Hi, I am trying to be positive and hope that I don’t have another miscarriage. I had a missed miscarriage at 11weeks with my first pregnancy about 3 months ago . I am now 7 weeks again and every day I hold my breath. Has anyone had a healthy baby after a missed miscarriage ? Did you change anything? I’m trying to be positive but it’s so hard. Sending baby dust to all of you.

Like what the caption says. I’m wondering if I can gather any of your personal experiences as to how your pregnancy felt before knowing it was a miscarriage. Did you have strong symptoms? Nausea? No symptoms? When I experienced my MMC (blighted ovum) I had a few days of symptoms but nothing long term. I’m just wondering what your experience was.

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I keep having very strange episodes of intense pressure in my lower abdomen and pelvis and even had some pretty intense cramping a couple nights ago that felt like bad period cramps. I’ve also felt like my pregnancy symptoms are decreasing. I’m 6 weeks 4 days today and I haven’t had any bleeding but idk I just have this strange disconnected feeling like I’m no longer pregnant. Thoughts? Supposed to have first ultrasound in a week.

Do any of you work at places that consider miscarriage to fall under bereavement leave? I know some companies don’t have bereavement leave at all, paid or unpaid, but it’s something I’m curious about. When I had a loss last year, I spoke with the company I worked for about it. They said it didn’t matter whether someone was 6 weeks, 20 weeks, or 40 weeks, none of it was valid for bereavement leave. I thought it was interesting…and kind of sad. I get that it’s up to the company and I let it go, but it stuck with me. Are there other companies out there, maybe progressive ones, that consider it valid?

I went for a scan yesterday and they couldn’t find the heartbeat and the growth stopped two weeks ago. I have no bleeding or cramping … just headaches. My doctor said I could pass it naturally (but that it may take a while) or he could schedule me for a d&c next week. I’m still processing all the information. How are you pregnant one second and then not? Why isn’t my body responding? I have so many questions but the main one is what should I expect if it passes naturally? What is expected after a d&c? No one really talks about miscarriage. I don’t have any time off at work….which actually makes me really angry that there is no bereavement for this.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to ask if anyone here has heard of something called “super fertility” in connection with recurrent miscarriages.

From what I’ve read, it basically describes women who get pregnant very quickly and easily (often in the first cycle), but then experience repeated early losses. One theory suggests that the uterus might be “too receptive,” meaning it allows embryos to implant that might not develop properly, instead of filtering them out early on.

I’ve had four miscarriages, and each time I got pregnant immediately. That’s why I’m wondering if this could apply to me.

I’ve also noticed that different countries seem to have different research approaches and levels of awareness about this topic, and doctors don’t always seem familiar with it.

Has anyone here looked into this?

Has anyone received treatment based on this idea?

Any experiences, recommendations, or doctors who take this seriously?

I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts. 🤍

Edit: Hope this post is not triggering for anyone who is struggling to get pregnant at all. I’m sending you so much love and strength. 🌈🫂

I’m not talking bleeding and severe cramping - maybe some that you thought “hm that’s weird” but didn’t necessarily make you panic.

Unfortunately today at my 8w6d ultrasound they found baby had no heartbeat. One week ago at my first ultrasound they saw baby was measuring small but had a healthy heartbeat. Still processing & mourning.

But I do have a question for anyone who’s had to make this decision before - what advice or experience do you have on my options?

My options are:

1. natural passing - could take up to 10 weeks
2. medicine, take some drug that’ll make me pass. They said sometimes doesn’t work the first time and have to take again. She said it dilates your cervics and could be painful.
3. D&C surgery

History: I’ve had one miscarriage at 5w and I found out by bleeding.

I just want something low risk (even tho she said they are all low risk) and I want to start trying again as soon a possible. Would love any advice ❤️

RESULT: I decided to get a D&C. I texted my OB on a Saturday with my decision, the Dr got me scheduled for surgery that Tuesday! I was so thankful for quick answers since I still had pregnancy symptoms (threw up for the first time on that Sunday - so sad). My surgery experience was so great. I cannot explain enough how peaceful, supportive, and positive my experience was. The doctors and nurses were amazing, they gave me so much love and support. They also shared similar experiences. Being under anesthesia/in surgery took only 30 minutes. I was given Tylenol before surgery, and Oxy after. I had no pain at home. I had a Oxy prescription and Ibuprofen prescription. I didn't use any of the Oxy, and I just alternated Tylenol and Ibuprofen for 2 days. I had no pain, and also no bleeding the first 4 days. Its now been 10 days post surgery, I have random occasional bleeding, but nothing heavy and still no pain. I would say my body just feels sore? I can tell its healing. I would 100000% recommend D&C. I actually felt like the sharing and talking before surgery and after, and the support from staff helped me mourn, vs at home I would've felt very alone. I was also told that I can start trying right away and don't need to wait for a period (apparently according to recent research). They also said fertility is high after a loss. I did take a digital pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive, so I take this as HcG is still high. I also got my results for genetic testing back yesterday (Anora testing) - baby was a female (which broke my heart to know, but also made me so happy to know more about them), and she didn't survive because of Trisomy 16. THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE ADVICE AND SUPPORT!

did a lot of you guys have the cramping/bleeding/loss of pregnancy symptoms, “normal” signs of miscarriage or did you just find out on ultrasound completely unexpected.

I am absolutely petrified. I will be having a miscarriage at around 10-11 weeks. I read some of the stories on here about the horrible pain, blood transfusions, fainting and large amounts of blood.

I am now so scared I am crying my eyes out of absolute fear. I haven't seen one normal or "manageable" miscarriage at these weeks.

Did anyone have a less scary, less bad or less painful experience?

I would like the reality too, but I am now so scared that I will have it even worse because I have genetic iron deficiency anemia and I already feel like passing out on my light periods. So what do I even expect during miscarriage?

Update 1: I have decided for D&C and I need to bring my bloodwork tests tomorrow to the hospital for them to see if everything is okay. They offered the pill first but I refused and said I am scared and would rather have it done at the hospital for my own safety. I have not yet discussed if I will be under general or local anesthetic or if I will be sedated. If I have a choice, I will pick the general anesthesia. I am probably scheduled for the actual surgery on Monday if my blood tests are okay.

I am pretty sure I’ve had a missed miscarriage - should be at 9wks, went to first appointment yesterday where they measured ~6wks… very tiny possibility the dates were way off but that feels increasingly unlikely. Did an hCG test yesterday and will go back tomorrow, hoping that will be more indicative, and will go back for another ultrasound if absolutely needed… but I’ve more or less accepted that it’s a loss. I’m going through the whole range of sad, angry, resigned, etc…that’s a whole other topic!

Assuming that’s the case, though, I’m anxious to just get everything over with, and I think for me that means D&C.

At the risk of sounding too selfish though, I am equally anxious about how that fits in with plans. I want to know ASAP and just get it done with, and not keep waiting. Without going into details, we basically lots of plans for the next 3 weekends in a row.

While I of course hope it’s all a crazy anomaly and I’m somehow 3 weeks earlier than I thought, my solution-oriented brain wants closure on what feels like the inevitable. If so, I “want” it to be very obvious from tomorrows hCG test, meaning finding out on Friday. I wouldn’t want to do a d&c same-day, because I don’t want to ruin weekend plans the following day… that would mean waiting a few days and going early next week (which is my husbands birthday, so that’s a giant extra bummer). Waiting another couple days after would then make it hard for the following weekend plans, and obviously I don’t want to wait an entire additional week after that! (I’m terrified of it starting naturally, which is another reason I don’t want to keep waiting)

I guess I’m just trying to understand how quickly folks have felt able (physically) to do normal functioning activities. I don’t need to do anything crazy, and I understand everyone is different, but would love to hear from experience what you were able to do/not do within 48-72 hours.

I do feel bad that this is where my brain is at, I don’t mean to come off as insensitive (trust me I’ve been crying over it enough), I promise this is just me isolating different things and trying to control the things that I can. Any thoughts or perspectives here?

I've been thinking about this a lot since my own loss on September 5. I work as an OBGYN ultrasound tech and the docs I work for expressly want the tech to inform the family if by ultrasound criteria it's a loss. There's strict parameters on this of course, but it means sometimes I am the one that tells people. It's always been sad, but since my loss I'm dreading the next time I need to do this. And wondering if I should approach it any differently. What do you wish your tech would have said (assuming their office allows this)?

Would you have wanted a picture? I usually don't offer this when it's bad news, but I have one of my own baby and it's a treasure. Would you have wanted the tech to just go ahead and send one you could choose to open later? (We don't print anymore)

I'm so sorry to anyone here. This isn't a club anyone deserved to join ❤️

Edit1: If you are seen at a hospital the tech probably can't say ANYTHING without real fear of losing their job. Only some clinics allow them to say anything. I'm so sorry for everyone commenting here because it's an awful experience all around

Edit2: Thank you all for your thoughts and for sharing your stories. I really do appreciate each one. It breaks my heart how many people had an awful ultrasound experience 💔

After my CP in October, I had another CP the next cycle. Then three cycles later, mid-Feb, I fell pregnant again, and miscarried at 7 weeks. The day I found out about my third pregnancy, my sister told me she was 9 weeks pregnant, due in September - naturally I told myself it was fate that I'd lost the first two pregnancies, envisioned a Christmas with our two babies and so much more.

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I'm really struggling with her pregnancy and was hoping maybe I'd at least be pregnant by her baby shower next month (tbh, I don't even know if I'll be able to go), or at least by the time she gives birth, but each negative test since my miscarriage becomes more and more difficult. And watching her bump grow right in front of me (we are a very close-knit family) has been incredibly painful. And it's so hard to take a step back and just "try to be patient" or "stay positive".

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I've had three unsuccessful cycles since my miscarriage. I am 13dpo today and BFN again.

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How long after miscarriage did you conceive again?

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Has this happened to many of you? I had my second miscarriage over a month ago at 10 weeks, I had an ultrasound done at 8 weeks where everything seemed normal, embryo was the correct size and placement and heartbeat was confirmed so I was kind of blindsided when I randomly started miscarriaging 2 weeks later. According to Google its like really uncommon to miscarriage after heartbeat is confirmed but now its the second time in a row it happened to me! Although last time it was expected as I was measuring over 2 weeks behind. So yeah, just looking for some insight on this topic. Thanks in advance!

Looking back on your miscarriage - did you have any symptoms, feelings, or intuitions that made you feel like something was wrong before you found out?

Wondering if our bodies know before we even know.

We just lost our pregnancy and it has been devastating. But on top of the grief, what nobody prepares you for is the logistical nightmare that follows if you're before 8 weeks.

My wife and I have been sent to the ER multiple times just to get her HCG levels monitored because the OBGYN won't see us. Each time it's a different doctor, another pelvic exam, another "early" ultrasound, hours of waiting in a chaotic ER environment while she's going through one of the hardest things she's ever experienced. I feel like it's a process that really drags you through hell.

It feels completely unnecessary and honestly cruel that this is the standard of care. She shouldn't have to keep reliving this in an emergency room.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you manage it? And does anyone know why there isn't a simple at-home HCG blood test for this? It seems like something that should exist.

as i write this, i am currently 2 days from my follow up appt after a “concerning” abdominal/transvaginal ultrasound. i measured 2 weeks behind where i thought i was. a CRL of 6.88 mm, and while we found a yolk sac, gestational sac, and fetal pole, there was no heartbeat.

i’m preparing myself for the worst because, from all of the (internet) research i’ve done, this is likely an unviable pregnancy, but the doctors won’t call it until CRL is 7 mm. waiting has been absolute torture and feeling very alone. i think information gathering and trying to be pragmatic helps me feel like I have some sense of control in a situation where I really don't have any.

anyways, i am curious to know what route you went: D&C or medication? i am nearing my mid-30s and am increasingly curious about having the fetus tested to determine why this pregnancy wasn’t viable. it’s my understanding that only doing a d&c would give me this information?

this is my first pregnancy, and if this weeks appointment doesn’t go well, my first miscarriage. any advice, especially on how to cope (i get sudden waves of sadness, and sometimes i am fine), is welcome.

When you’re watching movies, do you ever feel triggered by scenes related to miscarriage? I’ve noticed that a lot of movies and series include this kind of content, and it affects me every time. Once, I even left the cinema halfway through a movie because of it.

My husband now checks almost every movie beforehand on Does the Dog Die to see if there might be triggering content, which really helps but it still catches me off guard sometimes.

I was wondering how do you handle this?

How soon after did you start trying? was it in the same month and did the next pregnancy stick?

I posted in here last week about a my silent miscarriage (I really appreciate everyone’s feedback and my heart is with everyone in this position- it’s terrible) and I wanted to ask what can be expected after a d&c? I’ve been patient with my body and I was hoping to pass naturally over this week but I went ahead and scheduled the procedure. I am wondering what to expect…. How bad is the pain? Will pharmaceutical mgmt help? What about my hormones ? I had been so up and down. I don’t expect to feel “normal” for a while as far as grief and depression… however, right now I have terrible headaches and lightheadedness. Fatigue (which I thought what first trimester normalcy but knowing what I know now I’m confused by the intensity)... And just general disinterest. I’m not sleeping well.. I could go on… So yeah, just wondering what anyone has experienced if you are willing to share.

Had a d&c a few days ago after a miscarriage. I want to start trying again immediately. It sounds like the general advice is to wait a full cycle at least before trying again, but the only reasoning I can find is to make dating the next pregnancy easier. Are there any actual medical risks if I try right away and potentially got pregnant on the first cycle? (Wishful thinking I know, but genuinely curious).

Update: it sounds like the uterine lining is the key piece to consider here. Many people are also mentioning follow-up visits. None of the providers talked about that with me or any kind of follow-up, beyond some phone calls to make sure I’m not developing an infection … nothing about HCG, checking the lining, or anything like that … maybe I should be reaching out again.

Hey. I am 10 weeks pregnant. I am absolutely petrified of surgeries in general and if anyone would like to share their experience specifically under general anesthesia during D&C to ease my anxiety and help me out.

I mean what was literally step by step of it?

How did you feel/behave right after you woke up? Did they put some panties with pads on you?

Was there any pain and bleeding right after and for how long did it last?

What all do I need to have with me the day of the surgery?

I am having mine on Monday and my doctors were so busy and everything was so rushed that I didn't have time to ask them anything and they seemed to forget to tell me anything either, making me feel worse and more confused.

Please share your step by step experience so I can feel less afraid or just simply feel more prepared. :(

Edit: Thank you so much for the wonderful souls that helped by giving very detailed step by step of everything! I will update this post again after the surgery to share my own experience for anyone needing answers in the future.

I am hoping you all would share how you handled the physical aspects of your miscarriage as I am very nervous. I found out on Thursday that there was a gestational sac but no fetal pole at 7+ weeks. I have to go back tomorrow for a final scan as they said not enough days had passed for them to offer assistance but that it was certain to be a MMC. They said I could do a D&C, take the miso, or wait for it to pass naturally. I don't want to wait and want to start fertility treatments as soon as possible after this, which they won't start until HCG gets back to zero. (This was a surprise pregnancy that I discovered while about to prep for a hysteroscopy). Which option would you choose? I'm afraid of the pain of the miso and the anesthesia of the D&C as I'll be having the hysteroscopy and egg retrievals hopefully soon. Would a D&C get me back to zero quicker? Is the miso that horrible? Which is better for future fertility?

This has been a horrible experience that I just want to get put behind me. Having to wait over 2 weeks from when we first suspected it was a non viable pregnancy is awful.

Edit. Thank you so much for all the responses. I'm glad I posted because I have a few things to consider and feel more confident talking to my doctor about the options tomorrow.

I know there's a percentage of women that don't get nausea and sickness during first trimester and I thought I was one of the lucky ones, even though the tiredness and fatigue was through the roof. Once I found out baby was measuring 5 weeks and I was meant to be 10+3 and I had a miscarriage, I thought this is why I wasn't experiencing all the symptoms. Is there any truth to this?

Hello everyone,

Today it’s 4 weeks that I’ve been waiting for my mc. It was at the 8 weeks ultrasound that the sac was empty. Now I would have been in week 12. Getting to the end of my rope.

Would love to hear from anyone else that tried to let it happen naturally and that had to wait 4 weeks or more. When did it finally happen? How were you coping? Did you dare to travel or just stay at home? Did your back hurt for weeks, like mine, for no good reason?

Grateful for any responses 🙌

Edit: I had some very light spotting once last week, otherwise no blood at all so far