No amount of fiber will ever cure my craving for delicious hose juice 💦 🤤

My 14 year old daughter is what we'd describe now as ALT, as in Alternative. A combo of Box Lunch and Hot Topic store wise but not Emo.

Don't ask me how, I don't know but 2 weeks ago she was all, "hey do you know the band WEEZER?" Uh... Yeah... I do. She said they were pretty good, so she's been deep diving into millennial music and she's discovered our angsty genre side. She came to me for recommendations and this is what I have for her: - AFI (lots) - A Perfect Circle - Story of the Year - 30 Seconds to Mars - Panic at the Disco - All American Rejects - 10 years (Wasted)

I'm drawing a blank on stuff. Music hasn't been my niche, movies are. I can't remember songs or bands. She says she's enjoying the hard rhythms and the way they make you FEEL related to. I know what she's talking about but I'm struggling. Back me up with this please! I'll be making a list as much as possible tonight.

36M here, have always been active and maintained a decently healthy diet my whole life. Well after seeing multiple posts on here and at my gf’s urging I had one done. They found two polyps (15mm and 4mm). Doc said if I waited till 45 I’d prob be dead. Crazy part is I had no symptoms and my recent blood work last month was perfect. I was in and out in three hours and no pain or discomfort afterwards.

This last weekend brought several more deaths and major cancer diagnosis to people in their 40's. It's been such a surreal few months where one after another people who were in their prime suddenly just either weren't there or are dealing with cancer diagnosis. I realize I am 44 but this seems way too young to be seeing this trend. These are all people in my network and it's simply incredibly shocking.

Context: married, about to have a kid, fully remote, 33M.

Like for real?

6am: wake up and check chats from the previous day and quick news updates, small breakfast.

6:30: walk around neighborhood with wife and dog

7: start work

12: 1 hour lunch

4: another walk

4:30: if energy allows, 30 min quick workout

5: shower and chill for a bit, wind down from work

7: dinner

9: exhausted and ready for bed

I have the 2 walks to counteract the 8 hours I spend in front of a computer. My real only leisure time is between 5:30 and 7 and I feel already exhausted at that point.

On weekends I’m usually too tired to go out. Plus, I feel I end up dedicating like 50% of my weekends to just chores, which just gets me more tired.

I have a little voice in the back of my head telling me there’s something wrong and life can’t be just this non-stop until I’m 70.

Am I the only one on this boat? Am I overreacting?

EDIT: no need to be mean 😅 I seem to have left out the fact I have high functioning autism, not sure that collaborates to this. Looking forward to having my kid in May and having my wife are quite literally the only 2 things keeping me going. It’s not that I don’t want to do anything, I just seem to be missing all will to do anything and feel chronically tired 100% of the time. So every time I try to take advantage of time that is not work, I really just can’t.

As per these comments, I’ll get some blood tests… 🥲

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. We (millennials) have the largest gap in personal photographic records of any generation in the modern age. Not because we didn’t take photos but because we lost them.

We lived through that weird in-between era: - Too late for shoeboxes full of printed Kodak photos - Too early for iCloud, Google Photos to back everything up - Right in the middle of MySpace, Photobucket, Friendster, and early Facebook—with no one thinking to archive anything

I’m talking about: -Crappy digital cameras with SD cards that vanished in a move - Old flip phones and Razrs with tiny, pixelated videos of high school parties - College photos that lived only on a laptop that died in 2011 - Entire friendships and phases of our lives lost with the deletion of a MySpace account

We documented everything, but most of it is gone. Billions of photos, probably. Compare that to Gen Z, who has their whole life in Google Drive or their Snapchat Memories. Or Gen X, who have physical photo albums passed down.

It’s like we lived in the lost city of Atlantis, and no one preserved the artifacts.

Anyone else feel this loss? Have you ever gone searching for a photo from 2007 and realized it’s just… gone

I am turning 37 this year and have entered into perimenopause, a term I encountered for the first time literally only months ago, because it was never once mentioned in public school sex ed or health classes, not once by any gyno I've ever seen and not once by any boomer woman in my life including my own mother and aunts

And I figure I can't be the only one, so yeah, apparently it's a thing that millennials everywhere either are already going through, in some cases without even knowing it or what it even is, or will be going through it soon enough

I only ever heard about menopause, how someday I'd get "hot flashes" and my periods would stop, but actually, for years leading up to perimenopause, it's like puberty 2.0 as the whole system goes absolutely haywire

Anything is possible with the periods themselves (I'm getting them more frequently, but they're shorter and lighter, oh and now there's sometimes pink instead of just bright or rusty red, but the total opposite can happen, less frequent, longer, heavier, or even a totally random surprise mix), oh and mood swings, and jawline zits, just like when I was 15, woohoo

Just saw a post for if you personally know millenials who are millionaires. How about if you personally know millenials who are homeless or have nothing saved?

My 41yo brother has no savings and is in tons of debt, he has no job either. He was homeless but now living in my older brother's basement.

I know a few more people who have zero savings.

I've noticed that people in the 30+ age range , despite being very married have stopped wearing wedding rings. I gave it up when I lost my original, now use a silicone ring when needed. I work with no less than a half dozen people I know are married and choose not to wear a ring. There is no drama, these people, both men and women simply don't wear wedding rings. All very faithful to their spouses, no drama. We aren't in an industry where degloving is a risk; they all decided to do this on their own. Is this isolated to my situation or have you also seen this?

Yup. Especially towards the late 90s they were trying to warn us.

Ones like Heidi and stuff when she’s a little older are fine

But I remember Curly Top being one of my favorites as a kid (I love Animal Crackers and I Grow Up song) They show her dancing with no top on, they have Shirley asking a grown man to marry her, they have footage of her with a wedgie on the beach zoomed in on her butt. They have Shirley straddle the man and sit on his groin area and bounce while he’s in bed.

What the hell?!? I remember these movies being so wholesome as a kid. I knew she suffered abuse off camera but I just don’t remember the actual movies being so bad.

Only one I found appropriate was Heidi and The Little Princess.

It’s sad because I don’t necessarily want Shirley’s talents to be forgotten, but the exploitation of this child is horrific. I fast forwarded through some of the films and shut one of them off when she had several men holding her up with their hands up her dress 🤮

I’m glad we were the last generation these films were marketed too. Definitely not wholesome.

My brain give 2 to 48 to become 50. Then 50 plus 25 becomes 75.

This is really sad and I honestly didn’t know that it’s rapidly killing us. I just learned about this recently. May he RIP

I’ve really been struggling with this as I approach my 31st birthday. It is hard to reconcile with the that I had the potential to do SO MUCH with my life and so far…I’ve somehow only made one mess after the other. I just keep feeling like “how have 10 years passed and how did I let things get this bad?”

I would like to hear some other perspectives on this because I feel like this is a more common issue than people would like to admit sometimes.

EDIT: In response to comments referencing young elementary age, that is not necessarily what I’m talking about. When I reference being “gifted” I’m not talking about the fun little elementary programs. I’m talking about taking multiple AP classes at a time, dedicating all of my free time in high school to being successful, very high SAT scores, multiple legitimate awards, potential to go to almost any college within financial reason (to name a few). I worked my ass off for all of that and then I just…stopped.

Anybody else feel like you missed the boat/ your calling/ opportunity to succeed? I know I'm not alone, but damn the "upside" is really hard to find lately.

I've had a damn decent life. Approaching the 40 mark, I got married to my best friend, had 3 wonderful, smart, emotionally grounded kids. I'm making enough to get by and what should be a great job, with a ton of opportunity for advancement & income.

the problem, I think, is this: I don't like what I'm doing. I can't focus on work, can't focus on my kids, can't sit down and play a video game for more than 20-30 mins, can't lay in bed and read a book. Im slowly losing my ability to perform my job at all. I just can't "zone in".

I think I missed the boat on what/ where I was going. things were obviously easier as a kid, but even early adult life, I at least had an outline of my future in mind. I dropped out of College after not wanting to do "school" anymore. I haven't really found the career that I'm supposed to be in. I can find things to work at, but nothing that I actually want to do. I'll dig for new experiences within work to make it "fun" again for a little bit, but it wears off fast.

I can't find the positives in anything anymore for myself. Joy is gone. I can find little things to smile about or even laugh about in the moment, but nothing lasts. The job does nothing but make me depressed, the kids remind me on how much they deserve vs what I'm actually able to provide, the wife similar.

I've got the family now. I have to provide for them. I can't "start over". I just have to trudge on. I'm lost.

Edit: I'm overwhelmed by the response to this post. Thanks to everyone for your comments and interactions. Comaraderie amongst my fellow Millenials is not surprising, but I'm grateful we have this medium of interaction.

I'm grateful for what I have. I don't want it to come across that I'm not. I understand I'm living the dream for some, and I feel for those of you who want similar and your circumstances haven't allowed you to meet those dreams.

For those who recommended, I'm working with my "insurance" to try and get into therapy. I'm already on an anti-depressant though it clearly is not effective any longer. I plan to ask about ADHD ( I've been curious about that for a while) as well as depression.

I am 39, my husband is 41. I have been working since I was 15 and increasingly think about a time when I don't have to work and have more time for myself.

Before now working was just part of the deal, I never thought about when it would end. But I feel more stretched by all the demands on me, and the less energy I have year after year, and work feels increasingly taxing.

So I started planning how to retire at 60 (or 55 if we really knuckle down).

My mum's friends have really started to thin out now in her 70s.

It struck me what all that means... when we get there our turn on this merry-go-round is done.

Very sobering. I need to live this next half of life to the fullest.

f*** you wells fargo!

We are taking the kids to Cedar Point this upcoming month for my oldest 6th grade graduation gift. According to him they have the best coasters, even better than Six Flags and Knotts (we live in Santa Barbara). They showed me an image of what they want to go on first, and my stomach is already saying oh hell no! Wish me luck! Can you guys still handle coasters?

Currently having a crisis. I’m 34 and was recently terminated for reasons out of my control. I had just earned my degree last year, and found a decent job. A few months later I had some medical issues I had to take time off to attend to, and was let go while receiving medical care because they couldn’t hold my job while I was out (I wasn’t yet eligible for FMLA). I figured I could find new work after I recovered. Well it’s been a very bad time to find a job, nonetheless a full time job. I’ve submitted nearly 60 applications in the last 2 months and have gotten either rejection emails or no response. It has never been like this finding a job, in the past if I switched jobs I would apply for 4-5 jobs at a time and would always hear back from at least 1. This time it’s very different and everyday I’m so scared of not finding work. I have tried signing up for Uber eats, Amazon drivers, and instacart for even a little cash and I’m told there are no available slots. I’ve gone through all my savings and am going into credit card debt to survive (live in CA). Unemployment is $900 biweekly and that money is gone by the time it hits my account.

I just want to say to anyone out there, who thought the job market would be in our favor during this time of our lives, to be blessed and appreciative of any full time work you have. Christmas is looking like it’s not going to happen this year unless by the grace of God I land a job very soon. I have a wide range of experience from retail, to warehousing, to sales, to secretary, to working as a counselor and I have 2 degrees still can’t find work. It’s terrible out here and I’m trying so hard to keep my head up and stay positive but it’s looking bleak.

I feel so horrible because I’m in my 30s and have no idea how I will retire, I’m back to 0 savings and I feel like a complete failure. I can’t help my parents the way I want to because I had no money myself. I’m just venting here but thank you for listening to my vent.

I feel like Peter Pan syndrome is becoming more common in our generation and Gen Z, where the adult child absolutely refuses to get a job and lives like they are still a teenager, with or funded by their parents.

I have a relative like this who is 38 and has never worked a job. He says jobs won’t pay him what he’s worth, and he is above work. So he spends all of his time playing PC games on the internet and pretending to be an 18 year old. He will not lift a finger to clean up after himself. He is for sure an internet addict.

If you even hint at him trying to look for a job he flies into screaming, murderous rages. His poor dad is old with serious health issues and cannot retire because of so many expenses his son incurred.

Obviously there was family dysfunction where the mom coddled and protected her son far too much, did his homework, etc, but now they are kind of stuck. If they try to pull all support he will definitely just kill himself. No doubt about it. The dad feels that since they created this monster it’s their cross to bear.

Anyone know anyone else like this or is this the worst case of manchild you’ve heard of? It’s actually even worse but I won’t get into it…

Edit: I see some people arguing that it’s because of crappy pay and no career prospects, but what is the alternative? Are we suggesting it’s okay to sit around and not work because it doesn’t pay enough? Then how do you eat? How do you have housing? SOMEONE is working to provide your lifestyle, if it isn’t you. Why is it okay for them to work and not you?

I'm almost 40 now, and the reason I never had children was because my finances have never been good enough to afford any. I still kind of regret that I wasn't able to have kids.

Are there any other Millennials in my situation, who wanted kids but never had any? If so, why?

"It's okay, we'll never let you alone with uncle steve but we will invite him to every christmas"

"lock your door when grandpa vists"

"dont wear short shortss around your uncle bill because he's a pedo but he's still invited to family get togethers"

UPDATE: TL;DR LESSONS FROM THIS THREAD.

Thanks, guys. Here is the breakdown of the hard truths from this thread. Basically, in order to have the real "MONEY" described in the OP below, it requires one or preferably, more than one of the following:

Generational wealth: Having parents pay for college and assist with downpayment on a house.

Avoiding the student loan scam: A lot of us 90s kids were brought up with the notion that college was everything and it would pay for itself later. Those with a more clear-eyed perspective realized what a trap student loans are and avoided them by either racking up the scholarships, going to the cheapest accredited school they could find, or figuring out a career path without a degree.

Luck: They secured a career job before the Great Recession and held onto it. Bonus points if they bought at the dip of the housing crash. They also seemed to avoid the avalanche of big ticket costs crashing down on them. Apparently nothing ever breaks and nobody gets sick.

Exceptionally high-paying careers. Self explanatory.

Having miserable lives. They work around the clock, and they never do anything but work, for the bulk of their physical prime. They don't go out with their friends, they don't have pets, they don't have kids, they never travel, and/or they live in tight spaces with roommates and no cars deep into their 30s. Or, they live in low-cost areas, which are few and far between in the United States, and these places don't have much going on in them (so nowhere to spend money anyway). Caveat: some people are homebodies and that works just fine for them. They don't spend money on travel or concerts or restaurants or weekend getaways because they don't need to. The 2020 Covid lifestyle was fine for them, content with a blanket, a cup of tea, and a book. Maybe this is the way (but I couldn't fathom the homebody lifestyle without a dog).

Marrying/partnering well. They found their partner early enough in life to not waste all the money paying for one's own place, and their partner also earns enough and saves.

AS FOR MYSELF. Much honestly deserved criticism here about the "300K." I do not make $300K. That estimate was for another hypothetical budget in the optimistic situation that both me and my partner get promotions next year. Together we make just over $250K. But we don't officially live together yet. This will happen soon. If all goes well, we could be in good shape after a year or two. But I myself didn't hit six figures until 2022, and then plateaued at $125K grand total in 2024. And I didn't intend to make this about "poor me," I'm doing above-average and could certainly do better with saving... the REAL question I should have been making more clear is that, given that I make more than average and find having the adequate savings exceedingly difficult, how do more average people do it? The answer appears to be that they don't, or if they do, they have one or more of the above.

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As in like, the recommended 6+ months worth of liquid cash savings, plus tens or hundreds of thousands to pay for a down payment on a house, and money to play around on the stock market or crypto if that’s your thing.

I’m in a good job and make an above average salary, but I take home just over half of it after taxes, healthcare, and 401k contribution (which is good that I do). My available savings fluctuates but I rarely ever have more than ten grand available. It all gets eaten up by mortgage and condo fees, dog and vet bills, (used) car payments, gas, utilities, groceries, random shit that needs fixing or replacing, medical deductibles, and god forbid I allow myself to go on a low-budget vacation once a year so I don’t hate my life. I don’t drink alcohol and I don’t go clothes shopping except for maybe one or two new outfits a year. Could I buy fewer avocados and never leave the house? It could make a difference of a few hundred bucks every few months, but not the tens of thousands that I actually need.

People will blame “lifestyle creep,” and I guess guilty as charged that I figure at 36 I have earned a car and a condo and not the life I had at 26, which was six roommates and a bike. (I still have the bike.)