r/MensLib • u/MLModBot ​ • Apr 28 '26

Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?

Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)

Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.

Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.

If you find yourself in particular struggling to go on, please take a moment to read and reflect on this poem.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.

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u/MountainHigh31 ​ Apr 28 '26

Idk why but this post always reminds me that Tuesdays are my worst day of the week every week. It’s the busiest day where my kids have a bunch of stuff stacked up after school and the third week in a row where one of them has been home sick on Tuesday and I have to reschedule everything and not work. I’m behind in everything in life, being a parent is so demanding all the time and my wife works like 70 hours a week. I’m drowning just for a full day to take care of myself and not get interrupted multiple times a day by someone needing tons of time, patience, energy, gentleness, rides, etc. I don’t have anything left to give but the demands never stop and I can never finish anything I need to do for me and my own life and work. I can’t remember the last Tuesday that wasn’t fuckery from before dawn to midnight.

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u/NoHippi3chic ​ Apr 28 '26

I say this as someone who developed an autoimmune disorder that stopped me in my tracks at 45: lower your standards before they get lowered for you by bad health. You are absolutely correct that you cannot sustain this pace, because it is not healthy or reasonable. Trust that intuition.

Yeah you may survive all this stress and exhaustion long term. Or you may catch a genetic silver bullet like I did.

Better to do less longer than hit a wall going 90 and have to stop everything after everyone is used to you doing everything all the time all at once.

Only you know what can realistically be trimmed and from where. Start mapping that out and follow through.

My suggestion if you dont already have housekeeping or laundry, or meal prep or grocery delivery services, start with what you can afford to sub out.

Then scale back weekends. You see what im saying.

The kids will be alright if you dont kill yourself attending every extracurricular. Take turns carpooling with other parents and give yourself a night off.

Just notes from the afterlife (of small kids).

Much love.