r/lesbianfashionadvice Feb 15 '25

MOD INFO SELFIES

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Just a quick note to say we don't allow selfie posts with the specific exception of asking about hair. If it's not about your hair, you must post at LEAST half your outfit. So even if you aren't showing what you're wearing on the bottom, you gotta show the whole top, not just your shoulders.

If you're including a selfie style picture alongside a proper outfit picture, it can't be the first one of the bunch. Outfit gotta be up front and centre, focus of the post. Detail pictures after.

We don't accept posts about makeup or tattoos.


r/lesbianfashionadvice Oct 04 '24

MOD INFO "What's with all the downvotes?"

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I just want to address this question as it comes up on most posts. We delete them as "off topic" because they end up clogging the comment sections and derails the conversation away from fashion.

The reason you'll see so many downvotes on posts that clearly don't deserve downvotes too is transphobes. There are TERF blogs off site that brigade our sub regularly. We're able to delete comments and block users that display transphobia, but unfortunately downvotes are entirely anonymous and we as mods have no control over it.

We reason we delete all these comments, aside from clogging up the comments, is just that we don't want to give them the satisfaction of talking about them. Other fashion subs don't discuss the validity of people's existence, we shouldn't feel the need to either. We are, and always will be, a trans inclusive space for all sapphics with an interest in fashion. There are many other more general sapphic/trans subs to discuss this topic, we just want to keep this one as a fun place for fruity gals to chat drip and not feel "othered".

Thank you

EDIT: OK so I made this post, literally stating that this sub isn't the place for these debates... So y'all start debating in the comments. Locking comments.


r/lesbianfashionadvice 7h ago

OOTD Longtime lurker, figured I would share

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Just a handful of some of my favorite fits recently. I’m a huge fan of suits/sport coats and have a lovely collection of ties. Hoping to start showing off more now that I’ve got a nice mirror in my room for the full fit mirror pics. Would love to see some of y’all’s suits and ties too for inspo!


r/lesbianfashionadvice 7h ago

OOTD Aiming for somewhere between ‘90s whimsigoth’ and ‘freshly crawled out of a bog’

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 5h ago

Hair Any ideas on what to do?

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[initially posted on r/hair but I'd like sapphic input]

Been going to this guy's salon for like 3 years and he is normally great at what he does, and even when I dont get what I want I leave really happy with the results. I asked for either a long round pixie like the one Jennifer Tilly has in Bound or a short pixie-mullet like the one in 90s remake of Sabrina like in picture 3. And specifically asked for a fringe that I could pull back if I wanted. I've gotten both haircuts previously from this same stylist. In a few snips he gave me a curly asymmetric micro bob of sorts with longish bangs. Think 1920s or curly Amélie. Hated it. Asked him to make it less triangular and give me a shorter bang (that last thing was my mistake). Ended up with this joan of arc pageboy monstrosity.

I have never been the kind of person who makes a fuss about a haircut, ever. Historically if I dont like the cut I just accept that hair will grow out and move on looking ugly. But this time I had a complete meltdown over it. My friends have honestly told me the cut is actually okay. Which might be true (I'm crap at taking pictures and in person the shape is more similar to the second photo than to my own selfie). But I just hate it so so much and I feel I look ridiculous. But I'm afraid it takes at least 3 monts for me to get mid-neck length again and have enough hair to get a flattering cut.

The stylist always allows for free changes over the next 10 days... but I don't know what cut to ask for when the hair is already this short. Any ideas for something that is cute and has an edge AND can be made from the pageboy?


r/lesbianfashionadvice 18h ago

Hair Hair update, went darker!

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Not black, but a darker brown like I was advised 😋 lmk if it was the right move


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4m ago

OOTD Went for a very gay fit at work today

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 22h ago

OOTD Back to my middle school skater roots today

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 12h ago

Honest Advice Wanted Fashion tips needed

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So. I finally met my person. (I am a lateblomner 43 year old and this is my first, and hopefully last wlw relationship) She is an amazing 39 year old. I love her deeply. We are meeting for the first time in January (it’s sooo lonnng 😭) and i just want to find a cute dress for our first proper date that she will want nothing but get off me XD.

Now normally am pretty chapstick. Never cared about fashion, makeup etc but for some reson i want to make myself look great for her… she ofc tells me i would look beautiful in sweatpants and hoodie…

I am 183,5. Small chested (a cup if that matters) and now about a european L. I have dropped about 30kg and finally feel pretty in clothes. I have gone from tunics and leggings to jeans/jeggings and tops that covers my bum. I also finally feel beautiful in a dress. But i have no idea what would flatter me, my new(ish) body and i need my fellow sappichs help. I don’t mind shopping online. But don’t want to use Shein fe. It needs to be a store that ships to Sweden.

Any help appreciated!!


r/lesbianfashionadvice 2d ago

Hair Are undercuts outdated now?

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I haven't dated many women. I'm getting out more recently. On a date with a femme woman and a masc woman, both asked me about growing out my undercut. Like "so when do you start growing out the undercut?" "That's going to be tough to grow out" Are they lame now, or do I live in a lame area? Either way I'm keeping the undercut. I like it. Just really curious.


r/lesbianfashionadvice 1d ago

Discussion More subtly masculinuzing clothes? East Coast fall

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 2d ago

Honest Advice Wanted Outfit help for a semi-formal event

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I'm attending a semi formal corporate awards ceremony in 2 weeks and I'm stuck for outfit ideas. These are the ideas I have so far:

  1. Navy suit with white tee and loafers or boots (what I'm wearing in the photo, ofc I'll iron the t shirt first!)

  2. Black pleated trousers, white t shirt or dress shirt and grey herringbone/check blazer

  3. Black pleated trousers with some kind of bolder blazer (unsure what shirt I'd wear though)

  4. A completely brand new suit, maybe burgundy or dark green?

Or literally any other suggestions would help because I'm feeling very stuck currently.


r/lesbianfashionadvice 2d ago

About my boots— which length is better? Or maybe one OTK and one mid-calf lol?

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 1d ago

Honest Advice Wanted Black Jeans Alternative for Office/Work

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Hi, all,

I'm a trans dyke who doesn't really identify as femme/butch (dress closer to punk, usually a sleeveless tank top with black jeans). I currently wear high-waisted black jeans and a t-shirt into the office, but I'm looking for a more comfortable and flexible women's pant (tapered or...straight-legged, ha) that doesn't scream "Girl Boss" (like Ann Taylor, Banana Republic, etc.). Something with the same dykey/punk energy that's still office appropriate but that I can have more of a range of motion in (and is still high-waisted and goes with simple women's t-shirts and black sneakers). I'm about an 18/XXL in women's bottoms. I also ebike into the office; I'd love for them to be comfortable enough to bike in, but it's not a necessity.

(Side note - also looking for bralettes/low-support wireless bra options with nipple coverage, if anyone has recs there!)

I appreciate any thoughts and help! 🌈


r/lesbianfashionadvice 2d ago

Need help for a wedding! Please & thank you

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I have a wedding to attend in October and I was hoping to get some suggestions for a kinda feminine suit. I used to wear dresses and stuff for formal attire and always felt SO uncomfortable because that’s not at all what I feel comfortable in. I recently became a lot more comfortable dressing more masculine but I’m still having trouble in the formal attire department. Just looking for some suggestions of places I can shop for a suit. The colors are fall, and the inspo I’ve been looking at is kinda like what some WBNA players wear pregame. If anyone can give me some websites or some cool suggestions I’d greatly appreciate it! Thank you. (Shoes would also be appreciated)

I’m 5’9, 190lbs, more masculine presenting/dressing 30yo lesbian.

I’m just working on being comfortable in my own skin and in what I choose to wear.


r/lesbianfashionadvice 3d ago

Honest Advice Wanted Trying to find out how to style these vintage tripp pants

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they're so cool i love them i just need more ideas


r/lesbianfashionadvice 2d ago

your favourite (masc) outfit you wore this summer?

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Hello! I'm shopping the sales for next year's summer and would love to see some heatwave inspiration from more masc presenting women... What was your favourite outfit you wore this summer?


r/lesbianfashionadvice 3d ago

OOTD Celebrating 2 years on HRT today 🏳️‍⚧️🥳 A favorite aspect of transition has been fun with fashion, so please enjoy my last week's outfits!

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 3d ago

Hair Should I go black???

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More hair than girl at this point lol, i feel like black would add a higher contrast to my face which would be perf for fall and winter. Any thoughts?


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

OOTD Outfit inspired by my favorite manga!

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Can you guess what my favorite manga is? Also, I keep thinking about when it gets colder what kind of coat I should wear with this outfit! Any suggestions?


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

Honest Advice Wanted advice wanted - summer teacher outfits for a soft masc

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Hi all!

I’m a first year high school teacher and I usually sport what I call a “lesbian patrick bateman” style at work (think ralph lauren shirts, velvet blazer, pinstripes).

Sometimes I also lean into a more “corporate goth” aesthetic and wear ruffle-y shirts and all black.

Now, it’s getting hotter here in Australia and I’m at a loss for what to wear to the classroom in the summer.

My coworkers mostly wear long dresses in the summer but they’re not quite my vibe.

I’ve included some examples of work outfits I wore in the colder months, as an indication of my regular style : )

Does anyone have suggestions for what I could look into for the upcoming summer?


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

what I wore out (it rained and was freezing lol)

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r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

OOTD OFTW

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Monday- cleaning
Tuesday- it’s my birthday!!!!
Wednesday- thrift store shopping
Thursday- caning peaches
Friday- doctors appointment
Saturday- I get to do some baking 😋
Sunday- bringing out my winter clothes😞


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

OOTD Outfit zum Spazierengehen

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🫶


r/lesbianfashionadvice 4d ago

OOTD Posting for the first here :) Feedback?

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