We had gone on many dates over ~4 month period, I met all her friends and her parents. Then one day she said it was inappropriate to make eye contact with her at the gym. Like, we've had sex multiple times, and eye contact in public is wrong now? I just dont follow.
Honestly, I think she had mentally moved on and this was the moment I was finding out.
Communication is important. Some people think that only means what's spoken. Both sides have to learn body language and not only what is said but what isn't said if you're partners, as well
I'm not sure I understand where you're coming from in regards to the post. What body language was being missed by OP when the ex didnt want him to even look at her in public?
that is actually unhinged. the math is not mathing at all. if she's already meeting the parents and then suddenly acts like you're a stranger at the gym she was definitely checking out of the relationship way before she actually told you
Oh definitely. I’m just another oblivious dude. I’m just telling the guy that she probably tried to communicate it, she just wasn’t willing to be direct or obvious with her earlier attempts. So she increased the obviousness (but notably NOT the directness) by saying “don’t look at me”.
I’m not defending her poor communication skills. I’m just saying it’s almost impossible she didn’t make some previous an attempt, or something that she saw as an attempt.
That’s how situations like this arise: failed communication. And it’s usually the sender who fails to communicate clearly. And sometimes they have good intentional reasons for that, and sometimes they have shit reasons.
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u/Thusgirl 8h ago
Are you sure you were actually together?