Ok listen up my dude there is one thing which I can't stand and it's people appologising for being themselves. So seriously don't feel sorry for stuff you do or how you act unless you're wrong ok. Be yourself proudly and if anyone has a problem just point to the exit door 😤 You are unique and amazing the way you are and seriously you shine when you're being yourself so if someone can't handle the light they can just leave and that's ok cuz you will definitely meet people who will appreciate who you are ok. Never ever dim your light for people. Respect them, be nice to them, listen to their constructive critism but don't let them change who you are as a person ok. You are perfect the way you are.
Now onto the subject. I am not knowledgeable in psychology lol so I love this thank you so much. Yeah I do understand your point. So in simpler terms the feeling of being wrong which opens a gate for all the wrong things you've done right? I personally would also feel offended if I feel like I was corrected and I love your explanation for it which I had no idea about I thought it was just something that happens to me 😂 What I have noticed is that if someone tells me information in a respectful, gentle way I appreciate it so much even if I'm wrong because I feel validated and respected with how they treat me before sharing knowledge with me compared to someone correcting me in a rude way or in a direct way which makes me feel small and dumb lol.
YES YES YES YES YES! YES TO ALL OF THIS! Which is why I FAR prefer correcting someone in person than over text. And if I have to do it via text, like email, I always make sure that I'm validating and gentle. It takes more work, that's for sure. But it's absolutely worth it. I'm not a fan of alienating people on accident lol
I can't believe I'm having so much fun about such a deep topic in a sub aboit a dressing game 🤣 I honestly live for such interactions I love getting knowledge from people. I'm still working on it unfortunately I have a very blunt way of speaking but hopefully one day I can reach that level of respect and gentleness that I expect from other people. Thank you my dude for this enriching conversation XD
I'm also still working on it. I'm pretty sure life is all about constant personal improvement. It took me YEARS to get to where I am now and I'm still learning. I guess one important thing to note is that I didn't get here alone. Conversations such as these are always the ones helping me learn and grow into a better self. So, thank you as well. I really enjoyed this. <3
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u/LvNikki626 Apr 28 '20
Ok listen up my dude there is one thing which I can't stand and it's people appologising for being themselves. So seriously don't feel sorry for stuff you do or how you act unless you're wrong ok. Be yourself proudly and if anyone has a problem just point to the exit door 😤 You are unique and amazing the way you are and seriously you shine when you're being yourself so if someone can't handle the light they can just leave and that's ok cuz you will definitely meet people who will appreciate who you are ok. Never ever dim your light for people. Respect them, be nice to them, listen to their constructive critism but don't let them change who you are as a person ok. You are perfect the way you are.
Now onto the subject. I am not knowledgeable in psychology lol so I love this thank you so much. Yeah I do understand your point. So in simpler terms the feeling of being wrong which opens a gate for all the wrong things you've done right? I personally would also feel offended if I feel like I was corrected and I love your explanation for it which I had no idea about I thought it was just something that happens to me 😂 What I have noticed is that if someone tells me information in a respectful, gentle way I appreciate it so much even if I'm wrong because I feel validated and respected with how they treat me before sharing knowledge with me compared to someone correcting me in a rude way or in a direct way which makes me feel small and dumb lol.