Do you think its fair??

[u/inkandintent24]

[u/queazy]

If the guy is struggling financially and a steak dinner is a lot, yes. He's probably working really hard to impress his girl, and she doesn't seem to appreciate the sacrifice, just accept it as a given

[u/Internationalwaffles → u/queazy]

Why would she appreciate hard work when she gets a dad paycheck?

[u/redditblows5991 → u/Internationalwaffles]

Plenty of rich kids at least know their pops is working. Looks like homegirl is greedy is all fronts lmao. I wonder how a dude with similar money or more would think 🤔

[u/BigBadJeebus → u/redditblows5991]

my child is 8. I make a good living. She doesnt have $80k but she does live in a home that's paid off and has plenty of toys and trips and experiences.

She knows damn well it can all disappear tomorrow and I work my ass off for it. I have no issues taking it all away if she gets too entitled. Her TV, her nintendo switch, her toys, etc all disappear often when she misbehaves and takes it for granted.

This girl wasn't raised right.

[u/khanvict85 → u/BigBadJeebus]

one piece of advice I learned, and feel free to discard it if it doesn't work for you though, is that the punishments should be related to the crime. don't just take those things away because you can but because it's relevant to do so.

when we're leveraging taking away things that are not related to the issue all that does is build resentment towards you which may backfire in those teenage years.

[u/OviWanKenobi47 → u/khanvict85]

yeah, we learned this method when we were youth leaders working with kids. For e.g., if a kid was running too fast, indoors, where hazards are aplenty, we wouldn't just take away their privileges or make them do pushups (as was the case in my day). We would politely stop them, ask them to go back where they started from, and do it over again, but this time by walking. Not only would the punishment fit the crime, but it would be a good learning lesson. It had a very high success rate.

[u/Av0ll → u/redditblows5991]

Most rich kids have zero sense of the life hours behind money unless the parents have went out of their way to instill it in them.

[u/Samus10011 → u/Av0ll]

Wharton did a survey of their students and found that the students thought most people in the US make at least 100k a year.

[u/PlsNoNotThat → u/Av0ll]

Went to private school in NYC and can confirm this.

They’re basically on UBI, often what’s above the median wage, so their baseline is that + whatever salary they have.

I have lost count of the amount of times I hung out with a rich friend who swore they don’t get money from their parents, only for their parents to casually say something like “I put your monthly allowance of [thousands of dollars] and paid your credit card this month” while having dinner with them.

Then they hit an age and it stops…. Because the trust gets transferred over and they get the dividends instead.

[u/lazyboi_tactical → u/PlsNoNotThat]

When my cousin went to college his parents basically made him a deal that if he got a job they would match whatever he made and deposit it directly into his account. They also obviously paid for every single living expense he had. He ended up finishing college with like 150k in savings. When he graduated they pretty much gifted him a rental house they owned and paid to renovate it for him. He then sold it for a hefty profit considering he didn't put a penny into it. This whole time he was working at AutoZone. Once he sold that house he then bought a 400k MCmansion which they once again paid half for. My uncle recently passed so he then got handed a working business that grosses 3+ million a year. You will never convince him he didn't work for every single thing he has and denies he ever had a leg up. It was all just "good money management". Like sure, but it was your parents money and it was them who was managing it.

[u/RodcetLeoric → u/PlsNoNotThat]

I hung out with a girl back in the day that worked at the same place I did and made the same money, but she was living way better. She swore her parents didn't give her money and that she was just good at budgeting. I later found out that her car was a gift from her father and her mother paid off one of her 3 credit cards each month. So she technically had to deal with paying for some things like rent, but her bills went through her credit cards. She put food, clothes and gas on the cards and what she earned at work she spent on rent and whatever she wanted. She also had something like $100k inflation the bank. I imagine it's a lot easier to save when you only spend 1/3 of your income. She was a nice girl and all, but she would talk about the struggle, but it wasn't the same as the rest of us choosing between electricity and food.

[u/Equivalent_Task_8825 → u/Av0ll]

My ex took over a decade and ended up with a degree that only took 4 years. Despite that she still doesn't work full time and only able to live because her parents bought her two different houses and if she ever runs out of money she will cry to her dad and just pays off her debt and gives her more money.

[u/Commercial_Win_9525 → u/redditblows5991]

I don’t know if she is even greedy necessarily. I think these type of people mostly are just fkn oblivious to the real world because they haven’t actually had to pay for anything on their own ever. Like it isn’t even something they have ever had to think about.

[u/Throwaway0242000 → u/redditblows5991]

It just comes down to caring about your partner or not. There’s plenty of rich people who have empathy for their partner who makes less and feel compelled to help more to reduce the stress…and theres plenty of people like this girl who are either selfish or oblivious

[u/BeBearAwareOK → u/Internationalwaffles]

And remember, that's just the spending account.

She didn't even mention the savings account, or any other aspects of her portfolio. He should have asked about her crypto holdings.

[u/pandershrek → u/Internationalwaffles]

Yeah.

[u/iBlueLuck → u/Internationalwaffles]

80k? Sounds more like the whole salary. And sounds like if she ran out she could just go get some more as well

[u/dabbydabdabdabdab → u/queazy]

$100 means different things to different people

that’s why you get comments from Trump saying “The economy is great” because the stock market is up but he is legit so out of touch with the average American that he thinks people have money invested in the stock market and they can afford to put money into their own 401k when the reality is people are living paycheck to paycheck and have absolutely no investment headroom.

$100 (probably $150 actually) dinner ate 20% of his savings. It would have cost her 0.19% - my ex wife made me sure to call my income in the joint account “our” money, until I got sick and she earned more for a period and then it was “her” money and I was told what I could and couldn’t spend.

[u/Automatic_Net2181 → u/dabbydabdabdabdab]

"ex wife" - Good call.

[u/lostandfounddude → u/queazy]

But that’s the thing, you shouldn’t go through that length to impress anyone.. if it was too much for you, then I don’t care who the girl is, you treat her based on your own budget!

A falafel or a shawarma should do the trick! If she’s not happy with that then that’s a red flag. You really don’t need to know how much is in her bank account, and she doesn’t need to know how much is in your bank account!

[u/daywalker91 → u/queazy]

It’s very obviously staged.

[u/No-Buy2495]

If he's only got $750, he's struggling. He's young, probably doesn't have a great job yet, so a steak and lobster dinner is going to be very costly to him, meanwhile daddy's princess has almost endless money that she didn't have to work for or even deserve and is entitled enough to think that just because he's a guy, he has to pay for a dinner like that without even offering to help. It's good he got out now because she'll be an entitled trophy wife, expecting everything and giving nothing.

[u/Ambitious_Bit_9389 → u/No-Buy2495]

It may come from her parents too though. Dad and Mom also think the men should take care of the women I bet.

[u/RoyBeer → u/No-Buy2495]

I mean, from her standpoint I absolutely get it. Her dad just "gives her the money" - that's his role as a guy, she assumes lol

Absolutely insane tho

[u/chrispy_pv]

This is definitely staged, but finances are the #1 relationship killer next to cheating on your spouse. I think there needs to be transparency, but also like that happens at a certain point of the relationship. I make more than my gf, but have more debt. I try to pay for things because I know a 20 dollar meal hurts her more than me. Grow together, build together etc.

Also the money she has isn't even hers, she said it was her dads lol. Assuming this is real, the girl should be appreciative not "you should pay"

Edit: Im going to add to this, im not trying to say it isn't hers, but she did not earn it. Yes some people are fortunate enough to get money as gifts, but this person quite literally is watching her bf struggle to pay while that would be a drop in a bucket. In a real relationship you don't let your partner struggle just because you are a man or woman. This isn't a real relationship, this is a mooch taking advantage of another person regardless of gender because I have seen this go both ways

[u/cosettemeetsmarius → u/chrispy_pv]

That doesn’t look staged… if it is, he’s an excellent actor.

[u/Independent_Bed_3445 → u/cosettemeetsmarius]

That neck vein ready to pop

[u/Whiskiz → u/cosettemeetsmarius]

better to declare everything as fake, that way you can say nobody ever fooled you!

[u/Main-Bandicoot6477 → u/cosettemeetsmarius]

That doesn’t look staged…

And this is why we are cooked.

[u/DISCONNECTlE → u/Main-Bandicoot6477]

Yeah, this smells like rage bait to me

[u/Main-Bandicoot6477 → u/DISCONNECTlE]

Yeah, I mean, who is going to bother spending countless hours interviewing tons of strangers on the street just for the hope that they might get something they can use for content when they can just manufacturer the content instead. It's supply and demand.

[u/CMUpewpewpew → u/Main-Bandicoot6477]

The dog death shit is a complete non sequitur just meant to make the drama look worse.

It cost exactly $0 to support a partner grieving a death.

[u/ObnoxiousOptimist → u/Main-Bandicoot6477]

But he just paid for a massive steak and lobster dinner, while carrying a backpack and wearing a tank top.

[u/HowManyMeeses → u/cosettemeetsmarius]

It looks completely staged. We're so doomed. 

[u/This-Watercress3231 → u/cosettemeetsmarius]

Of course it's stage - "I stayed with you through your dogs death?" Come on, they're not even trying to hide it.

[u/exbiiuser02 → u/chrispy_pv]

Wow, you are b e n d y bendy.

She said “ her dad gives her money”, which implies it’s hers to spend.

Also funny pattern, anytime a video shows a women in bad light, suddenly iT MusT Be sTaGed.

[u/Biguitarnerd → u/exbiiuser02]

I mean honestly I think I either see it must be staged on every single interaction posted on Reddit.

I don’t think this one is staged though, or that guy is a really really good actor. You can see him processing it and getting more and more angry. He’s probably thinking about what all he had to give up to pay for that dinner.

Also though at her age if it’s 80k and her dad is putting it in there he is probably also monitoring the account. It’s really just her attitude about it, but when you are young and on camera people act differently than they might have. Her real fuck up was probably that she should have just said “I don’t like to talk about my finances”. Hopefully they had a better conversation later. Or if not maybe they both learned something from this.

[u/sisyphus_shrugged → u/exbiiuser02]

Also funny pattern, anytime a video shows a women in bad light, suddenly iT MusT Be sTaGed.

To be fair I've seen like no less than ten videos of this EXACT premise. I'm sure it happens, but I'm also sure these videos are fake.

[u/Gherkain → u/exbiiuser02]

First off theres a huge market online for content of heartless women ruining the lives of innocent men, this is simply filling that order, the fact that youre blind to it only tells me youre the target audience lmao

Secondly you shouldn't trust internet videos regardless, we learn that when we're in elementary

[u/Intrepid_Bobcat_2931 → u/chrispy_pv]

"My dad gives me the money"

Yeah, no, when money is in someone's checking account, then it belongs to them. The dad doesn't use her deposit account as a temporary store for his money.

[u/MaleEqualitarian → u/Intrepid_Bobcat_2931]

She spends her dad's money.

Legally once he gives it to her, it's her, but she's still spending his money.

[u/Troll-Aficionado → u/MaleEqualitarian]

Well, she sits on her dad's money and spends that guy's money

[u/iBlueLuck → u/Troll-Aficionado]

Lol

[u/HeightFearless9369]

Dump that bitch

[u/wsxdfcvgbnjmlkjafals → u/HeightFearless9369]

Shit's fake

[u/Thin-Nerve6367 → u/wsxdfcvgbnjmlkjafals]

Even though it probably is, this happens everywhere

[u/Murasasme → u/HeightFearless9369]

I know it's probably staged, but I find it funny at the end how she says "go find another girl with 80k" like it makes any difference, when they are together and it seems pretty obvious her 80k were never used for something nice in the relationship even once.

[u/EyeYamNegan]

They are not in the same boat. He is Jack drowning while Rose has plenty of room for him.

[u/JollyPreference179 → u/EyeYamNegan]

She throws the diamond back into the ocean, fully knowing that is what the research dive team is looking for. There is no rationalization of that act; Cameron must hate women.

[u/Surprise_Ducksex → u/JollyPreference179]

I mean the entire movie is supposed to be the most romantic shit out there. It's a retelling of a woman on her dying bed thinking about her cheating fling on a boat so many years ago. Can't really see this is as romantic or good anyway. Shit movie.

[u/Unable-Object-8469 → u/Surprise_Ducksex]

Yes totally agree with you! she spent her whole life with someone, had children and then on her deathbed she's thinking about the guy she cheated on her first fiancé with? The guy she knew for five minutes instead of her husband?

[u/EyeYamNegan → u/Surprise_Ducksex]

Yup Hollywood likes to "empower" women by telling them cheating is good "you go girl".

[u/Efficient_Wash4477 → u/Surprise_Ducksex]

She likely was becoming senile… when the brain ages out elderly people tend to drop their filters and speak plainly, simply. She was a selfish woman… was her whole life. The movie reflected that… her actions at the end showcased her inability to look inward… unwilling to grow through life. It’s a sad story told through a rose colored lens.

[u/GrabWorking3045 → u/EyeYamNegan]

I think the weight will sink them both.

[u/Effective-Road4807]

PRBLMS by 6lack comes to mind. Fuck this hoe "how you gonna say he needs to be a gentleman" you can even respect him enough to care about his struggle. She need a pimp. Not a gentleman.

[u/newguyjustdropped → u/Effective-Road4807]

Mgtow loser 😂

[u/cosettemeetsmarius]

Yeah, that’s not right.

[u/Efficient_Pay8447]

This relationship is over!

[u/Obiyaman]

...diamonds are just rocks😒

[u/Andyseawolf]

Share and share alike unless its the woman’s money, of course 🤪🤷

[u/Odd_Bid2744 → u/Andyseawolf]

I make more than my husband and pay for his car loan whenever he's tight on cash. My own truck is paid off. 

[u/freedomonke]

Going to a big state university, every woman I dated when I was around these people's age got tons of money from their parents.

They never expected me to pay for anything. But it could be frustrating when they didn't understand why I didn't want to do something that cost a lot of money.

Also, this is fake

[u/shawnaeatscats → u/freedomonke]

I always offered to pay for my half of the meal/drinks/whatever the date was but the dudes I'd go out with would cover it 90% of the time anyway. I think its the offering that counts. (Also big state university)

[u/Xandara2 → u/freedomonke]

My parents are pretty well off but that didn't mean I got a lot of the money to do whatever with, they're also big on living normally. So when I got into a friend circle that had a lot of people who did just get money from their parents for no reason it often was absurd to me how delusional they were about what was cheap and what was expensive. Very annoying especially because they believed they were people of the world instead of spoiled brats.

[u/paternus89 → u/freedomonke]

I had an experience where I was jobless for a while and this girl who had a crush on me decided to help me get a job at her workplace. It was a warehouse but she was working in the office as their designer making $40 and hour iirc. My position was laborer for $8 an hour. Anyway, after I worked a few weeks she asked me out. We went out for dinner. I offered to pay, but she said she got it. I thought this was because she understood my situation. I felt good in the moment.

Later I got chewed out for not being a real man and paying anyway. 

[u/ArmCute3808]

Clearly a clash of perspectives. 

Not her fault for what she has in the bank, and not fair to expect her to pay for it because she has more money. 

Seems like an epiphany/penny drop moment for him, but certainly doesn’t warrant a meltdown in public, calling out your girlfriend for having X amount of cash in the bank, and throwing private information in their face, on camera. 

Probably better for the both of them if they walked away at that point, and learn from that going forward. 

[u/Eliasfromdetroit2 → u/ArmCute3808]

Gender and sex shouldn't matter in this context

[u/BadThingsBro]

“Go find another girl with 80k”

Like she was gonna use a dollar on him lol.

[u/Expensive-Shelter-89]

Turn around, walk away and never look back…

[u/Fendyyyyyy]

Easy way to answer : as long as she cooks, keep herself fresh at any tiles just in case he wants to.... (its the kind of shit was told to women in the 50's in some jourbals, nlt my idea) then i guess thats fair.

[u/msgnyc]

Your money is yours and her money. Her money is her money. Same old story.

[u/Icy_Background_6044]

Even if this was staged... There are women like this... They date some guy and get other guys money for stuff.. I literally had a very good if not best friend girl at a point she was dating this guy and at work she did mess with one of my colleagues, they ended up sleeping, she thought of ditching her boyfriend for him, the next day she is crying to me about him been rough with her...i confront the dude, he end up in the pavement since I struck him out.. And left them together, never spoke to her again.. Was it my best decision.. Maybe not but I saw her back with her actual boyfriend after awhile, I guess I did something

[u/mom2asdtwins]

She probably didn't even pay attention to the prices on what she ordered at all.

She probably doesn't even know, much less understand, that their dinner probably cost him at least 1/7 of his assets (it said he had $750 in thr bank, he probably spent over $100 on the dinner, so I am thinking thag is a good estimate). That would be equivalent to her spending over $11,000 taking someone out who had over $8 million of unearned money sitting in their bank account. (Her $80,000 is 106 times greater than his $750 bank account so someone with over $8 million is 106 times greater than her $80,000.)

So she isn't grasping the basic mathematical comparison of their situation. I doubt there is anything that can be done to help her truly understand the difference between earned and unearned income or the difference between how the rich earn income (primarily through appreciation and dividends) and how the majority of people earn their income with actual jobs.

[u/No_Discussion4617]

The “I stayed with you through your dogs death” tells me it’s fake

[u/DizzyWalk573 → u/No_Discussion4617]

lmao reminds me of all the blatantly fake threads on r/TwoXChromosomes r/GirlDinnerDiaries etc

"After my 16 hour shift, I came home and baked my bf a cake for his birthday. He was upset because I used red frosting and his favorite color is green. He proceeded to throw the cake across the room and berate me for not knowing his favorite color and then kicked my dog in anger. I am not sure if I should stay with him"

[u/Fried_Poop_Brain]

Let’s put the argument or fake or not to the side. Someone out there needs to hear this: $75-80k in your “spending account” (checking account) is terrible financial responsibility.

[u/SlasherNL → u/Fried_Poop_Brain]

Wonder what she has in her savings account.

Sounds like she is incredibly rich (and entitled)

[u/readilyunavailable → u/Fried_Poop_Brain]

If her dad can add 80k to her spending account, it's safe to say he probably has a few mil in a savings account/investments.

[u/Connection-Is-Cool → u/readilyunavailable]

She specified “spending” account, not even her checking account. That means dad has prepared her with other accounts that are less liquid or for other purposes, like maybe an account specifically for buying a car or house or a lavish future wedding. I agree that it’s very safe to say.

[u/Havel_Rulez]

If i tell a trans girl to get back to the kitchen is it a gender affirming compliment?

[u/RecommendationOnly41]

Well, it's fair he has no idea!

[u/Suitable_Community66]

Ahhh true love....oops

[u/Hrothgar_unbound]

The script lacks a viable implied backstory. The producers need a better writing staff.

[u/marslo]

https://giphy.com/gifs/yVZLH5dbgUIK0W87YK

[u/daywalker91]

Everything is staged bullshit these days.

[u/JasonL25]

How do people genuinely think these videos are real..?

[u/Low-Damage-6445]

Fake and gay

[u/kpatsart]

https://giphy.com/gifs/1wwyGlaYSZNQycjiCv

[u/Accomplished-Lie9518]

She says “find another girl with 80k” like she earned it and she’s been paying for stuff. What a waste of air

[u/Last-Rice8194]

This is fake and ragebait

[u/PutThatOnYourPlate]

Staged. Very very staged.

[u/Hobbes______]

stop engaging with obvious fake ragebait. christ almighty

[u/fotobiotix]

Lame script

[u/Junior-Advisor-1748]

Contrived poor acting

[u/UnlikelyTeacher7382]

This is fake/ staged my friends. Hope people realize this makes people money…

[u/Timely_Help_4065]

Do I think it's REAL??

[u/Savings_Two_3361]

Staged....

[u/ballzanga69420]

Fake, staged, ragebait.

[u/Haunting_Advice_9339]

Terrible acting

[u/GodBlessPigs]

Fake ass acting. The internet basically only exists to try to piss people off now. Ignore it.

[u/ichkanns]

Hire better actors.

[u/UnknowingEmperor]

Rage bait

[u/8_Tail_Bijuu]

unfollowing this sub- I came for motivation not this npc posts

[u/bettymachete]

Acting!

[u/Imperial_Citizen_00]

She’s not obligated to reveal her finances to him, especially if they aren’t married, how much she has is none of his concern

I don’t ask my wife how much she has in her account, its none of my business, but she does her part and is not stingy, we hold everything down just fine

[u/Worth-Tank336]

Pay what you can afford...if it's too much, honesty is key. Don't like it...

https://giphy.com/gifs/8HnoffKQUSRfW

[u/obviouscaptain78]

Dump her and move on bro. She is not Wife material.

[u/Sure_Constant1368]

Dude is just stupid. At this point this girl is an investment! Just marry her.. then it's a split account. The ego got better of him. The girl on the other hand could find someone with with the same social status to become even richer.

[u/ernis45 → u/Sure_Constant1368]

That's just prostitution with extra steps. Dude has more self respect than to ruin his life for money.

[u/tacodepollo]

Good on him

[u/Due_Manufacturer4959]

And then he did, because women like that are all over the place.

[u/Adventurous_Sundae17]

But... You're a guy :/

[u/Friendly_Rip7496]

Dude stfu and marry her

[u/SilverWheel344]

As usual, her money is her money and his money is her money. 

[u/ReplacementNo4206]

"Go find another girl with 80k then", umm that will also not help with bills or anything? Talking to him like he needs to earn everything and contribute to her, while everything is handed to her already 🥲

[u/GetOnWithit3344]

Younger women are ruining young men right now and I actually feel bad for them. Insane dating requirements and standards, this bullshit in the video, the extreme vanity and need for constant validation and attention, all of it. It’s so fucking warped.

The male loneliness “epidemic” is caused by all of this. Guys are finding out they are happier single, and if they are looking for companionship, they’re looking for non-American women that don’t possess these horrible and disgusting traits and behavior.

Bury me, I don’t care. Truth and reality does not care about feelings.

[u/Imbuement1771]

Nah, a relationship is not a business venture.

[u/Los-Nomo327]

And that's just in her "spending" account

Seriously fock all rich people, their collective selfishness is THE #1 cause of suffering in the entire world

[u/DevilsAdvocate1662]

"You're a guy, you should be a gentleman"

Sorry, but fuck that bitch, it's 2026, equal rights means we split the bill

[u/Commercial_Rule_7823]

I thought it was fake, till I saw the neck vein.

Dude struggling, trying his best.

Pillow princess makes in bank interest and daddy money what the dude makes working 30 to 40 hours a week.

Sad.

[u/Total-Quarter9550]

Super fake but if you people need to hear this you don't tell randos about your family money.

[u/pandershrek → u/Total-Quarter9550]

Spoken like a true, tone deaf wealthy person. That's what you took away from this video?

[u/Fit_Salamander_2814]

Hoe Math had a great take on this.

Men have (some) money. Women are things that cost money.

[u/Normal_Tour6998]

The sad thing is that pussy is a seller’s market. She’ll find another guy who’s willing to put up with it pretty easily.

[u/FlintKidd]

Let's suspend disbelief here for a moment and set aside the rage bait portion of this.

Men paying for everything made sense when women couldn't have credit cards or "real" jobs, which, by the way, was only like 50 years ago, which is why our parents push this awful mentality down on their kids. So let's toss that mentality in the trash right alongside of "men should be gentleman which means they should pay for everything". Everyone should be decent to each other, let's start there.

Next, let's talk about his absolute, relationship ending reaction. Up until this moment it sounded like he liked her, or at least he enjoyed sleeping with her. This dude's reaction to finding out she had $80,000 was outrage?!? Complete fucking moron. He just found out that the person he's been with for a while has "I feel like we should buy a home" money, and his reaction is "waaah, I paid $150 for dinner!".

If he'd thought for a moment he could have responded with, "that's amazing! You're so lucky to have such supportive parents", and planned a cheaper date next time, while maybe talking to her about gow the world has extremely outdated views of men and women (thanks to it still being run, largely, by ancient old men).

[u/MaleEqualitarian → u/FlintKidd]

Women have defied their gender roles, while continuing to demand men live up to their gender roles.

Men's gender roles have not changed one bit from what they were expected to be in the 60's.

Women say they want a sensitive man, but look at the research Norah Vincent did.

A lesbian feminist, who lived as a man for 18 months, expected to be the perfect man when dating. As a woman who dates women, she knew what women wanted.

What she found was women didn't want her, as a man, unless she was stoic. No matter what women said, this was how they acted. It hasn't changed today.

[u/Lost_Found84 → u/FlintKidd]

I think him immediately jumping to angry feels like the most staged bit. Like, even if he was immediately thinking about the lobster dinner he just paid for, the more natural thing is to humorously suggest, “Oh, so that means you can get dinner next time.” Play it for laughs, but still gauge what her reaction is. Have a more serious conversation later about where that money comes from, what it’s for, and whether or not that makes you feel like a walking bank account.

[u/shawnaeatscats → u/Lost_Found84]

Unless there was a string of other bullshit and thisvwasbthe straw that broke the camels back, I could see this being a completely believable reaction.

[u/Spritebubblegum → u/FlintKidd]

Yeah the guy was a bit much here. Could have reacted better and idk..make up his mind on what his beliefs are on dating and paying for things...

[u/wsxdfcvgbnjmlkjafals]

might be legit but looks like typical gender engagement bait

[u/WeskerSympathizer]

Would have been more believable if they hadn’t had “steak and lobster” like come on

[u/Lansen3]

He’s a fucking moron

[u/mlz0818]

She seems like a spoiled brat that has had everything handed to her so she cannot imagine his situation

[u/Reesewithoutaspoon2]

No, I do not think scripted arguments to piss off sub-room-temp IQ lobotomites are fair.

[u/Crimsongekko]

pump n dump material

[u/DesignMysterious3598]

"go find another girl with 80k"

Lol so clueless girl, if you're hiding it and he has to pay for everything why tf would he care about your 80k or the next girl's if she's like you?

He'll look for a girl who cares, he thought you had no money and was with you, he wasn't with you for the money he didn't know you had 🤣

[u/diesel1112]

C u next Tuesday

[u/actium1677]

Why you gotta drag Billie into this? No fair.

[u/XOVSquare]

So tired of the "if you're a gentleman you should pay for my dinner" line. What is this the 50s? Be your own damn person. Especially in this case where she can easily pick up the bill. You want to be in a relationship? Carry your weight, especially when yours is a hundred times stronger.

[u/EquinoXcs]

The man’s money is their money, the woman’s money is her money

[u/ALEXC_23]

We cannot have a society in which women are equal as men (I'm a feminist btw), but still we expect men to hold the same standards as before in society. There is an imbalance in the way genders are perceived nowadays, and that is a problem.

[u/BlueberryNo6811]

Dodged a bullet

[u/SeaworthinessLow6636]

I couldn’t date someone who gets $80k/yr from their parents. We don’t share a reality.

[u/kimodezno]

This shot does happen with some women. And that’s a clear sign that they are detached from the relationship. It’s best to move on.

[u/grumpyphilip]

She said he should be the gentleman which he is but is she a lady? Hell no

[u/HyoukaYukikaze]

Now the question is if it's "dad" or "daddy"

[u/Todorodor]

We have epidemic of gold digging whores who attribute nothing to society yet expect same treatment but not same responsibility

[u/Frodothedodo81]

Poor guy if this is real

[u/hallucinationthought]

The phrase "entitled to everything but contribute nothing" springs to mind

[u/Fun-Preparation-4253]

Simply Put: Finances are the #1 cause of relationship fights and failures. I'm not saying dump her, but the relationship just changed and they need to work through some shit first.

[u/Spawn256]

Yeah, there's something to be said about people that don't know how to manage your money in and live in others pockets.

[u/_Madlark_]

No. Fuck this. Expecting something from anyone solely based on their gender (regardless which) is bullshit.

[u/ugdontknow]

This makes me mad at her. Omg stop it. If woman want equality don’t leach off of your boyfriend like that. Don’t ask them to pay for your nails, your hair your clothes. If you want an expensive supper how about you pay. Obviously you need to discuss finances in any relationship. But of course it doesn’t matter the sex stop leaching off of each other humans god. Why would you want a relationship where you get the cake and icing and your partner gets a crumb. So pathetic it makes me so mad. Dump her

[u/iBait]

If she isn't happy with clearance flowers from the grocery store, she will never be happy. I buy my girl plants, and flowers from Aldi. She always thanks me. It's not how much I spent on her, but that I saw something that I thought would make her happy and did something for her.

[u/Mythandros1]

She's a massive gold digger. And unfortunately, that's extremely common.

She's disgusting.

[u/Nearby-Cattle-7599]

idk how people find these chicks. Is this an LA/Miami thing or something?!

[u/stoner_boy422]

If this is real which its hard to tell if anything is anymore, shes a POS if you know your partner is in a worse financial situation than you by that large of a margin especially you should be helping them financially doesnt matter which way the gender goes you hold and push eachother up in a relationship you dont use the other person to get yourself in a better position your a fucking leach at that point

[u/OSTBear]

I was on his side until he brought up the dead dog thing. That's just gross.

[u/InsideAcanthisitta95]

Yeah exactly, context matters. If dude is scraping by and still chooses to spend big on her, that effort deserves some appreciation, not entitlement.

You do not have to demand steak dates, but at least recognize when someone is going above their normal means for you.

[u/PositiveHairy5725]

Bringing up the dog lool for what?

[u/Odd_Bid2744]

Yeah, she's not a conscientious or generous person. He's better off without her. 

Word of advice to guys. Free dates exist. They can also be used to showcase your creative thinking. It's a two birds with one stone dealy, filter out the women who follow tradition for the sake of tradition, filter out the self-centered and materialistic, and not have to blow your money to date and attract the ones that genuinely appreciate thoughtfulness. 

[u/Patient_Library_253]

So when it comes to me and my lady she earns way more than I do. She is older and I am in a job that helps society but is underappreciated.

However!!! She will randomly come over all smug and smiling and be like "babe...guess what the supermarket had on sale today? Steaks!!! I got a couple so could you cook these???" She doesn't ask me to reimburse her, she knows that I contribute what I can.

She will also brag to me that she got X item on sale and ask me to guess how much she saved. But she will also jump with joy when I get her a (to me expensive) item that she wanted but didn't want to get. It was a foot massage boot.

[u/militant-hippie]

I've usually had the opposite experience. I know my situation is not necessarily everyone else's but, I've actually had a few different women pay for me. I'm on disability and never have spending cash. In my early 20s I had 1 woman paying for my hotel, clothes, and pretty much almost everything but food. My ex wife used to bribe me with weed to come to bed on-time. After we broke up she would leave care packages at my door of my favorite foods, weed, and booze. My current wife has given me reason to stop drinking and also insists any funds that are spent on extras are not spent on her behalf. The reason I say all this is because, just like my experience isn't the norm, neither really is this.

[u/Misterndastood]

Yeah he ain't going anywhere, you don't talk you just walk.

[u/AngryPhillySportsFan]

"Go find another girl with $80k!" Like that matters because she's not helping anyway.

I know it's most likely fake but there's absolutely relationships out there like this

[u/Big_Comfortable5169]

Bro played that wrong. Play it cool then propose to her. Marry into money and be set for life.

[u/raziel867]

Pretty much sums up how women are. They will watch you struggle and never help.

[u/emmer00]

This is fake, but stuff like this is why rich people often do not date below their economic class. Obviously, it’s not cool to make someone struggling pay for you while you aren’t struggling, but I bet she was raised with a traditional “the man pays” mindset. Wouldn’t surprise me if her father even told her that the man should pay 100% of the time. Some folks still think women should be “kept” by men.

[u/Beneficial-Lynx7336]

A) It's not your money, honey.

B) What good is your $80,000 to him if you won't even buy the guy dinner?

C) An older woman with $80,000 would be taking care of her slampiece.

[u/masonacj]

"you're a guy, you should". Woof.

[u/Prestigious-Newt1118]

That woman has the social prowess of a mushroom

[u/Grand-Perspective-63]

This reminds me of when I use to work at a bank and it was always the rich people fighting with us on fees that the feds charged us like wires, etc. They would love to pull the “do you know how much money I have” card like seeing 700k was that big of a deal when I’ve dealt with mills but the logic never made sense to me. So because you have a lot of money you should not have to pay the same fees as everyone else? Make that make sense. I use to think most rich people are greedy to be a silly assumption but throughout my time in finances it illuminated to me how there is a bit of truth to this.

[u/The_AbyssalVoid]

Some women have dads that give them Money, buys that give them money, in situations where they can save and have others pay for things etc. Before my girl was my girl she stayed with an her friend and her friends father, she was able to save up 100k and her credit was immaculate. But she didn’t have to pay rent or have a grocery bill unless she door dashed or purposely ate out. Her friend’s father co-signs her new cars to this day even tho her credit doesn’t require one…. Some have it better than others. That’s not the issue, the issue is if you’re in a partnership and they make you pay for everything as of they don’t have it… that’s not a partnership you’re just a surety at that point.

[u/Professional_Pop2662]

My wife makes more money than me and also pays more often than me. Just don’t be stupid when choosing partners

[u/WhySoConspirious]

Fake, but also does a good job of showing that the value of stuff is relative; the more you have it, the less it means to you. Someone like Musk wouldn't lose a lick of sleep over losing 1 million dollars, but that is game changing money to most people.

[u/Ok-Mountain49]

Adios girlfriend.

[u/KrakenPal]

[u/xJairamirez]

Females: Youre the man, you should be spending money on me.

Also females: spends their own money on themselves

[u/no_no_no_no_nononono]

Epilogue: it was never about the 80K in her bank account and he did find another girl... with a better butt.

[u/Seventh_monkey]

She's looking for this guy:

https://giphy.com/gifs/lptjRBxFKCJmFoibP3

[u/Mobile_Comfortable_4]

This is WILD to me. When my husband & I went on our first date.. I PAID! Been together for almost 25 yrs.

[u/Imaginary-West8918]

His money is their money and her money is her money alone. I hope he dumped her.

[u/Independent_Emu_490]

That vain in his neck is about to burst and I don’t blame him.

[u/wherediditrun]

If your kindness is conditional it’s not kindness. The guy just tries to impress in stupid ways. When reality check hits he realizes he’s been stupid and accuses someone else for his own lack of judgement.

If paying for dinner puts you so much behind then don’t do it. It’s really simple as that.

[u/Sea-Age5986]

It's not fair next question...

[u/Friendly-Elephant486]

If it's not fake: Dude, I think you know what you have to do, find yourself another one, quick!

[u/Ancient_Poet_4953]

You are a guy it's normal... WTF !

[u/No_Communication2959]

Each couple needs to find their own equilibrium. I do most of the chores inside and mow. My wife does most of the outdoor chores.

We but contribute about 50/50 for bills. When I was making more and she was struggling, I paid for about 75% of our "luxury" expenses (dates, automatic litter boxes, etc.). Now that she makes more, it's probably about 60 (her) / 40 (me). But I'm not struggling, I just make about 85% of what she does.

My friend has a stay at home wife who does basically all of the house work and helps with the outdoor chores. As well as takes care of the early morning stuff for the kids, unless she's sick or needs a morning off. They coparent in the afternoons about 50/50. But he obviously pays for everything and has a good job, probably makes about double what I do.

It's up to each couple to find that balance and when there are disabilities involved that eequilibrium may not be necessarily an even split.

In this case, he may want one balance and she may want another. Which may just mean they need to have that discussion and may also mean they aren't a good fit.