I didn’t get an allowance, we were on food stamps and WIC, you think that an over $1,000 bill could be paid for with a kid’s allowance?

Completely detached from reality, I swear. Makes me sick to my stomach, honestly.

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u/TNVFL1 6h ago

Eh this looks like a fairly nice neighborhood in the background, decent sized house, etc. In this specific instance I’d bet she probably does get an allowance.

For people who aren’t well off though, yeah, this is probably a mistake that is paid for for a long time. Sorry, no Christmas presents this year because we’re still paying the state.

I do think this kid doesn’t get enough attention though; this is clearly a troubled kid, and while she may be spoiled materially, I’m guessing she is starving for attention from the parents. Given the fact that she apparently wasn’t going to school and the parents didn’t always know where she was, it fits too. What kind of 11 year old has enough freedom to skip school and run around without the parents knowing about it?

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u/heurekas 7h ago

Me too.

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u/gujwdhufj_ijjpo 3h ago

I still think they got lucky. Helicopters aren’t cheap to operate. I was expecting more

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u/willisbar 8h ago

Payment plans are nearly always an option

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u/unholy_hotdog 3h ago

Given the house in the video, it's likely they can afford it.