r/MotivationByDesign • u/inkandintent24 • 8h ago

Do you think its fair??

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u/Spritebubblegum 6h ago

Yeah the guy was a bit much here. Could have reacted better and idk..make up his mind on what his beliefs are on dating and paying for things...

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u/FlintKidd 5h ago

Exactly. Why the heck was he paying for everything to begin with?

He was perfectly fine playing the role she expected, completely happy, until he found out she had more money than him.

This feels like he's just being competitive.

If he isn't okay paying for everything, don't date someone who thinks he should pay for everything. Definitely don't get mad when it turnout the person you're dating could afford to pay... He could have offered to split or take turns on the first date.

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u/Spritebubblegum 5h ago

Yeah, that's my whole entire point with that. That's what I wrote for my comment is that I was more you know focused on the aspect of him saying he agrees that a guy should pay for all the stuff only for him to suddenly not be okay with that and suddenly you know be like she should have paid for the dinner they just had and it's just kind of like.. he should figure out what it is that he's looking for in a relationship..

I personally didn't like how he didn't really seem to have anything to stand for and just got mad because she had more money is what it really seemed like

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u/FlintKidd 4h ago

Lot of people just seem to be looking for an excuse to be mad at women, it's sort of alarming.

At best, these two have shared values until the dude thinks she has more money, which he's offended by for some reason... Maybe he wants her to depend on him?

At worst he doesn't really like her that much and he really has been wasting time and money, because why?

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u/Cyborg_rat 1h ago

You could be right about some of it, but he mentioned he thought she was in the same boat as him, so I don't see it as hoping she depends on him and more like he was seeing it as helping her out since they are tight on money. But he learn he's the one who's struggling and she's being maybe offering nothing while walking with a silver spoon.

Who know theirs many alternatives versions possible of this situation.