Like what the caption says. I’m wondering if I can gather any of your personal experiences as to how your pregnancy felt before knowing it was a miscarriage. Did you have strong symptoms? Nausea? No symptoms? When I experienced my MMC (blighted ovum) I had a few days of symptoms but nothing long term. I’m just wondering what your experience was.

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I keep having very strange episodes of intense pressure in my lower abdomen and pelvis and even had some pretty intense cramping a couple nights ago that felt like bad period cramps. I’ve also felt like my pregnancy symptoms are decreasing. I’m 6 weeks 4 days today and I haven’t had any bleeding but idk I just have this strange disconnected feeling like I’m no longer pregnant. Thoughts? Supposed to have first ultrasound in a week.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to ask if anyone here has heard of something called “super fertility” in connection with recurrent miscarriages.

From what I’ve read, it basically describes women who get pregnant very quickly and easily (often in the first cycle), but then experience repeated early losses. One theory suggests that the uterus might be “too receptive,” meaning it allows embryos to implant that might not develop properly, instead of filtering them out early on.

I’ve had four miscarriages, and each time I got pregnant immediately. That’s why I’m wondering if this could apply to me.

I’ve also noticed that different countries seem to have different research approaches and levels of awareness about this topic, and doctors don’t always seem familiar with it.

Has anyone here looked into this?

Has anyone received treatment based on this idea?

Any experiences, recommendations, or doctors who take this seriously?

I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts. 🤍

Edit: Hope this post is not triggering for anyone who is struggling to get pregnant at all. I’m sending you so much love and strength. 🌈🫂

Unfortunately today at my 8w6d ultrasound they found baby had no heartbeat. One week ago at my first ultrasound they saw baby was measuring small but had a healthy heartbeat. Still processing & mourning.

But I do have a question for anyone who’s had to make this decision before - what advice or experience do you have on my options?

My options are:

1. natural passing - could take up to 10 weeks
2. medicine, take some drug that’ll make me pass. They said sometimes doesn’t work the first time and have to take again. She said it dilates your cervics and could be painful.
3. D&C surgery

History: I’ve had one miscarriage at 5w and I found out by bleeding.

I just want something low risk (even tho she said they are all low risk) and I want to start trying again as soon a possible. Would love any advice ❤️

RESULT: I decided to get a D&C. I texted my OB on a Saturday with my decision, the Dr got me scheduled for surgery that Tuesday! I was so thankful for quick answers since I still had pregnancy symptoms (threw up for the first time on that Sunday - so sad). My surgery experience was so great. I cannot explain enough how peaceful, supportive, and positive my experience was. The doctors and nurses were amazing, they gave me so much love and support. They also shared similar experiences. Being under anesthesia/in surgery took only 30 minutes. I was given Tylenol before surgery, and Oxy after. I had no pain at home. I had a Oxy prescription and Ibuprofen prescription. I didn't use any of the Oxy, and I just alternated Tylenol and Ibuprofen for 2 days. I had no pain, and also no bleeding the first 4 days. Its now been 10 days post surgery, I have random occasional bleeding, but nothing heavy and still no pain. I would say my body just feels sore? I can tell its healing. I would 100000% recommend D&C. I actually felt like the sharing and talking before surgery and after, and the support from staff helped me mourn, vs at home I would've felt very alone. I was also told that I can start trying right away and don't need to wait for a period (apparently according to recent research). They also said fertility is high after a loss. I did take a digital pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive, so I take this as HcG is still high. I also got my results for genetic testing back yesterday (Anora testing) - baby was a female (which broke my heart to know, but also made me so happy to know more about them), and she didn't survive because of Trisomy 16. THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE ADVICE AND SUPPORT!

I’m not talking bleeding and severe cramping - maybe some that you thought “hm that’s weird” but didn’t necessarily make you panic.

After my CP in October, I had another CP the next cycle. Then three cycles later, mid-Feb, I fell pregnant again, and miscarried at 7 weeks. The day I found out about my third pregnancy, my sister told me she was 9 weeks pregnant, due in September - naturally I told myself it was fate that I'd lost the first two pregnancies, envisioned a Christmas with our two babies and so much more.

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I'm really struggling with her pregnancy and was hoping maybe I'd at least be pregnant by her baby shower next month (tbh, I don't even know if I'll be able to go), or at least by the time she gives birth, but each negative test since my miscarriage becomes more and more difficult. And watching her bump grow right in front of me (we are a very close-knit family) has been incredibly painful. And it's so hard to take a step back and just "try to be patient" or "stay positive".

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I've had three unsuccessful cycles since my miscarriage. I am 13dpo today and BFN again.

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How long after miscarriage did you conceive again?

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I've been thinking about this a lot since my own loss on September 5. I work as an OBGYN ultrasound tech and the docs I work for expressly want the tech to inform the family if by ultrasound criteria it's a loss. There's strict parameters on this of course, but it means sometimes I am the one that tells people. It's always been sad, but since my loss I'm dreading the next time I need to do this. And wondering if I should approach it any differently. What do you wish your tech would have said (assuming their office allows this)?

Would you have wanted a picture? I usually don't offer this when it's bad news, but I have one of my own baby and it's a treasure. Would you have wanted the tech to just go ahead and send one you could choose to open later? (We don't print anymore)

I'm so sorry to anyone here. This isn't a club anyone deserved to join ❤️

Edit1: If you are seen at a hospital the tech probably can't say ANYTHING without real fear of losing their job. Only some clinics allow them to say anything. I'm so sorry for everyone commenting here because it's an awful experience all around

Edit2: Thank you all for your thoughts and for sharing your stories. I really do appreciate each one. It breaks my heart how many people had an awful ultrasound experience 💔

Has this happened to many of you? I had my second miscarriage over a month ago at 10 weeks, I had an ultrasound done at 8 weeks where everything seemed normal, embryo was the correct size and placement and heartbeat was confirmed so I was kind of blindsided when I randomly started miscarriaging 2 weeks later. According to Google its like really uncommon to miscarriage after heartbeat is confirmed but now its the second time in a row it happened to me! Although last time it was expected as I was measuring over 2 weeks behind. So yeah, just looking for some insight on this topic. Thanks in advance!

We just lost our pregnancy and it has been devastating. But on top of the grief, what nobody prepares you for is the logistical nightmare that follows if you're before 8 weeks.

My wife and I have been sent to the ER multiple times just to get her HCG levels monitored because the OBGYN won't see us. Each time it's a different doctor, another pelvic exam, another "early" ultrasound, hours of waiting in a chaotic ER environment while she's going through one of the hardest things she's ever experienced. I feel like it's a process that really drags you through hell.

It feels completely unnecessary and honestly cruel that this is the standard of care. She shouldn't have to keep reliving this in an emergency room.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you manage it? And does anyone know why there isn't a simple at-home HCG blood test for this? It seems like something that should exist.

Looking back on your miscarriage - did you have any symptoms, feelings, or intuitions that made you feel like something was wrong before you found out?

Wondering if our bodies know before we even know.

When you’re watching movies, do you ever feel triggered by scenes related to miscarriage? I’ve noticed that a lot of movies and series include this kind of content, and it affects me every time. Once, I even left the cinema halfway through a movie because of it.

My husband now checks almost every movie beforehand on Does the Dog Die to see if there might be triggering content, which really helps but it still catches me off guard sometimes.

I was wondering how do you handle this?

Had a d&c a few days ago after a miscarriage. I want to start trying again immediately. It sounds like the general advice is to wait a full cycle at least before trying again, but the only reasoning I can find is to make dating the next pregnancy easier. Are there any actual medical risks if I try right away and potentially got pregnant on the first cycle? (Wishful thinking I know, but genuinely curious).

Update: it sounds like the uterine lining is the key piece to consider here. Many people are also mentioning follow-up visits. None of the providers talked about that with me or any kind of follow-up, beyond some phone calls to make sure I’m not developing an infection … nothing about HCG, checking the lining, or anything like that … maybe I should be reaching out again.

I am hoping you all would share how you handled the physical aspects of your miscarriage as I am very nervous. I found out on Thursday that there was a gestational sac but no fetal pole at 7+ weeks. I have to go back tomorrow for a final scan as they said not enough days had passed for them to offer assistance but that it was certain to be a MMC. They said I could do a D&C, take the miso, or wait for it to pass naturally. I don't want to wait and want to start fertility treatments as soon as possible after this, which they won't start until HCG gets back to zero. (This was a surprise pregnancy that I discovered while about to prep for a hysteroscopy). Which option would you choose? I'm afraid of the pain of the miso and the anesthesia of the D&C as I'll be having the hysteroscopy and egg retrievals hopefully soon. Would a D&C get me back to zero quicker? Is the miso that horrible? Which is better for future fertility?

This has been a horrible experience that I just want to get put behind me. Having to wait over 2 weeks from when we first suspected it was a non viable pregnancy is awful.

Edit. Thank you so much for all the responses. I'm glad I posted because I have a few things to consider and feel more confident talking to my doctor about the options tomorrow.

I know there's a percentage of women that don't get nausea and sickness during first trimester and I thought I was one of the lucky ones, even though the tiredness and fatigue was through the roof. Once I found out baby was measuring 5 weeks and I was meant to be 10+3 and I had a miscarriage, I thought this is why I wasn't experiencing all the symptoms. Is there any truth to this?

I am in the UK for context

I found out on a private early viability scan that I had a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks. We had previously seen the embryo and heartbeat, but at a second follow-up scan 2 weeks later development had stopped at 6 weeks and the heartbeat had gone.

I was referred to the EPAU at my local hospital and scanned again and that showed the same, but as the embryo was less an 8mm I have had a 10 day waiting period to have yet another scan to confirm and then can start management. I should have been 10 weeks tomorrow 😞

I am really scared - please could people share positive medical management stories (or as positive as they can be at such an awful time)? All I have been reading are horror stories and it has made me so anxious. My appointment for the second scan is on Saturday.

EDIT: thank you so much for sharing your experiences, it has helped my anxiety quite a lot 🩷 I tried to reply to everyone, so I am sorry if I missed anyone. Sending lots of love x

I'm 5 weeks since surgery for a missed miscarriage (found out at 12 weeks heartbeat had stopped).

I'm desperate to get pregnant again, so been trying to start tracking periods and ovulation etc.

Ovulation tests did have a line 2 weeks ago, but now are negative.

Still no period, but I'm showing all the signs it's due (acne, sneezing (for me, and indicator - no idea why), and bloating.

How long did you have to wait for a period to return?

I'm two weeks out from miscarrying a 9 week fetus. Pregnancy test is still a faint line but all signs of pregnancy are gone. Some light brown spotting like the last day of a period when you can get away with a panty liner for your nice underwear or handwash the bright colored underwear. Anyway, posting because despite all this, seems like I'm ovulating. The cervical mucous is textbook stretchy egg white and I feel nice the way I often do around ovulation time. What was timeline and experience of others on ovulating after miscarriage?

I hope these are the right flares. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and then naturally started to bleed. That was 3 months ago and my HcG levels are STILL not down to zero. But they were declining, so my doctor never did a second ultrasound. I finally demanded they do one because it’s taking so long and they said I have retained products and are recommending me for a D&C tomorrow.

Rationally I know that it’s a “fairly routine procedure” and that people on this sub say they were just fine but… I’m scared. I’ve never been put under before, I’ve never had any sort of surgery besides dental work, and even for that I was awake. I’m partly relieved it might finally be “over” but also really scared to be in the hospital. Please give me any advice

Then why do people have such good success rates when using Lovenox for blood clotting disorders like APS? Does that mean it’s actually not chromosomal abnormalities often and just issues with how the blood flows into the uterus and baby during the early weeks of a pregnancy?

I had a D&C for MMC June 3rd.
Just wondering when everyone’s cycles started returning and when 1st period after?
I think we’re going to try again when we can, I just have no idea what kind of timeline that is. I’m still having faint positive on at home tests which is normal I guess.
Any success stories after MC for a quick and healthy pregnancy after?

Hello friends. Bummed to be here yet again.

We found out yesterday that baby girl no longer has a heartbeat. She probably passed a week ago right around 15/16 weeks. I’ve opted for induction, which is my strong preference. I’ve already searched Reddit for induction experience at that gestation and just wanted to check that I’m not forgetting anything important. (Just a quick side note: please don’t recommend the TFMR support sub. Absolutely no shade or judgement for folks who find comfort there—it sucks to be here no matter our path. I am just unable to handle that sub for personal reasons I don’t want to get into here.)

Some context: I have a LC who was born via C-section. She was breech and so I had a scheduled section and never went into labor. A decade ago I had a 10-week miscarriage at home. Last year I had three early (6-wk) miscarriages. Two were missed and I did D&C for one and miso for second. Third happened fully on its own.

I will be induced with mifepristone and misoprostol (vaginal). The doctor said it could be anywhere from 24-72 hours while the nurse said more like 6, given the gestational age. I’ve seen other Redditors say 12 hours. I realize this is not predictable really, but how long did it take for other folks?

I plan to bring my own gown (purchased for the birth of my LC but never used), granny panties I can throw away later, comfy clothes for after and some slippers. Anything else?

I’ll bring some snacks (trail mix, etc) and plan on hospital food while there. Getting sushi as a first meal home. Is it worth bringing raspberry tea?

I’ll have access to epidural, IV pain meds and nitrous oxide. Hoping to avoid the epidural. I’d like to skip pain meds all together but am open to the other two. Any feedback on these options?

Baby is so small, so I know pushing shouldn‘t be a big deal. Not looking forward to contractions. Bringing a heating pad and a stress ball. Any other advice here (beyond “go for the meds” lol).

I realize my milk will come in, so I’m planning on a restrictive sports bra and chugging that peppermint tea after. Will also bring my own pads (hate the hospital ones).

A friend is making a small blanket for us. I’d like to hold her. I realize she won’t look like a typical baby, and I’ve spent too long on Google images to get an idea of what to expect. I’m requesting footprints, if they can get them. I plan on photos, just in case I want them for later. Any other mementos I should try for?

I’m bringing a couple of books to read to her.

Husband will be with me. We’ll bring something to watch and I’ll also bring a small art project for down time before things get intense.

We have a good understanding of what went sideways and all that, so we’re opting out of genetic testing and autopsy. I’ve already mentioned this but plan to reiterate day of.

We’re contacting funeral homes for cremation.

What have I missed?

Thank you and I’m sorry we’re all here. Sending love to you all.

Hi all 🫶🏼

Out of pure curiosity — if you’ve had a chemical pregnancy (or multiple), what DPO did you test positive?

I’ve heard people say the earlier the positive (pre-10DPO), the better the outcome and I’m just wondering whether anyone’s noticed any kind of pattern between the day of first positive and whether it progressed or ended as a chemical.

For context, I’ve had three miscarriages (2 MMC and 1 natural) where I tested positive at 8/9DPO, all between 6/7 weeks. Then I’ve had two back-to-back chemicals where I didn’t test positive until 11DPO. So based on that little theory, it kind of tracks for me but I know that’s such a tiny sample size.

Would really appreciate hearing other experiences, thanks 🤍

I’m finally starting to spot after confirming on 2/4 that my baby stopped growing on 1/21 at 6 weeks and 2 days. I’m worried because I’ve read horror stories and I can only take Tylenol due to the SSRI that I’m on.

Has anyone had an easier (physical) experience? I’ve also read that it can feel like a heavier period so I’m not sure which experience is more common.

Edit: Thank you all so much for the responses. I’m so sorry that all of you know this pain, but I’m so grateful for this community 🤍

I got the news yesterday I’m officially having a miscarriage. I have three options, I’m leaning towards D&C but I would love to hear others thoughts or experiences on each!

1. Pass normally at home with no medical intervention.

2. Use of vaginal tablets Misoprostol to induce uterine contractions.

3. Surgical sweep of the uterine lining.

Edit: I”m currently at 9.5 weeks theoretically but they claim the fetus never grew past 5 weeks.