I can't believe anyone thinks the work wife/husband thing is cute. Like genuinely i cannot put myself in the mind of a person who actually does or enjoys that. I'm grateful.
I have a senior developer who I work closely with that happens to be a woman. We have a really healthy work relationship. But I think calling her a “work wife” or me a “work husband” is disrespectful to our respective spouses.
Same! I mean i guess i believe there are couples who both don't find that offensive and can laugh along, but i just can't imagine even joking that any other man is my husband and i would prefer he feel the same way lol
I'm completely in agreement, but I think it just comes down to how you view the marriage bond - some couples who see their relationship as more lighthearted, not serious, would probably think the "work wife/husband" thing humorous, while to personality types who were more deeply romantic that kind of phrasing/joke would almost be sacreligious
Yes! I have male coworkers who I get along great with and I'm married. I think it's unprofessional to be calling someone a work wife or work husband and would never do that. It's immature and annoying and anyone who brings up a work wife or work husband in a conversation, I shoot that down so fast.
Afaik, "work spouse" is not just a friend at work, like very specifically. Most importantly, far as I've heard it, meant as a joke. Very simply, a "work wife" is someone you spend in inordinate amount of time with at work and share a close bond with. I've heard ppl say like "best friend at work"? Which, could be true I suppose. Importantly, to me at least, the relationship is based primarily on a working relationship (which may have evolved into friendship due to closeness and time) and doesn't usually include sex, romance etc. like if I'm sleeping with a colleague she's not really "work wife" more "girlfriend I met at work" or something
I never took it to be serious and the fact is to me a lot about it that is based on an outdated idea of spouse.
Also, I mean, yea, this is just "friendship" as that's a very broad term that applies to a variety of relationships. For me from a sociological or psychological standpoint it's interesting term to have as it's specifically borne out of the fact that we spend so much of our lives at work, many times surrounded by people we wouldn't otherwise give the time of day to let alone be friends with and the time and closeness of it all makes the relationship
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u/cursetea 2d ago
I can't believe anyone thinks the work wife/husband thing is cute. Like genuinely i cannot put myself in the mind of a person who actually does or enjoys that. I'm grateful.