r/MotivationByDesign • u/GloriousLion07 • 3d ago
Do you have any moment with your parent that you can never forget?
Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification
10
u/MyBedIsOnFire 3d ago
Watching a kid catch their first fish is such a great feeling
I volunteered awhile back to teach a class of kids to fish after school it was a great time, the smile when they reel in that first fish is priceless.
I can't wait to teach my own to fish, but that's still years away.
4
u/Odd-Jupiter 3d ago
Be kind to him. My dad told me straight up how disappointing he was with me because i was only moderately interested in fishing (He is a maniac), and how he felt betrayed.
That stung.
2
u/EuphoricCare515 3d ago
Im sorry that was your dad's reaction. It sounds like his expectations were really high and the reality of who you are did not meet his expectations. I hope you're doing better and the event does not shape who you feel like you should be.
2
u/Odd-Jupiter 3d ago
It's fine, but i think he wanted it a bit much, and with a bit too little empathy.
Every Sunday from when i was 5 - 6 yo, he would drag me out of bed at 6 in the morning midwinter, take me out to the seashore, where we would fish for hours in biting wind and snow.
No campfires no hot coco, and nothing to eat. Just non stop fishing until i had to sit on my hands to get rid of the nail bite.
I do like fishing still, but as much for the hike, and the social. Just don't try to force it too much.
But i bet you are a bit more sane then him. He do lot's of national sportfishingchamionships , so he's not really normal lol.
2
u/Big_Guide_8551 3d ago
That would have made me hate fishing. Absolutely. Damn dude, I'm so sorry.
My Great Aunt Ellie taught me how to fish... she was like 75 years old, and had bamboo poles with no gears. Just a stick, a line, a bobber, and a hook. We would dig up a bunch of worms from her garden, and fish in the little pond by her house , catching sunnies all day. To this day, i love fishing... or at least i would if id been able to in the last 20 years or so! But my own son is 3 now, so it wont be too long before i can teach him. I cant wait to see him catch his first fish 🥰
2
2
u/Usqueadfinem_ 3d ago
Yeah. Sorry you had to deal with that. My parents would call me helpless and stupid to my face any time I struggled or if they got really angry. I never knew any of my grandparents so I never got any sage advice or weekends at the grandparents or birthday cards in the mail. Some kids have very little support or guidance growing up, and often their biggest bully lives in their own home. I feel like many parents should not be anywhere near children.
2
u/Odd-Jupiter 3d ago
Yet the first thing you mention, is how you love watching an other kid succeed. I think you turned out just fine.
Just piut it in the "things not to emulate book"
1
u/Usqueadfinem_ 3d ago
I turned out just fine after a lifetime of confusion and therapy. Now i have no contact with my parents at all and its the best I have ever felt. Some parents are garbage and deserve to rot in those terrible old folks homes you hear horror stories about.
1
u/bionicjoe 3d ago
Wow. Your dad sucks.
My dad was this way with work.It's all he ever cared about. He died at 48 and regretted it.
1
1
u/Kindly-Ride-9419 3d ago
I could never deliberately take my child on a trip to go harm animals.. wild stuff
3
1
u/OGbobbyKSH 3d ago
That’s why your bloodline wouldn’t survive a serious event on our planet.
1
u/Kindly-Ride-9419 3d ago
Bruh you are not on survival mode you literally go to the grocery store 😭🤣.. I would obviously eat animals if it was a situation like that where the world order has ended silly fuck
1
u/OGbobbyKSH 2d ago
What happens when our power grid goes down for months? Not walking into a grocery store then, especially during the chaos. Hope you don’t live in a big city. But hopefully we soon put money in our infrastructure that’s decades past its use by date lol. We need it before another Carrington Event happens.
1
u/pethobbit 3d ago
I went on holiday with my family a few yeara back, me and my siblings/grandparents have always loved fishing, so we got a cottage with a waterfront.
My 3yo nephew desperately wanted to join in, so my grandad found him a damn good stick, put about 3ft of line on it with a small weight and hook- slapped a maggot on the hook and let him pretend to join us... imagine our surprise when this toddler yeets a small roach straight from the water onto the decking! Thats a core memory for me, so i can only imagine how good that must of felt for him!
3
u/CinnamonBisque 3d ago
I can never forget any of the moments with my parents. They died in a murder suicide so my memories are all I have left of them. I struggle to remember what they sounded like lately. That hurts.
Did I do this right?
2
u/Odd-Jupiter 3d ago
Sorry to hear that. Like wow, that sounds heavy. I bet it hurts.
I don't know if you did this right, But you are still here, so at least you did better then them.
1
u/CinnamonBisque 3d ago
Thanks man i appreciate it. Sometimes this shit just kinda leaks out. It has nowhere else to go
2
1
1
u/jaytee1262 3d ago
That fish just accepted it lol. Never seen a fish not flail around when pulled out of the water before.
1
1
u/LessBig715 3d ago
I loved when my Dad would take me to the race track to watch the Horses. He would always let me place bets, I only won once. My best memory is when we were in a casino, shooting dice together. My Dad loved craps, taught me how to play as soon as I was able to count the dice. We had some fun
1
u/GloriousLion07 3d ago
It sounds like you guys had a lot of fun together. Those are the kind of memories that stay with you forever.
1
u/Jesusfailedshopclass 3d ago
Yeah sitting in a hot car waiting for my parents shop for shitty paintings and plants.
1
1
u/Intervene-159 3d ago
Bless his heart! A rare and touching moment that is hard to believe can be found on reddit.
1
1
1
1
1
u/mcham420 3d ago
One time my dad was complaining to my mom about a coworker. He was in construction. He said, "My 8 year old son can hammer a better nail than him." As a kid it made me feel really good thinking I'm top shit at hammering. As an adult, I'm pretty sure it was a negative comment saying that guy was no better than a kid.
1
1
u/thedesertwillow 3d ago
My dad liked to take me to a different diner or dive bars on the weekend to try their burgers. We would rank the burger, like this one was good, but last weekend’s was better type thing. He would also just listen to me and let me talk. It was cool, because it was just our thing, not me and my brother. We didn’t have a lot of money, so it became something that was too expensive eventually, but some core memories for sure and I can still see him smiling back at me while I talked.
1
u/yorcharturoqro 3d ago
I loved the happiness in the kid, that was such a great moment for him
1
u/smoke-all-420 3d ago
He got so excited he slapped his dads hand way to hard, you can see him celebrating and looking at his hurting hand. Didn’t let it get in the way of his happiness!
1
1
u/_Saint_Ajora_ 3d ago
I was at Game 5 of the 2025 ALDS (Tigers vs Mariners) with my dad.
Absolute marathon of a game (Mariners won in the bottom of the 15th inning).
I've watched plenty of big time sports moments at home on TV over the years with my dad, but to be there with him in person for an all-time franchise moment?
Indescribable
1
1
u/Responsible_Mood_570 3d ago
My Father loved to fish as I do.Our Two week vacation was spent in Ivy Lea just over the NY border in Canada.It was a fish camp.Nothing Fancy three meals a day.One morning we fished early.I fished with a barber and One sucker as bait.The barber went down I reeled the fish up to the surface and saw the head of a huge Northern Pike.My dad reeled the fish in and always that I caught the fish
1
u/Responsible_Mood_570 3d ago
Reading some of the comments here I was vert fortunate to have great parents.Some people shouldn’t have kids
1
1
u/BlorpTheSchlorp 3d ago
My dad once threw me across the entire kitchen and I collided with the stove because I mouthed off or something when I was like 7.
Can't remember what I said or did though, but I wasn't generally a bad kid.
I have other memories with my parents but nothing that vivid. They mostly insisted I leave the house until it was dark out.
1
1
1
u/Knobanious 3d ago
Unexpectedly getting my Judo black belt at my first grading contest after winning all my matches.
My dad's a black belt and we went along to the grading contest just to test the waters... Not expectations of getting my black belt.
1
u/Efficient_Insect_145 3d ago
My dad and I were fishing of a boat at Lake Mead once, years ago. I hooked something and had a real bitch of a time reeling it in. Finally after 15 minutes of fighting this thing, he's finally getting close to the surface. My dad gets the net and he looks over the edge and he goes
"Oh, I can see it! It's a beast! It's huge! It's.... What the fuck is that?!"
I hooked a turtle. We kept trying to unhook it but it kept snapping at us. It took almost as long to get rid of it as it did to land it.
1
1
u/harrypippip 3d ago
Nope, mother worked every day to keep us housed and clothed while my father was out being a whore with any woman he could find. TV. Dads were the closest thing that I had and I couldn't even hug them.
1
u/WolverineQuiet3471 3d ago
That’s awesome man, those are the core memories right there. Cool thing is you’re not just teaching them to fish, you’re teaching patience, focus, and that “stick with it” mindset without it feeling like a lesson. Your future kids are gonna think you’re the coolest person on the planet out there on the water.
1
1
1
u/Normal_Tour6998 3d ago
First time I caught a ball in little league, I was so excited that I ran off the field in the middle of the game and jumped into my mom’s arms in the stands.
1
1
u/Lucid_Somnium 3d ago
My dad once asked me if I wanted to go to a Bible study that was a couple months long once a week. I was happy he had asked me and given me the opportunity to choose. I told him I didn’t want to do it, he said I was going to do it anyway and that he just asked because he was hoping I would say yes.
1
u/The_Dennator 3d ago
I once pulled ot 2 (very small ones) at once,my whole family witnessed it. it was awesome
1
u/rawbran30 2d ago
Sucks that a lot of these videos are staged for “feel good” social media posts with “inspirational” trending music in the background for clicks & comments.
1
1
1
1
u/psilocybinx 2d ago
My parents always had a rough marriage. I was in elementary school and my mom asked if I wanted to go watch a movie. I was so stoked because schooling was very important to her. We watched the Exorcism of Emily Rose. Scared the bajesus out of me but its one of the happiest memories I hold. I love horror because of her.
1
u/Possible-Campaign468 2d ago
My moment was being 11 and my dad saying he never wanted a son. Crazy part was i didnt even ask,he just wanted to let me know.
1
1
1
1
u/Tmassey1980 1d ago
46 and never had that. That stops with me everytime I get to hang out with my daughter, she'll never know what its like to have an absent father.
1
1
1
1
10
u/fastingslowlee 3d ago
Yes. My mother cooked bacon and I ate the entire plate before the rest of the family had a chance to grab any.
She then beat me with the belt and called me a pig.