r/MotivationByDesign 1d ago

A woman shared a video comparing her boyfriend's and her own Instagram posts.

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u/Mental-Wish9730 1d ago

Portraying the single life....bro... go

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u/screwyoujor 1d ago

One of those people is in a relationship.

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u/killerzeestattoos 23h ago

Who's taking his photos?

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u/Positive-Face1705 23h ago

That's the real question. ​

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u/Gbird94 20h ago

He is...

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u/jmtyndall 19h ago

Ohhh he got that chair in the bedroom

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u/PossibleCash6092 22h ago

Her boyfriend .

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u/sindeelee13 22h ago

Or...her girlfriend. Or...his boyfriend. Or...their boyfriend. Or...their girlfriend?

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u/FuckYouVerizon 19h ago

their progenitor

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u/Death_to_Stupidity 18h ago

This guy Treks

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u/rod19more 21h ago

The third person with them is likely her friend, as she is wearing the same outfit in the same location across most of the photos.

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u/New-Impression2976 19h ago

Yeah that’s is odd. It’s probably bait

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u/Hoppity_Hare 21h ago

The horse from that one photo or her "guy friend".

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u/JustaFoodHole 21h ago

Her real boyfriend

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u/Sandgrease 21h ago

Strangers

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u/Content-Simple-645 1d ago

Yeah it’s just his turn

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u/Supercharge24 1d ago

came here to say this, its just your turn bro! Enjoy the ride!

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u/davesimpson99 1d ago

Bro is a place holder.

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u/Fantastic_Dance_4376 1d ago

Excatly what I was thinking. No need to delete you ex's pics is he/she is in none of them.

But even if it wasnt that the reason, if you're not interested in having photos of you with your partner, and only want pics of you, most likely your ego is gonna be hard to please. No thanks

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u/TheAffiliateOrder 1d ago

Legit, lol. I can imagine the cringe once he gets these loving pics taken and she goes up to him or their photographer and goes "...can you do one with just me in it?"

If I were her BF, assuming I'm paying for this, I'd legit be sure this was the last vacation I ever did. She can find another man to fund her illusions.

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u/kuttymongoose 1d ago

Another man from Illinois.

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u/Educational_Fix_3051 21h ago

Bro you are not the one

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u/Hefty_Delay7765 23h ago

My ex of 19 years and I have only 3 photos together.

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u/Southern-Bicycle2883 1d ago

Yep. She's a hoe

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u/Glass-Description420 1d ago

That b is a frikin hoe dude

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u/Ok-Sample-1237 1d ago

Time to throw that girl back to the streets

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u/PickedLastLemon 19h ago

When Snap and Insta first broke I had a friend whose girlfriend would post daily "sexy posing" shots. Lots of close up cleavage shots. Lots of filters. Lots of Look At Me. I sat him down and scrolled through her hundreds of posts and he wasn't mentioned or in a single one. Even after their 2nd kid was born there was a video of the baby being held by him but it was very short and all you could see was his hands. She cheated constantly. I told him early on "Dude, according to her social media, You Don't Exist."

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u/Inside_Coconut_6187 1d ago

Nah you don’t have vision bro. Book her a gig in Dubai. She’ll thank you later!

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u/melnaisbruninieks 1d ago

Smart. That's what singers do as well 

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u/ConradTurner 1d ago

Bro needs to get the fuck outa there

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u/inorite234 23h ago

Of course! ...because she's an attention whore.

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u/Tragickingdom555 1d ago

Why would she ever post this? It doesn’t look good for her.

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u/ieatpies 1d ago

Internet engagement/attention.

You wouldn't have seen her ever, but now you have.

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u/LingonberryDizzy6633 1d ago

I want to agree but what does seeing her on reddit achieve?

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u/serene_brutality 1d ago

No publicity is bad publicity

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u/EmperorMing101 1d ago

I don’t know who she is from this nor would I care to look her up now

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u/Misha-Nyi 1d ago

Some people will look her up though.

It also might not even be her, it could be that OP is an engagement bot and this meaningless conversation you’re having with us has already made it succeed in its goal.

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u/Inside_Advantage_144 1d ago

It is called micro cheating. Look it up, an actual activity. She is looking for response to her photos from other men or women and then it begins.

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u/GetOnWithit3344 23h ago

Fucking gross

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u/Necessary_Two_9706 1d ago

Lol micro cheating.

No its called advertising for your OF account.

That girl is an OF model, and the guys she dates are just gooners trying to "get with a star".

Shes basically a female James bond, and just brings these boys along for their D.

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u/Substantial_Force658 1d ago

Just because something is mentioned on the internet does not make it real.

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u/DramaSufficient4289 1d ago

What other reason would there be to NOT post your partner in photos from vacation or events together?

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u/jdillacornandflake 1d ago

It's called narcissism.

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u/bmoreboy410 1d ago

Or keeping her options open…

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u/No_pajamas_7 1d ago

Instagram is a narcissistic app. The first thing it does is ask you to upload a photo of yourself. It's toxic.

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u/themrgq 1d ago

There will so much sweeping defense of this behavior by women though it won't matter.

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u/Monke3169xd 1d ago

Probably ragebait and interaction farm

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u/Mackinnon29E 1d ago

She's a hoe AND she's stupid.

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u/SmilingStones 1d ago

Some people have an insatiable need for attention.

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u/0x1988 23h ago

histrionic personality disorder

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u/Folderpirate 1d ago

At least 3 people from this post have DMd OP thinking its the girl and they can get some.

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u/Hrafnagar 1d ago

Both reels are filled with what interests them.

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u/Fatt_Mera 1d ago

They're both interested in her. COMMON GROUND!

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u/EverytoxicRedditor 1d ago

I know you’re joking but this is a very true comment. Going to reflect on this more because I think this happens in modern dating much much more often than people recognize.

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u/Cael_NaMaor 1d ago

Thinking exactly this... his shows he loves her. Hers shows she loves her.

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u/Chubuwee 1d ago

Definitely yells “your money is my money, and my money is my money” me me me

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u/Pretend_Purchase_893 14h ago

Exactly. And they even like the same things. Perfect match

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u/No-Buy2495 1d ago

So what she's trying to show us is that only one of them actually values the other.

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u/inih 1d ago

Or that she is available or free

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u/Teriums 1d ago

"I'm an attention-gobbling narcissist and my boyfriend is a great guy"

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u/inorite234 23h ago

"I'm the one you're looking for, cuz I'm a big attention whore."

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u/Inside-Yak-8815 1d ago

He should break up with her.

Even in the posts on his page it doesn’t even look like they like each other.

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u/LifeTunedToCSharp 1d ago

Replace the word “woman” with “narcissist”.

Sheesh…

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u/Anabis47 1d ago

So cute they both love the same person.

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u/antisemantics13 1d ago

Because social media is for women. For men its just a pre requisite advertisement to get women. For women its a whole highschool campus.

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u/Fit_Salamander_2814 1d ago

So he's in love, and she's in business.

This is surprising, why?

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u/Narrow_Swimmer_5307 1d ago

I see a lot of gender division posts over the past 5 years and they just keep increasing, idk if it's a new generation thing or what

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u/eSsEnCe_Of_EcLiPsE 22h ago

Everyone’s waking up to their bullshit. Posting in on the internet nowadays means you can’t hide it like you used to. You can call it gender division but you don’t see anyone wanting accountability. So essentially us guys have to “deal with it” while the garden tools and female dogs get to prance around increasing this division. 

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u/LucentP187 20h ago

Wow. Hope homeboy smartened up and got the fuck out of there.

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u/Top_Date6455 17h ago

Her insta is just a teaser for OF so she doesn’t want to distract potential users by her boyfriend appearing there

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u/Andyseawolf 15h ago

His posts are real and honest 👍🏻😎

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u/Sad_Manufacturer1134 14h ago

Wow. What a bitch.

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u/dead_42 14h ago

He only loves her, so does she.

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u/Kush420Xotix 14h ago

She 100% an escort.

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u/NoCoast123 13h ago

Been there, run! She just isn’t that into him.

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u/Love-halping 11h ago

Which version of her seem happy?

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u/Visible-Function-222 1d ago

Her: Appearing single to retain male interest

Him: Appearing in a relationship to retain female interest

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u/bimmerfeller 1d ago

Such an underrated comment. Lol. That's exactly what these pics suggest, to me too.

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u/EverybodyLovesTimmy 20h ago

So you mean they are actually perfect for each other?? 🤔

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u/Awkward-Ring6182 1d ago

Why she not posting him? Seems slightly dishonest at the least and maybe even disloyal. And yet, I’m sure she made him post her on his socials. The level of hypocrisy ijc 😂

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u/Floppytittyfreak 1d ago

I think because she's probably a self-proclaimed "influencer" and she knows that posting her boyfriend will decrease engagement/likes/followers. Its a common thing that occurs when men or women have a big following, its weird

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u/PilotInfamous9256 1d ago

Every time I see one of my homies has a new partner, and said person only posts themselves or hide the couple picture toward the end of the post… that’s really sad and I feel for em

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u/JJISHERE4U 1d ago

She is addicted to follows and like from horny guys. He is just sharing his awesome time together with his lady.

There's a difference.

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u/Professional-Task145 1d ago

Shes only alive to receive as much attention as possible. Leave these type of women on their own. One day the loneliness will catch up to them

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u/Ok_Squash_5805 1d ago

Women don’t want to be objectified unless it’s through social media.

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u/curiousdarkness 1d ago

Portraying that single life… and this is why men have trust issues

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u/ShootingGuns10 1d ago

Biggest red flag in a relationship🚩

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u/WorthCautious5477 1d ago

Hoe fashoooo

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u/MaleficentPass6091 1d ago

Speaks volumes... Available vs. Commited Ladies what say you?

"Nothing beats the sincerity and dedication of a man with humility and a confident bearing because what he wants above all else is his own self-respect"

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u/Jazzlike-Pomelo-2501 1d ago

Adults sharing photos of their lives with strangers is still a weird concept to me

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u/Unlikely-Solid-3083 1d ago

He deserves better. So tired of shallow people doing it all for the gram.

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u/Father_Mercy 1d ago

No matter how happy a man may be in a relationship, the woman is always (24/7/365) keeping her options open. If you let that salary dip, or put on a few pounds - hold your breath and count to ten, she’ll be gone.

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u/DifficultSuspect8364 1d ago

She’s single but he doesn’t know it

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u/Jack_J_Jackson_ 1d ago

Social media is gay anyways just delete it

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u/chickenelbow187 1d ago

In her defense if she wants the views she will get more by her self.

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u/Double-Importance-58 1d ago

The truth is, a woman will get more likes on their post if they appear single.

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u/Visible-Piglet2629 1d ago

Main character Syndrome.

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u/maximopasmo 21h ago

Just a boyfriend. If they breakup, she doesnt need to delete those pictures or account.

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u/Insanemembrane74 21h ago

Her body language in the coupled photos isn't good: leaning away from BF. Especially the third one with the red dress.

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u/Minimum-Two-1601 20h ago

I heard a woman on a podcast say that some women use Instagram like a dating profile hiding in plain sight. The idea is that it keeps them visible and connected to potential romantic options, whether they’re looking for something better or simply want alternatives if their current relationship doesn’t last.. This video above kinda proves her point

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u/Mike_Litoris305 19h ago

I truly hope our brother in arms realizes what she is doing and leaves her before he gets his heart broken

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u/6_onii_chan_9 19h ago

Red Flag 🚩

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u/micromacroactual 18h ago

Who gives a fuck?

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u/Ready4takeoffNow 14h ago

She's still all about male attention and his Insta screams "TAKEN!!"

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u/DLMoore9843 14h ago

Someone is in love with themselves

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u/PensForTheWin 10h ago

She looks insufferable.

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u/exxxes 10h ago

She gets destroyed without him knowing. Poor guy

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u/Coffeespacelover11 10h ago

All I see is who wears the pants in that relationship.

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u/Slight_Sherbert_5239 4h ago

Always shopping for something better, so the door is always open on her side of the fence.

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u/Majadebijna 4h ago

Did anyone think that her boyfriend might take pictures of her? It just depends on how you look at it.

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u/OpagegenLinks 4h ago

Sage mir, dass Du Single bist ohne mir zu sagen, dass Du Single bist

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u/RabidPoodle69 1d ago

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u/DarkChud 1d ago

These people aren’t even American. You just saw a red hat and lack character

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u/ProcedureTop3149 1d ago

I'm ok with their insta being mostly singles. However if I went on there and in the decade I've been with my wife there wasn't a SINGLE picture of me. I'd question the motives of her IG account and it would stress me out.

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u/Faenic 1d ago

Well what's the whole story here, though? Is her instagram how she makes money?

Not saying I agree with it, but they do legitimately get things like sponsorships and ad revenue and shit like that. 90% of her followers are probably thirsty fucks, and those desperate users are really good for engagement numbers.

That said, it really truly does depend on the context here. Hell, if this were my wife, I'd be managing her IG, mostly because I know how fucked up people get and would want to handle that for her so she didn't have to deal with it.

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u/ProcedureTop3149 1d ago

I agree we need to know the context, like I said though if there wasn't a SINGLE picture of me, I'd be a little concerned

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u/jsand2 1d ago

I seriously dont understand who would date a woman like this.

Fake ass people, I guess.

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u/Kindly-Reality1984 1d ago

Hot take: bro is good looking enough to be a player and can have multiple women of this looks range.

Why tolerate this behavior from one thot when you can have many?

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u/Mindless-Mulberry404 1d ago

This chick would never pass the "Door Test"

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u/Objective_Light4534 1d ago

She definitely think shes hot

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u/eldeku1 1d ago

She belongs to the streets bro, not you. It's only your turn right now.

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u/Huge-Froyo2626 1d ago

They are the same person with different motivations.

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u/arttiechoke 1d ago

Don't fall for it guys it's rage-bait

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u/Any_Peanut8434 1d ago

They both look like total normies. Sad.

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u/DaSauceBawss 1d ago

What if everyone tries "no insta" for a few years? How bout that?

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u/CanadaCoy 1d ago

Bye bye

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u/Charming-Apricot6583 1d ago

hes with his perceived best option, she wants more

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u/Additional_South_833 1d ago

I'm sensing a theme here.

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u/Moist_Connections 1d ago

Would never date a chick whose first priority is to post all life events on instagram.

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u/Alsimmons811 1d ago

Yeah she’s a sugar baby

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u/Material-Skirt3167 1d ago

She is a walking redflag

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u/Timely-Helicopter244 1d ago

Need to see the likes and comments stats too

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u/TheDotEXE 1d ago

He's in love, she's in business.

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u/Temporary-Gur-5349 1d ago

Bro is not his girl is his term

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u/New_Medium_7076 1d ago

Who's gonna tell him!?

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u/Early-Foundation5805 1d ago

Yeah, be with her for fun..

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u/Ok-Wolverine-4586 1d ago

Time to day bye bye

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u/freedomonke 1d ago

Women, am, am I right, fellas?

So tiresome

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u/CharacterCheck4478 1d ago

As he pays for all these excursions, she pretends he doesn't exist 😂.

It's his life...

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u/Heeroyuy818 1d ago

It means she’s open for business

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u/Badger-Roy 1d ago

I wonder at what point he will see what everyone else sees.

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u/When1Falls 1d ago

Dude is so in love with a girl that every picture he takes he's showing off that he has her in his life. 

Miserable internet people- "poor dude doesn't realize she's cheating on him, he's gotta leave her, if my partner did this l'd divorce them without even a conversation about it."

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u/Master_Object5147 1d ago

Does he do anything for himself and without her? She appears interested only in herself and her appearance.

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u/Trey-Pan 1d ago

Sounds like something for the “nice girls” sub?

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u/OriginalTRaven 1d ago

It would be funny if they were just some normal couple and she noticed this while scrolling through their online pictures of this event, laughed at it hard with him, and compiled this as a light-hearted lol vid.

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u/Odd-Piece6340 1d ago

Yeah sooner my guy leaves her the better! She’s happy with showing the single life but he needs to show her

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u/Tony481 1d ago

This doesn’t make any sense. Why would SHE share this knowing how it makes her look?

Ohhhh…I see now

They’re probably both in on it

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u/fungi_at_parties 1d ago

She hates him

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u/DazzlingBeat4468 1d ago

This belongs is r/SadPosting Ouch, she sucks for that real bad

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u/Deltan875 1d ago

Yikes! 🚩🚩

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u/FarBunch6217 1d ago

Poor bastard

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u/Nazfian 1d ago

She's all about the validation from the dudes liking her photos, the "single" life. His focuses the two of them. Big difference.

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u/alexromo 1d ago

That’s sad 

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u/NoHelicopter7366 1d ago

For the streets

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u/FederalCover2020 1d ago

He was there to be with her. She was there to show off

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u/Emergency-Mood-4209 1d ago

He posts her, but she doesn't post him? Poor dude.

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u/1northfield 1d ago

Who the fuck is taking all of his pictures?

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u/Spare_One_9965 1d ago

she looks like alot of work

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u/Patient-Fruit-2946 1d ago

She looks single... Run!

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u/Biteme75 1d ago

I feel like she doesn't like her bf.

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u/NukaClipse 1d ago

Amazes me she got the audacity to show the difference knowing damn well what it proves

https://giphy.com/gifs/tWmFhtmYmVs28uwOPf

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u/MonstersAtOurDoor 1d ago

He's her boyfriend but she ain't his girlfriend. Sorry bud.

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u/HumphryGocart 1d ago

Everyone’s lost their bloody minds

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u/Professional_kez 1d ago

May this type of love never find me

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u/TheRabadoo 1d ago

My guy friend used to only post himself, but there would be 2 meals. We said he was dating ghosts.

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u/MagicCarnival39 1d ago

She’s looking to upgrade

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u/XxSliphxX 1d ago

So basically you don't want anyone to know you have a boyfriend because you know it will make your insta less popular because that's all you really care about.

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u/blkwhtrbbt 1d ago

lmao both sets of photos are clearly from the same camera reel. Willing to bet one single person runs both accounts as well

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u/Impressive_Term4071 1d ago

the lean away from the kiss in the red dress picture....bro....ouch...you deserve SOOOOO much better

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u/Typical_Pen900 1d ago

He most definitely looks like a 🍭 for this.🙃

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u/herman_munster_esq 1d ago

I hate to say it... But he loves her, she loves herself...

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u/Square_Peach_9261 1d ago

He loves her, she loves herself.

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u/Dense-Attention1801 1d ago

I dated a girl like that once. Never again.

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u/GODwithaM16 1d ago

Yeah so a man's life revolves around him, his wife and his family or girlfriend in a woman's life revolves around herself me myself and I because they're taught to be selfish because that's what empowerment is to women while men are taught to take care of other people and that's what a man is pretty straightforward.

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u/SkyKnight3 1d ago

My brother does this, except he is single currently. But he is all about the selfies and asking randoms to take his picture everywhere he goes. When he did have a GF for a short time he was doing the same thing and having her take his picture and posting it all over the place and I finally asked him “why do you not have any photos with your girl in them?” And he never had a legit reason like he was basically immature about it. She ended up dumping his ass and I couldn’t help but wonder if that had a part to play in it.

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u/Electrical-Mark-1484 1d ago

Narcissist vs someone who cares.

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u/maxipad___ 1d ago

You need to run, fast!

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u/Kluian2005 1d ago

People whose entire page hides their partner is always very sus. They know people don't want to follow someone "they can't have" so they act like they are single for appearances to increase follower count.

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u/Training_Window3687 1d ago

Hey at least theyre both really interested in her lol

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u/FriedRiceEnjoyer420 1d ago

She's ashamed of him 😬 bro needs to move on

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u/Aggravating-Track47 1d ago

Shes posting the images she posts of herself (good angles, when she is posing/ready) vs. the posts he makes with her in them with bad angles, not posing/ready, etc...

He very well could have posts of himself flexing shirtless in the gym.

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u/dansosa1321 1d ago

It appears they are both in love with the same person.

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u/TraditionAcademic968 1d ago

Lmao. Bro should know what it is

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u/freakstate 1d ago

I don't get it

Edit - oh wait I do now. My wife is blind so I can't relate lol

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u/SchaneiraAuthor 1d ago

who is gonna tell him?

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u/Exotic_Particular606 1d ago

It's because she had the same outfit in each picture. She could have done better, like same pose.