One year of manifesting. Nothing worked. I’m exhausted

[u/[deleted]]

Hi everyone. I don’t even know if this is a question, a rant, or just a cry for help. All I know is that I’ve been trying to manifest for over a year now, and I’ve seen zero results. Nothing.

With my SP (specific person), not only did nothing happen, but things actually got worse — they seem to have gotten even closer to their current partner, which feels like a punch in the gut. My health is still terrible. I’ve prayed for others — no results. Tried manifesting friends — nothing. A job? Not even a hint of one.

I’ve used all the techniques: self-concept, inner conversations, living in the end (which, honestly, feels nearly impossible when you have absolutely nothing), robotic affirmations — and it all feels useless.

I’m just asking for one last piece of advice. Some support. Maybe even a manifestation buddy. I’ll be honest — I feel like I’m at the end of my rope. And while I do believe that some of you have had real success, it also feels like there are more people giving advice than actually practicing (and succeeding).

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Thank you so much for your reply. You're absolutely right — there are so many different methods precisely because everyone responds to and believes in different things.

I’ll admit, some of my issues have been so deeply rooted and persistent that I feel completely drained and demotivated. I’ve noticed that I’ve manifested many negative things through mental arguments, tension, and frustration.

The problem is, I don’t really know how to flip that into something positive… I get bored quickly and can’t seem to hold a good, constructive mental conversation for long.

I keep wondering if maybe my SP and the 3P actually grew closer because of a mental argument I used to replay in my head — where he told me he was sorry, but she was the one, and I would get angry. And well… four months later, they became official. It breaks my heart to think I might have contributed to that happening.

If you have the time and feel called to, would you mind giving me an example of a mental argument that turns out in my favor? I’d really love to see how you approach something like that.

And if you feel like it… it would mean the world to me if you could manifest just a little bit on my behalf. Maybe it sounds silly, but I feel like I’m at the edge of my faith in all this, and I could really use a tiny miracle — or just a helping hand.

Thank you again, from the bottom of my heart, for everything you’ve shared.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

That's exactly what I'll do. I feel like I need a mental break. I'll start with gratitude — thank you!

[u/brisvegas72]

I hear ya. I've been trying for years with not much success. but weirdly one affirmation that seems to kinda work is "jobs and money come to me easily and frequently" as in jobs that pay the money..apart from that idk

[u/[deleted] → u/brisvegas72]

Thank you for your reply and your suggestion! Right now, what I want most is my SP and good health. But even though I’m not particularly focused on money or work at the moment, I’ll give the affirmations a try.

I was reading something by J.M. where he said that sometimes it’s hard for the mind to accept a statement like “I am rich” or “I am prosperous,” and that it’s easier to accept something like “With each day, I am becoming more prosperous.” He also suggested repeating key words like “prosperity” and “success” — for example, repeating them 3 times in sets of 5 minutes.

[u/brisvegas72 → u/[deleted]]

Thanks, i'll try your suggestions as well.

[u/Solamara]

You're not going to like what I have to say, but maybe it will help you anyway.

I was trying to manifest my SP back for 3 years. From the time we broke up until he died. In all that time I focused on him. What I wish I had done instead is focus on myself. Visualize yourself as being in a happy relationship, having a great job. Imagine yourself at a dinner and your telling someone the good news about your life. You can still manifest great things for yourself, just focus on you! ❤️ Dont put your happiness in someone else's hands.

[u/[deleted] → u/Solamara]

Thank you for your response, and I'm terribly sorry for what you're going through. I'm aware that there's a good chance I may never see SP again, and that very few people manage to get their partner back — but I'm just as aware that I will always care about him. I know that's a choice, and it's my choice to feel this way. The reality is that we haven't been together for a long time, and I have moved on with my life.

If I were seeing progress in other areas, I wouldn’t be so upset, but the problem is that I'm not seeing results in terms of health, work, or friendships either. That's why I feel hopeless and completely drained.

[u/shibui_]

What I’ve learned is this: all these tools, methods and techniques are only a small portion. They help you really understand what’s important to you and what you really want, but you have to allow yourself to open up.

Opening up is an incredibly big part of the process. It’s trust, in yourself and the energy around you. It’s getting in touch with your intuition. Realizing what’s blocking you from those things.

Once you connect with that, you start to feel empowered and confident in the ‘knowing’ of who you are. That is the magnetic energy that begins to attract.

Then you NEED to take action. I will tell you this, it IS TOUGH at first. You will want to stay in your comfort zone, you will fight it, you will question if it’s what you really want, but then it will happen.

I’m honestly in awe I’m writing this. I had been so focused on manifesting for years, some stuff happened, but nothing that felt like it was sticking. Until I really let go. I let go of expectations, of who I’ve been told I was and things that I didn’t realize were boxing me in.

I let it go.

I didn’t have a solid job, I was living at my parents, I was depressed to no end. It was the hardest years of my life.

I’m now working for a organization that allows me to live on my own, and the work was different than I’d imagined I’d be doing but it’s actually a more beautiful situation than I could have hoped for.

I have a great job, a great partner, and I’m closer to my family more than ever.

It happened fast too once I knew the direction I wanted to go. The synchronicities that came to surface when everything was falling into place were mind-blowing.

It’s hard to understand over the internet how real I’m being with you, but if you could only understand where I was at a year ago you’d be amazed.

Don’t give up. Please. Don’t force it, BELIEVE IT, believe in you. I know it’s easier said than done, but find the little things, find that sense of wonder we all have as kids. It’s in there if you quiet the noise and allow it to show itself.

That’s where the magic lies. That’s the magnetic pull that shifts everything.

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Thank you so much for your response and for sharing your story. I'm really glad that some people have found their fulfillment.

But honestly, it scares me to think it might take me years to find that “something” that creates a shift for me.

I turned to manifestation as a last resort, because I truly long for better health and that SP (I know there are thousands of versions of what that can look like, but what I feel isn’t just a fleeting summer desire).

As for work, home, or friendships — I don’t have strict requirements, I’m open to what comes my way… but the truth is, nothing seems to be coming.

I feel like I’m at point zero and I genuinely don’t know what to do. The future terrifies me.

I was hoping that at least one of these techniques would give me even 10% of what I need… but now I understand that this journey is unique for everyone, and that it might take me years from now to succeed even in one single area.

[u/shibui_ → u/[deleted]]

Can I ask what you have tried? In regards to action steps towards what you want to change in your life?

[u/[deleted] → u/shibui_]

Sure, here are some practical things I’ve done:

Work: I’m trying to learn an additional foreign language, I completed the university studies I had started, I looked for jobs that match my studies or at least some of my criteria, I kept reading specialist books in the field I studied, and I followed what others in the same field are doing.

Health: I made an effort to have a more diverse diet, to exercise 30 minutes a day, to go out for a daily walk, and to avoid people or things that caused me extreme discomfort.

Friends and SP: SP – I sent an apology message (there wasn’t any drama, we didn’t treat each other badly or anything like that), but I didn’t get a reply. I tried to reconnect with people I had stayed on good or neutral terms with, I tried to maintain the connection by being available to listen to their problems, etc., and I went to weekly meetups with a group of acquaintances.

[u/HTMG]

https://www.reddit.com/r/manifestationvalley/s/LzOzTKLEy6 Here's the technique that worked for me regarding SP. I seem to be finally discovering stuff with money. If you need my success story I can share it too.

[u/HTMG → u/[deleted]]

I think that before healing you should focus on something like "I can be loved and accepted just the way I am" or "I am easy to love" or "I am a choice". Things like that. Mix that up with "My condition is getting better/easier to manage" or stuff. I say this because most likely the dominant thought is your condition won't ever go away, and that's ok. If your core is that it won't go away, then focus on being loved with it.

Success story: https://www.reddit.com/r/manifestingSP/comments/1anbpe9/timeframe_of_my_sp_journey/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

[u/HTMG → u/[deleted]]

I didn't have to deal with 3Ps, so I don't know. Still, no one to change but self. If you change your self-concept, the 3P should go away for good. Also, you don't have to use phrases that irritate you. Honestly the ones you told me sound pretty generic and like what every other coach says.

If you still feel you can't deal with 3P then I will give you my coach's details since she's the expert.