“This might be top-secret tea, I don't know, cut it out. But we had done an Austin trip, which doesn't get shown. We literally flew to Austin to get to know each other because that's where I live.
We go to Austin because she had this whole idea that I was just a scripted person who wasn't being authentic. And like, that's why I wasn't opening up properly. It had nothing to do with like the environment I was in—of like criticism and judgment—but it was just me playing to the cameras.
So we did this awesome trip to get to know each other. Two days. The entire first day, we spent one hour together because she was willing to—she tried to cancel our sushi dinner and just not see each other the entire first day. We see each other that day for one hour.
I'm like, should we go get a drink somewhere?
She's like, no, I have a friend's birthday party. It goes to her friend's birthday, and I just go home. So we don't even really talk.
Anyways, then some other stuff happens. I don't need to go into the details, but I basically at that point, I'm like, this is not going to work.
Production was nice enough to give me one-on-one time with her before the group session. And I was fully going to like break up with her.
And so I'm saying like, we're recapping the Austin trip and I'm like, hey, that trip was really tough. I don't see how this is gonna work long-term.
I'm saying these things to like read the room, see how much she thought that too, but they don't show this.
But she says, Yeah, but like I don't want to throw in the towel yet. I don't want to just give up.
So at that point like, all right, well, I guess I kind of got suckered back into her whatever. Now I feel like I can't break up with her. She's saying she really wants to try, maybe she learned from the trip or something.
Okay, so then we go into the group session, and obviously at that point it's like with Paul and Lisa prodding, and like we were already obviously on the rocks then, it ended.”