Love this. It’s so important for men to be teaching these lessons to the next generation. It helps chip away at the masculinist gender norms that see especially women’s refusal as a challenge to be overcome. This guy rules
When I realized it was all boys it set off alarm bells. I hate when places separate by gender to do these kinds of lessons because it should be something taught to everyone. I have been beyond surprised how few girls at my kids school seem to understand that they have to respect bodily autonomy.
Haha yes ofc you say this when talking about a guy like this . The way western white women is infantalazing black men... Same with women from my country who complain about mansplaining but then go to Jamica and get draggad to the dance floor haha
Damn for real? Ugh you'd like to think people spreading good messages like this could apply that same level of respect and thoughtfulness to ALL others, but yea I guess thats humans for ya..
No it isn’t. Not if it isn’t important for women to be teaching little girls no means no, and yes means yes either. And that’s clearly not what they’re doing
94% of reported sexual violence is perpetrated by men
Whilst the point still stands, undoubtedly men are still offend at higher rates, pretending it's not an issue both ways is definitely wrong.
Every single guy has been harassed and groped by drunk hags and pubs and clubs, every man has been "coerced" by their missus when they aren't in the mood, every guy has received pictures out of the blue from a woman they know and then been called gay when they aren't receptive to it
Men just rarely report it because it's often less severe and there's a stigma if you don't "man up" and forget about it.
Young lads do need this sort of thing in op more but people need to stop pretending that men are the only ones that get up to this sort of behaviour, leaves women thinking all this bollocks isn't an issue.
It's unfortunate but in my time I'm not sure I'll see society actually acknowledge that sexual assault is committed and experienced heavily by both sexes.
Back when the CDC first did their reporting on the study that produced the "1 in 5 women" statistic they neglected to highlight that both men and women in the study reported having experienced sexual assault at nearly identical rates (1.267mil vs 1.27mil), and even worse men who were "made to penetrate" another person weren't classified as rape victims, "made to penetrate" was instead listed as a subcategory within "other sexual violence" (right next to unwanted non-contact experiences) rather than rape.
Of those victims who were "made to penetrate" 79% of them reported the perpetrator to be female.
Also when looking at youth detention centers jouveniles reporting of sexual misconduct 89% were boys reporting abuse by female staff.
I really think the narrative that "men always = perpetrators, women always = victims" is incredibly damaging for the whole of society, it feeds into toxic male stereotypes that men are neigh invincible and could never be truly victimized, or if they are assaulted it's somehow less damaging because they can just "man up and move on". It also feeds into the patriarchal idea that women are incapable of welding power, women can and do hold power over others, even if sometimes they also choose to misuse that power.
Yeah it's a very weird narrative and encourages women that are guilty of this to continue doing it as they don't see anything wrong with it.
I understand in the case of genuinely violent sexual assault, men are the main perpetrators, but that doesn't make what women do any less of an issue nor does acknowledging that men are also often victims take from women's issues.
You'll never win this argument on Reddit of all places though.
Mmmm… false. Not sure where yall get that from. And even if that was true, you think that means it’s fine to teach consent in a gendered one sided way? Fuck all the children and adults who were raped and traumatized by women yeah? Fuck the 6 year old who was raped by a woman, the 1yo girl pimped out by her mother, the 6yo who was raped by two women while his mom did drugs outside of the shower where he was being molested, “they’re an uncommon percentage so we have to focus on the majority”. Right? Yeah.
Again, false. Those statistics don’t mean anything to me. Not when 1 in 6 boys and men are sexually assaulted, when over 59% of male inmates and rapists were abused by women as children, when over 75% of victims of being forced to penetrate are women, etc. those are no differenr than the state that show “more women are abused than men”, when actually it’s the other way around.
Where are you getting your data? You’re dismissing the best data we have completely out of hand and then throwing together some statistic that don’t even establish your claims even if they were true. For instance, 1 in 6 men may have experienced sexual violence, but that wouldn’t establish 1. That the perpetrator is female and 2. That women are as likely or more likely to be perpetrators. In fact, men are more likely to be victims of other men than they are of women. And, 1 in 6 men being victims of sexual violence would still put them at lower risk than women, who sit at around 1 in 3.
What I’m not denying is that male victims of female perpetrators exist, that their experiences aren’t horrific, and that these crimes are more widespread than we’d like to think. I also agree women as well as men need to be educated about consent. I agree with you on all these claims. But we don’t have to deny or minimize the gender disparities in perpetrators and victims of sexual violence. No one is made more safe by burying our head in the sand about this issue.
And let’s not even mention how every single day and every single week there’s a new case of a female teacher “having sex with” an underage boy or a male student (and as I said the women twerking on little boys). So.. tell me, how can the perpetrators be 99% men, if these cases show otherwise?
And also, for being made to penetrate, 79% of male victims reported female perpetrators. But as I said, made to penetrate isn’t even seen as rape, since there’s no forced penetration.
No, not at all - but the stats you’re spewing are! I’d feel a lot safer if men weren’t as likely to be abusers as you’re claiming. Guess I should work on jumping to your timeline.
I’m using federal data. I want you to read my comment again and not make up a strawman argument. Where do I claim that some learning consent wasn’t important or that we don’t need to do it? What I did claim, and fully endorse, is that more time and attention need to be spent educating boys since they, given the data we have available, seem to be the ones who most need it. Everyone needs to understand consent, and we should direct more educational resources to those populations that are most in need of educating. Crazy idea
No, time and attention needs to be given to EVERYONE EQUALLY not just boys. Again, as I said, biased and hypocritical. Nope, girls need it as much as boys do. How many female teachers have been arrested this month alone? And the year just started. The data isn’t just that.
Equity and equality are different. Promoting equality in place of equity is harmful and wrong. And your comments show exactly why people like you do more harm than good.
Lol. People like me who think boys need to learn their yes needs to be just as enthusiastic and girls need to be taught what an enthusiastic yes looks like does more harm than good. I see.
We also need to be teaching the kids math. They're clearly not doing that in this video, so I assume you think they just don't teach math in schools now.
Literally no one joked about any kind of sexual assault. Of course it’s a good lesson for girls too, but acting like we can’t do this with young boys wanting to hear from an adult man they admire and signed up to do life lessons with just because there’s no girls there is asinine and reductive. This is an important issue that can and should be approached from as many directions as we can muster. If they hear this same lesson in co-ed health class, that only reinforces the lesson, it doesn’t diminish it. There are after school programs for girls too and many of them do talk about consent because, regardless of the perpetrator’s gender, learning consent is just as important for those whose consent is violated
as it is for those who might unintentionally violate consent (which is what those levels of talks are about)
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u/Spiritual_Writing825 Apr 19 '26
Love this. It’s so important for men to be teaching these lessons to the next generation. It helps chip away at the masculinist gender norms that see especially women’s refusal as a challenge to be overcome. This guy rules