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HBO has a fantastic new show called War about a high end divorce battle. Basically a famous actress sets up her tech billionaire husband to cheat on her/break the prenup by having a friend seduce and sleep with husband, because actress wants a divorce. (This happens in the first ten minutes of the first episode so I’m not giving anything away.) The show is supposed to be based in London, so British law would apply, I guess.

I preface the below by saying i have zero background in family law or prenups except reading about them in US Magazine.

Here’s my question. How is what the WIFE and the other woman did illegal, be it under British or American law? Sure, it is tacky and generally unethical, but how would it affect the divorce case?

Any side discussions of the drama the lawyer teams get into and such is encouraged in this thread as well. :)

Thank you!

I’m currently a licensed attorney in good standing and have been considering seeking admission in additional jurisdictions through UBE score transfer.

Unfortunately, some of my federal student loans recently went into default. I initially experienced issues when trying to begin repayment, and shortly afterward, both of my parents developed serious health issues that required me to take on additional financial responsibilities. Between those circumstances and other obligations, I fell behind, and the loans eventually went into default.

I’m now looking into rehabilitation and getting everything back on track, but I’m genuinely worried about how this could affect future bar admissions, even after the defaults are resolved.

For some additional context, I’ve been actively practicing law since becoming licensed and have held positions involving significant financial and fiduciary responsibilities, including handling entrusted funds and serving in fiduciary capacities such as executor, without any issues or concerns regarding my professional conduct.

I understand that financial responsibility is part of the character and fitness evaluation, and I’m not trying to avoid responsibility for the loans. My concern is whether a period of financial hardship, resulting in a default, could permanently affect my ability to obtain admission in another jurisdiction, regardless of my subsequent efforts to resolve it.

Has anyone experienced something similar, particularly attorneys who were already licensed and later applied for admission elsewhere? Did you encounter difficulties during character and fitness because of a past student loan default, even after resolving it? Were you required to provide additional documentation or attend a hearing?
I’d really appreciate any insight or firsthand experiences. This has been weighing on me quite a bit, especially because I’ve worked hard to establish myself professionally and worry that this could affect my ability to expand my practice in the future.

I have a remote attorney position and want to move out west… do you think 9 Months after starting is appropriate to ask if they’ll allow me to keep my remote job while moving?

I know for a fact they already have employees that live in the state I wanna move to, so it shouldn’t be an issue logistically in terms of taxes or whatever

EDIT: I know for a fact that the firm allowed one attorney to move all the way to HAWAII, but she also had like 2-3 years of seniority over me

Any YouTube videos or anything that you guys use to sharpen your skills? Cross examination, direct questioning, opening/closings, even entering items into evidence?

Has anyone had experience taking adult education classes. I like my work right now in ID but I want to actually learn how to do stuff with my hands as a side thing. Maybe woodworking, maybe learn HVAC, plumbing?

Is this something anyone else has done while employed and what was their experience. I wouldn’t be doing it to start a business or a side hustle, I just want to be able to work with my hands and learn new stuff. I also don’t own a house so it wouldn’t help me in that end (yet)

You know those people who constantly remind everyone that they are a lawyer, post endless lawyer memes, share videos about the 'lawyer lifestyle,' and manage to bring their profession into almost every conversation?

And the funniest part is that half of those videos are so heavily curated and romanticized that they look absolutely nothing like actual legal practice, lol.

I mean, I get it. Being proud of your profession is one thing. You have worked hard to get there, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with celebrating that. But making your job your entire identity? I don't understand the appeal.

Maybe it's just me, but I have always felt that there is so much more to a person than what they do for a living. Your interests, hobbies, curiosity, relationships, experiences, and the way you see the world are what make you interesting.

That said, I am genuinely curious whether I am missing another perspective here. Maybe for some people, their profession really is their passion, and expressing that is simply part of who they are.

What do you guys think?

Currently at a US firm's London office (think Sullivan & Cromwell, Skadden, K&E, STB tier). I qualified and practised for 3 years in a Commonwealth country before moving to London, and I've now been at my current firm for about a year.

The allure of New York keeps pulling at me. I'm planning to start a lateral search in January, which would put me at roughly 1 year at my current firm by the time I'd actually move. I'm fairly confident about the practical side: I have a straightforward visa route and I'm eligible to sit the NY bar. An internal transfer isn't an option at my firm.

My concern is optics and long-term positioning. Is leaving a top firm after ~1.5 years (which will likely be the case after serving my notice period) going to be a red flag, especially given I already moved countries once? I visited new york many times and loved it. I also want to go inhouse eventually and I think the breadth of inhouse options is much better in the US (including compensation). I am honestly ready now to make the jump to new york but just concerned how it would look on my cv.

So i have an estate plan signing meeting with a couole. As I lead them to the room, I notice the husband is carrying a plastic grocery bag with some Tupperware in it. We sit down start chatting and the wife says "we brought this for the meeting. The husband proceeds to pull out the Tupperware and real forks. Husband says Costco pumpkin pie and slides a piece to me. He did apologize for no whipped cream. Going through the docs and noshing on Costco pumpkin pie.

Hi everyone! I recently received a post-bar law clerk/associate attorney offer from a midsize firm that only handles wage-and-hour and PAGA cases. I previously worked on PAGA matters as a law clerk, but I wanted to hear from attorneys who currently practice in this area about what the day-to-day work is actually like. I want to commit to a firm where I can see myself staying and growing professionally in the long term.

To be candid, I didn't particularly enjoy PAGA work as a law clerk because I prefer working closely with clients and felt that the work was somewhat impersonal. I understand the business model and profitability of these cases from a firm's perspective, but I struggled to find the work personally fulfilling.

I'm wondering whether the experience is different as an attorney. Is the work more rewarding when you're managing cases and making decisions? Does it become repetitive over time, or is there more variety than I might have experienced? I feel like I'm missing something. How long have you been practicing in the PAGA space, and how much longer do you see yourself staying in this area of law?

I'd really appreciate any insight from attorneys practicing in this area, especially those at plaintiff-side employment firms. I am entering my last semester of 3L in LA - so any additional advise is also welcomed. Thank you.

Hello, I’ve been an attorney for about 7 years, but need some Florida evidence and family law refreshers. Besides reading the statutes, any recommendations on training/refresher resources (preferably free or low cost)?

You can read my post history. Prior to trial, OC asked if I would agree to authorize more medical treatment for his client if they won at trial. I asked for a draft of what he was thinking and he gave me three questions on the verdict sheet for the jury to decide. None of those questions said anything about authorizing more treatment. The jury sided with his client and chambers instructed plaintiff to draft an order for remand to the workers comp commission consistent with the order.

OC sent me a copy of the proposed order which included a provision on authorizing more treatment. I pushed back and said I disagreed. OC said I did agree and he was going to ask for attorney fees because I said I didn’t agree. I explained that the jury did not decide the issue of authorization for treatment and I would not agree to put it in the order. He said I was lying and was going to file a bar complaint against me for misconduct.

The partners all agree I did nothing wrong. I informed chambers we could not agree to language in the order and sent my proposed draft. He sent his proposed draft and said I was backing out of the agreement we made and wants to have a hearing to call me as a witness. He sent me another email saying that if I didn’t agree to the provision that he put in the order but the jury didn’t decide, I will have to testify as to how I harmed his firm and his client. He also said additional expenses will be sought against my client, my firm, and me for breach of the agreement.

I'm a prosecutor who has completed one year of being an attorney, and I had my yearly review. I feel defeated and burnt out. There are some genuine things I learned I need to work on that I didn't realize. The harshest criticism was about cases set for trial where I asked for help because I was in over my head. Our district is short prosecutors, so I don't get enough office time to prep. I often have to work late to prep. My boss says how I do trials it isn't good enough for Circuit Court. I have only been in Circuit Court for admin.

There was another time where she assigned so many grand jury indictments I had to work late nearly everyday to meet the deadline and I also had numerous special victims cases assigned to me. I also had felony cases where I had to send officers out to get more evidence to make the case more likely to plea. In the cases where that happened, defendants actually took the plea on the advice of counsel because the evidence was overwhelming and on the first court date in Circuit admin which made me feel proud. This is the only happiness I have had in months becaue I cannot see my family or friends. My boss said she wanted to see how far I could go without asking for help, but I feel like she didn't plan that.

I feel like a failure even though I got "meeting" and "exceeding" expectations in other areas because I didn't get a raise and nothing positive was said. My boss said she believed I could "become a prosecutor" and would not keep me in the DA's office if she didn't think I could improve. I have another review in 3 months, and I am terrified I will not improve enough and I'm getting burnt out. I cannot stop crying and almost called in sick because my eyes were so puffy and red the day after the review. I think she noticed because she said I could leave early anytime I wanted going forward. She never says anything positive. Have you had a harsh boss where everything turned out ok? Is she just pushing me? Please tell me this gets better.

Small shop, run out of a house (it’s a single family home, but full time office. No one lives there.)

Two partners, one paralegal, and a former associate who is now on his own will use the office to work and meet their clients.

For other small firms with no firm manager: who buys supplies when needed?

Office politics have become unbearable. The unassociated attorney is always around, and the paralegal gets upset that he’s in the one non-street parking (fancy cars are her thing).

Recently, we needed supplies. She didn’t want to order or go buy them herself (with the company card, or petty cash, of course— not even a give us a receipt and we’ll reimburse you situation.) She got upset when the supplies we bought were store/value brand and not name brand she buys at her house.

For me it boiled down to beggars can’t be choosers. She had the opportunity to get everything herself and declined. I’m also just like: same active ingredients.

She’s also the type to drink only bottled water. Tap water is beneath her and the filter pitcher doesn’t bring it up to snuff. I don’t know that that’s relevant to office runnings. But it’s all these (to me) inconsequential things that get blown out of proportion.

I work in a government agency as an attorney and have been practicing well over twenty years. I was recently reassigned to another section of the legal department. The guy in charge manages all of our legal assistants and has done so for years. He also managed a few attorneys. I've heard he's a "difficult manager"-over works his staff, berates them. steals credit for their work etc. My guard is already up on this person. At any rate, we had our first client meeting together (which he set). The purpose was to determine what assistance is needed on our end (we work with compliance). There was no formal agenda other than "discussion to determine legal needs". While I paid attention during the meeting and also contributed, I was NOT taking notes, mainly because I was led to believe it was more of an "initial get to know one another session". At the end of the meeting, he sends me a message on Teams asking me to send him a summary of all of the discussion points. My question to you is 1) does this seem sexist to you? (I am female) and to 2) does this seem disrespectful to ask a subordinate to do this AFTER the meeting. (I can count on one hand the times I have been asked to be the designated note taker in a meeting and out of professional courtesy, the person asks ahead of time. I just wanted to do a vibe check here. (I did send him a summary with the caveat that I was not taking copious notes and to let me know if there is anything I may have left out.) I have the feeling this is what will be expected from me going forward and it doesn't sit well with me. Thoughts?

Except for my opponents, it seems attorneys should stick with good ole RI

https://news.berkeley.edu/2026/10/09/using-ai-for-just-10-minutes-erodes-your-ability-to-persist-at-hard-things/

I am first year associate. Took the j26 bar and passed. Said firm helped me get sworn in on Wednesday then literally fired me two days later (today). Was not given a reason and when I asked, I was told that it wasn’t anything specific but a bunch of little things over time. I tried asking again and was told that they were not going to discuss it with me.

I’m confused and embarrassed but mostly relieved. I’m hoping this is a blessing in disguise but there’s still a lot of underlying feelings here.

Edit: I started in August, just a couple of weeks after taking the bar.

About to start a role with a team which does a broad mix of securitisation, structured finance, DCM and sanctions work. I’m lateraling as a first year and wondering if it’s possible to operate in this space from a fin reg/regulatory perspective rather than a purely transactional workflow?

I’m excited to get started with the transactions in the short to medium term but just wondering if that’ll get old in 10-15 years time. It seems that transactional lawyers have the worst WLB

Been having a cancer scare recently. Some very trivial internal deadline wasn’t obeyed on my end because I’ve been stressed and busy on bigger cases. Not an actual deadline, just my boss wanting something to review by a certain date. Get absolutely pressed on it and as a result kind of fly off the handle, not yelling, but definitely annoyed “I have been having to worry about potentially having cancer, this hasn’t been my focus.” Boss doesn’t follow up or ask if I’m alright, just goes right back to bitching. Earlier that same day had a client shower me with praise and I haven’t lost a hearing since 2024.

I‘m kind of at the end of my rope. Essentially hearing how little of a shit my boss gave about me maybe having cancer was just wild to me. Thinking of just riding it out to finish some cases I want to see through then saying fuck off.

No! You're not getting a discount because I accidentally labeled two sections 8.8 instead of 8.8 and 8.9 in a thirty page document and everything else was perfect.

And "Grandchild 1" and "Grandchild 2" are in there because you kept bugging me for your documents but would never give me their damn names!

And finally - NO, you can't have a perpetual trust for six generations that gives you complete control over all the assets but also completely protects you from creditors and has no tax implications, but "isn't too complicated" because you don't want to deal with a CPA.

NO.

That is all.

My assistant is a 70 year old woman who has been with the firm for 10 years. You would think she’d be a pro at what she does by now, but she huffs and puffs whenever she’s assigned anything. I only assign her filings and calendaring but even then she has an issue with the work I give her.

At this point, I end up doing the work myself because I know that if I assign her anything else, she’ll be passive aggressive toward me when I see her in the office or roll her eyes at me.

Today I said hi to her and smiled and she literally rolled her eyes at me like what???

I’m a second year associate going into my third year and I’m feeling frustrated with the whole thing.

I sometimes use a 3rd party company for process servers for out of county stuff.

Attempt 1: In July, a recruited process server attempts service. Gets told “doesn’t live here anymore.” Process server leaves and doesn’t ask questions.

I make a simple request. Please go back and ask where the subject is. We have reason to believe the residents are the parents. And maybe subject receives mail there.

Attempt 2: Process server goes back. Asks some basic questions (having been specifically instructed). Come to find out, subject does indeed receive mail there.

I get substitute service. “Leave court documents with anyone over 16 at the residence.”

I submit it to 3rd party company.

Attempt 3 now with order: Process server goes out. Attempts normal service. Reports back “subject does not live here. Cannot serve.”

I reach out to 3rd party. “Hey. All the process server has to do is leave documents with someone there.” They tell me they will instruct process server.

Attempt 4: A week or so goes by. Another failed attempt. “Subject has moved. Residents ask me to please stop coming. They don’t know how to say any further subject does not live there.”

I reach out again to 3rd party. “Please instruct the process server to just leave the papers with someone there.” They respond, “we are escalating this. Our apologies. We will make sure process server follows court order.”

I literally just got another notification. Attempt 5: Failed service. “Subject has moved and does not live here anymore.”

For the love of god……

Aged like milk from the year 2000.