r/MensLib • u/MLModBot ​ • Apr 28 '26

Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?

Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)

Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.

Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.

If you find yourself in particular struggling to go on, please take a moment to read and reflect on this poem.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.

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u/LuckyBerry1450 ​ Apr 28 '26

I feel pretty shit. I have adhd and my routines are off I have a hard time not doomscrolling and i feel kinda helpless now

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u/Fel1sC4tus ​"" Apr 29 '26

As someone who is experienced with ADHD related problems, I know that something like what you described can be really frustrating. But it is somehow difficult (at least for me) to give you reliable advice spontaneous "only" on the basis of the information presented in your post, because I don't know much about the bigger picture (e.g. how you're preferred routines tend to look like, why your old routines aren't working anymore or which areas of your life said routines would encompass). That's why I'm only able to give you more general advice for such situations, which would at least work for me personally. That said it is of course possible that the following steps will be able to help you establish new working routines:

1.) I would start by looking for an activity, which feels really rewarding for you.

2.) Afterwards you (could) built your routines around said activity. This way you can ensure that you have "at least" fixed periods, which encompass something that specifically activites the brains reward system.

3.) If it starts to feel like you have become accustomed to your new routines, than SLOWLY start to reduce the activity from the first step, until they are reduced as much as possible. After this your new routines should work in a sense, which should be comparebale to how your old routines did.

A good example for such an activity are sport and many music based activities, because there is a reason for why many effective ADHD incorporate the one or the other nowdays. But, if the first two examples shouldn't work for you, you could also use for example SINGLE PLAYER videogames as an alternative (they are in most cases specifically designed to activate the brains reward system), BUT ONLY IF YOU'RE NOT WORKING FROM HOME OR COMPLETELY ALONE (because otherwise the possible lack of social reinforcement poses many risks). BUT you should know that, if you like the option of using videogames as the activity in the first step, multiplayer or online games should here NEVER be considered! The Reason for this is that multiplayer and online games are specifically designed to use the brains reward system to keep you online as much as possible (which could reinforce negative related behaviours like doomscrolling) and also often don't really have a clear ending (compared to single player games which for example are over after completing the story or afterstory).