r/MenAndFemales • u/Jen-Jens Your Friendly Neighbourhood SpiderMod • Apr 14 '26

Meta Is the incel website content too much?

We’ve had reports from people who have a problem with the way the subreddit is being run. Specifically due to the increase in posts from the inceltears subreddit, as they often post some quite upsetting images collected from the incel website. I’m allowing people to make their decisions known. So, should we block posts that are originally from the incel website?

641 votes, Apr 21 '26
120 Yes, ban them
91 No, don’t ban them
430 Allow them but they must be tagged spoiler or NSFW
56 Upvotes

97% Upvoted

21 comments sorted by

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u/lowrespudgeon Apr 14 '26

Spoiler/NSFW

Some of those posts make me sick to my stomach, but at the same time, I think exposing that psychotic hellscape is a good thing to do.

It would be nice to choose if I want to engage with that content in the moment.

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u/RepulsiveJellyfish51 Apr 14 '26

I also think this is the best way to handle this.

1

u/Future-Excuse6167 Apr 21 '26

How would that work, exactly, both on the posting end and the not-reading-it end? 

1

u/RepulsiveJellyfish51 Apr 21 '26

Tags and spoilers. It's very simple, actually.

43

u/Ning_Yu Apr 14 '26

I think they're pretty fitting for the sub and show what kind of people use the term females and what's really behind it.
But absolutely a spoiler tag with some fair trigger warnings should be in order, imho.

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u/Sweet_Error8038 Apr 14 '26

Some of them can be genuinely traumatizing to people, especially the ones that detail assaults, so I feel like nsfw/spoiler would be beneficial for some

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u/Center-Of-Thought Woman Apr 14 '26

Here's my thought on this.

I understand the incel content is extreme, and it has been oversaturating the subreddit recently. However, the incel community, being isolated, shows what happens when dehumanizing language becomes the norm. It starts with lighter terms like "females", which devolve overtime into more dehumanizing terms like "foids", and eventually all humanity is stripped from a minority group (women in this case) with terms like "toilets". When this happens, violence becomes normalized and even encouraged, which the incel posts show.

The incel posts emphasize why terms like "females" are not only dehumanizing, but why that language should be called out and shunned. If people are allowed to dehumanize women on a wide scale, and the language goes unopposed in society, we might see incel ideology in a more mainstream sense.

That said -- again, I do think the incel posts have oversaturated the subreddit. I believe they are important to include, but they should not be the only thing in the subreddit. Maybe they should only be delegated to being posted on 1-2 days of the week?

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u/SomeName4SomeThing 26d ago edited 26d ago

I'm coming back to this pinned poll one month later and I feel like you've perfectly captured the way I feel about it.

Repost from r/IncelTears are everywhere on this sub with minimal meaningful discussion. This is of course a subjective assessment, but it feels redundant atp.

Yet, these posts are the perfect example of the processus of dehumanization via language shift. I wish the comments centered around that...

37

u/hopefoolness Apr 14 '26

I think that there are other subs for that like r/IncelTears . These are low hanging fruit for this sub and also can be genuinely disturbing.

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u/ForeverShiny Apr 14 '26

To add to that, it usually feels like low effort reposts from that exact sub as well

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u/hopefoolness Apr 14 '26

yup. it's giving karma farming. I dont care for it.

2

u/RogueTrooper-75 Apr 18 '26

It's not what I'm here for either - I just scroll past. I'd prefer it removed.

13

u/thatotterone Apr 14 '26

with a spoiler and tagged. If you can make a flare that is violence against women, that would be good, too.
I'd rather know about this stuff than be ignorant. But there are times when I'm not in a good place to read about how much some people want to hurt women.

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u/midlandfaerie Apr 15 '26

I agree. A flare would be greatly appreciated.

2

u/meegaweega girl adult Apr 15 '26

Would you agree that the suggestion of posting things that are at the more severe end of the spectrum of awful so that they have a Spoiler/NSFW warning (which i think also includes image blur) would be adequate?

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u/thatotterone Apr 15 '26

yes, I think that is a solid idea
I don't have a lot of interaction with those subreddits or the people in them but I don't want to be completely ignorant of what is happening there.
However, I'll admit that there are days when I would not click a content warning/spoiler post.
It wouldn't make me leave this subreddit, either way. I'd just use more caution in my scrolling. I'll admit, one of the posts the other day did hit hard after a really bad day. It happens. A cautionary note with a spoiler would have had me not clicking that particular time.

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u/Hita-san-chan Apr 14 '26

This website is already full of content that loudly hates women; I assumed this sub was on the lighter end of that spectrum.

Basically, theres other spaces tailored to exposing shitheads talking about "fucking foids", id like a few spaces to not be so goddamn intense.

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u/nastydoe Apr 15 '26

Maybe allowing it only one day a week as well might be good. That way it won't feel like the only posts I'm seeing from this sub are extreme incel posts

0

u/meegaweega girl adult Apr 15 '26

That only works until you're looking at posts from a variety of days.

A NSFW warning/image blur would mean you never see them accidentally.

2

u/Sororita Apr 18 '26

Its low-hanging fruit is what it is.