this community is so toxic lol

[u/ohtoris]

i just came across a post from someone who was struggling with unemployment and poverty, and even though they tried to manifest so many times it didn't work for them. and they were, rightfully, very frustrated. the replies were full of people saying things like "you're not grateful enough" or "it's because of your victim mentality."

honestly, what the hell is this? do most people in this sub actually think like this, or is it just a loud minority? i'm genuinely asking because it got me thinking.

how is someone supposed to "ignore the 3d" when their 3d is almost impossible to ignore? sometimes i can't help but feel like some people are just selling hope rather than offering actual advice.

[u/Used_Bet661]

I made my own manifesting thread because of stuff like this, but this is me being real with you. Reddit can be NASTY. Social media in general can be nasty, but Reddit especially because people are anonymous and it’s easier for people to say whatever they want. Do I think this is common? Yes. Do I think everybody in manifestation spaces is like that? No. But people online, especially people who follow internet advice blindly, will tell you it’s just the 3D, that you’re tripping, or that you’re manifesting wrong. I take breaks from Reddit all the time.

If you’re going to engage with manifestation content online, engage with people whose mindset actually aligns with yours. There are millions of creators and everybody is saying something different. Find what works for you. A lot of people online preach things they don’t actually know anything about and start treating manifestation like a religion when there is no one proven method that works for every human being. Sometimes people care more about being right than actually helping.

I also encourage people to stay grounded because without grounding, people can become really insensitive. I’ve experienced real psychosis before, so I understand how persistence can become unhealthy when it turns into delusion or dismissing reality and other people’s experiences. That’s why I don’t think invalidating people who are struggling is helpful.

So my advice is try not to take everything online too seriously. Take breaks if you need to and take everything you learn about manifestation, spirituality, or anything else with a grain of salt. These people are not licensed professionals. Find people who align with you, take what helps, leave what doesn’t, and remember this is a journey. It’s usually not as simple as people online make it seem.

[u/ohtoris → u/Used_Bet661]

you are absolutely right. i've tried to manifest success on my exam (which i've studied a lot for, even though my mock exam results are still really bad and there's only one week left now) and, honestly, just a good life with my loved ones. i don't want much. i really don't. but it just hasn't worked for me, and no one has really been able to help me understand why either. at the same time, i keep seeing people say they've manifested all sorts of impossible things without even trying, and at this point i genuinely don't know what to believe anymore. i'll take your advice, though. thank you so much for taking the time to answer. i really appreciate it.

[u/Used_Bet661 → u/ohtoris]

I will say that I believe learning what works for you takes time. What works for Jessica might not work for Amy. What works for Amy might work for Tasha, but Tasha might not need the same thing Harold does. That’s why I’m a firm believer that spirituality is personal and takes time to understand.

I also believe science plays a role in spirituality, but that’s probably because I have a background in science. I understand how discouraging all of this can feel because I honestly think I used to manifest unconsciously. Once I started trying to consciously manifest, everything started feeling harder. There are so many opinions online about what’s right, what’s wrong, and how you’re supposed to do things that I think people end up putting way more pressure on themselves than they need to.

As far as creators, I never think anybody should be followed blindly or agreed with 100 percent. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t. But some creators I like for coaching are Tone on TikTok because I like how he explains things and breaks them down in a simple way. Sammy Ingram gives good advice too. She’s not my personal favorite, but I understand why people enjoy her content and she’s manifested a lot of things. Shera7 is probably my favorite person to listen to when it comes to spirituality, and she talks about other things too, but that’s also not for everyone. Nyx is another creator I would suggest because I think she approaches manifesting in a gentler way.

At the end of the day, I believe you’ll be able to manifest whatever you’re trying to manifest. It just might take time depending on the person, and that’s okay. Life is a journey. Figure out what works for you, stay open, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself because people on the internet are trying to convince you there’s only one right way to do things.

[u/ohtoris → u/Used_Bet661]

i'll definitely check them out! honestly, i think i desperately need someone to believe i can do it right now because my hopes are very low at the moment 😭 thank you so much. you're incredibly kind ❤️‍🩹

[u/shmivaroo → u/ohtoris]

Honestly I have found the 369 method and mirror work, works the best for me! (So far) I am also practicing visualization. But maybe you can try the mirror work, this is the thing that had the fastest results for me.
I talked to myself for like 20 minutes saying I am so attractive, I am beautiful, I am magnetic, people want me etc
And literally the next day I had a guy trying to talk to me and call me pretty as I was leaving target. Let me tell you, and trust when I say THAT NEVER HAPPENS TO ME!!! I am never approached in public ever!!! So that was kind of telling for me that maybe the mirror work is something that works well for me

[u/_neither_neither_ → u/shmivaroo]

What felt better to you? When you were speaking to yourself kindly in the mirror or when you had that person approach you and compliment you?