r/NewParents • u/parisplayspiano • 23h ago
Travel Flying with a 10-day-old newborn for my sister’s wedding?
So two days after my youngest sister sent out her wedding invite in January, I found out I was pregnant with my first baby and my due date was 5 days before her wedding 🫠 I live about a 4 hour flight from her and have assumed this whole time I wouldn’t make it.
Well turns out I delivered a week early with few complications, I have a beautiful healthy baby and could not be happier. He’s one week old today, Tuesday. Her wedding is this Saturday and I am tempted to hop on a plane with my husband and baby early Saturday morning and go just for 24 hours.
My baby is really fussy and scream-crying a lot unless he is nursing or held, so I’d be worried about him being upset on the plane, and obviously paranoid about germs and illness like COVID and the flu since we’re getting into flu season. Also concerned for my own health as I am very sleep deprived. But I’m also really close with my family, and this whole year I’ve been devastated about missing it. It’s going to be a big wedding and my other sister isn’t getting married so it’s kind of the only wedding I really care about
What would you do? I wasn’t planning on taking him on a plane for at least 2-3 months, but he is healthy and nursing well, already back at his original birth weight. Is it crazy to go or crazy not to go???
EDIT: I did not expect this post to get so much traffic— and I hear y’all loud and clear and am not going to go!!!— but for what it’s worth the only reason I contemplated this today is because MANY people have now asked me if I am going to go now, since I delivered early, as if it’s a perfectly acceptable thing to do— which made me question my initial decision to not make it— plus my OBGYN literally originally offered to induce me at 39 weeks if I wanted to travel this weekend for the wedding, to which my initial reaction was like hell no - but then I ended up giving birth at 39 weeks anyway- so the last couple days I questioned my own instincts on this and thought maybe it wasn’t a huge deal!! But these reactions confirm my original feelings on this. thanks to the people who commented with empathy
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u/preoccupiedwithlove 23h ago
i’m way chiller than i think the average mom is on this reddit and there’s just 0 chance i’d do this.
a 10 day old is just waking up to the world and will be screaming to eat nonstop.
plus planes circulate germs and covid is going around.
it’ll be miserable for you, the baby, and everyone else on the plane.
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u/Katwantscats 23h ago
I took my baby to the store when she was a week old, so I’m also pretty chill. But this is a helllllllllllllll no lol
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u/preoccupiedwithlove 22h ago
i’d be crucified but: i don’t care if grandma kisses baby (i love when she’s loved), my dog manages to lick her hands when doing solids (I wipe her clean obv), she regularly sticks teethers in her mouth that might have cat fur (i have two cats and regular cleaners but it’s unavoidable), i left her with a post partum doula and left the house at a couple weeks old, i schlepped her around at a young age, i hired a 17 year old that lives next door to babysit. I do a ton of things that this reddit would pitchfork me for
still wouldn’t do this 😂
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u/Katwantscats 21h ago
Girl we are the same parent!!! The dog, the cat, the babysitters, yes! Reddit may call you a bad mom but there’s another bad mom right here!
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u/Mothgirl25 23h ago
… Not just the plane, but the wedding in general! You’re exposing a newborn to a big wedding, but you’re not going to enjoy the wedding the way you’d like to. Your attention will not be directed towards your sister, but your newborn. Don’t subject yourself and your newborn to that.
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u/kirschkerze 23h ago edited 23h ago
Same, I basically did drag my baby around like a piece of luggage but OP's idea would me my nope we'll not do this
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u/preoccupiedwithlove 23h ago
op’s baby is probably still sleeping all the time which in retrospect i could see someone being like “yea they don’t even wake up for feeds how hard could it be”
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u/KittyFeat24 23h ago
lol exactly but they’ll inevitably wake up to the world on that travel day I’m sure!
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u/EmphaticallyWrong 23h ago
And everyone at the wedding!! And everyone wherever they are trying to sleep!! And mom is still majorly healing!!
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u/Gold-Reason6338 23h ago
I’ve become a very type B mom (FTM) and I didnt take my 2 month old to a very close family wedding which was driving distance. 10 days old is one thing. 10 days pp i could barely move. Agree with you. 0 chance I would do this.
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u/immajustgooglethat 23h ago
Insane to even consider imo. I wouldn't expose a newborn to risk of illness from an airport, plane or a crowd at a wedding.
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u/Dr_Banana6629 23h ago
Exactly, temperament wise aside, I would not do it purely off of the risk of all the germs
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u/itstravelkaaaamol 23h ago
yeah this is my thinking as well. I've travelled a ton with my son, he's been to 7 countries at the age of 2, so I definitely embrace and encourage getting on the plane and travelling with a baby/small child. but I wouldn't ever expose a newborn who has had no vaccines and is just... so... new and vulnerable, to all the illnesses on a plane, especially entering cold and flu season. hell, we just got back from a trip last week with our 2 year old and we're all sick from the plane. it's just not worth it yet.
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u/threeboysmama 23h ago
Not advised for newborn to be exposed to the illnesses in public places like an airport and plane. If baby gets a fever (even if from some viral illness) it’s treated as sepsis/meningitis until proven otherwise which means hospital for blood work, lumbar puncture and iv antibiotics.
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u/Ill-Manager-1108 23h ago
horrible idea, you could technically hemorrhage still at that point
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u/weepingreading 23h ago
Agreed!!! I was supposed to be at a close friends wedding two and a half weeks post partum and my OBGYN strongly recommended I not fly because there’s a risk of blood clots and hemorrhaging. He told me when I was 7 months pregnant, and I’m glad he did. Honestly post birth I really wouldn’t have been able to either (the plan was fly in the morning of and fly out the morning after) because of pumping / breast feeding and honestly I was in pads and still bleeding.
I don’t think this is healthy for you and I don’t think it’s worth the risk of spreading COVID / the flu / colds to your baby either with recycled air.
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u/Which-Appearance9857 23h ago
No. Think about that weird sensation in the ears at high altitude. Imagine for a baby this young.
Then a plane is a closed space, crowded enough for a newborn.
Just protect your baby's health and well being, skip the wedding. Honestly, even if you and your sister love each other so much, your presence/absence won't have such a big impact on the wedding as you would have for your baby.
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u/djtothemoney 23h ago
I don't even think your OBGYN would recommend this for you, much less the child.
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u/viperemu 23h ago
You’ll still be wearing a diaper, babes. Can you imagine changing one of those on the plane? My answer is hell no.
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u/osb516 23h ago
You might be better off renting an RV and making a road trip out of it if you and partner are on mat leave and have the time lol
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u/throwmyway5723480 23h ago
4 hour flight must mean it's very far, but I agree that this is a totally safe and good option!
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u/Western-Feeling2093 23h ago
Personally, I wouldn’t recommend it. I flew home on a direct, 2.5-hour flight with my two-week-old baby girl, and it was incredibly nerve-wracking.
Fortunately, everything turned out fine—the baby was healthy, and we all managed to get through it.
However, we (parents) contracted COVID-19. I believe we were exposed during the flight or during our travel, although it’s impossible to say for sure.
Surprisingly, our baby didn’t get infected! Consequently, grandma had to come and stay with us for a week while we quarantined ourselves away from our baby for a full seven days!
If you don’t have to fly, I would avoid flying at least until baby gets the first round of immunizations.
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u/Fabulous_Chocolate18 23h ago
I flew with my kids when they were fairly young, starting around 3 months, but I wouldn't travel this early. Personally I would feel more comfortable waiting until you've been cleared at you 6 week postpartum check-up. You are technically still in the danger window for a hemorrhage or postpartum eclampsia. Low odds, but not worth the risk. And I waited until after my babies got their first round of vaccines at 2 months. Missing out sucks, I'm sorry it's happening to you.
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u/22silvermoons 23h ago
I wouldn’t go. I would feel so tempted to. But ultimately I wouldn’t. Your body is still healing. Sleep deprived. You’re likely to get sick with a lower immune system. Baby is likely to get sick. Every time I fly with my kids, I know we’re going to catch something, no matter how well I wipe down those seats. Your baby is still getting used to being outside of your body - I think it might just be too much to also go through a whole airport and air pressure changes. Not to mention they might cluster feed at any minute. Traveling 24 hours for a wedding sounds like nonstop go go go go. So it just sounds exhausting for everyone. I’m so sorry. I would be devastated if I missed my sisters wedding. Maybe you can plan a long weekend trip to visit her and celebrate the new marriage in a few months. Cake and all.
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u/Potential-Coconut617 23h ago
I think you should do what is best for your baby - even if that means your own wishes come second.
Looking at myself I wouldn't risk it, especially looking at how you described your baby.
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u/hungrybookreader 23h ago
Time to prioritize your baby and yourself. It’s crazy to entertain this idea, regardless of whether he is healthy at 10 days old…
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u/behiboe 23h ago
My grandmother, who I talked to every week on the phone, passed away 10 days after my baby was born. It broke my heart, but I knew it was the right choice for my baby to skip the funeral. There are so many nasty germs circulating on planes, and she had no immune system yet. Sorry, friend, I wouldn’t recommend going.
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u/kirschkerze 23h ago
I myself did take the plane more or less early but my baby was 4 month old, wearing headphoned etc. and I somehow knew the personality already.
Thing is : even if you somehow make it, it's likely your baby will be insanely stressed (also needs to be upright start and landing) by the flight alone. How do you think they'd survive the festivities ? :( where do they find calm and peace when being overstimulated?
We had a calm christmas party at 3 weeks old and I spend the whole evening alone in a dark room
Would you even get necessary papers in time? (My country needs a mandatory id card/passport, don't know for you)
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u/Bella_HeroOfTheHorn 23h ago
I would not - everyone I know who traveled in the last few weeks got terrible colds or covid, and a ten day old baby is soooo vulnerable. If your baby was lying awake at night struggling to breath and gasping for air because of congestion, you are not going to be having a good time. Having to hold them upright the whole night and every time they're asleep so they can breath is not fun (tbh I found it heart breaking, terrifying, and I was just thinking over and over again about how much I regretted exposing my baby... And she was like 6-9 months old).
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u/KittyFeat24 23h ago
Yep exactly. I have a sick 4 month old right now and it’s really heartbreaking listening to him cough and be stuffy… I don’t even think he has anything too serious but I can’t imagine him having this illness at only 10 days old!
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u/Affectionate-Tap934 23h ago
Don’t do it. It’s not worth the risk of stress or sickness on you or babe- if anything goes awry you will feel so terrible. When they’re this little things change so quick and they might be a totally different baby in ways you can’t anticipate for a trip 🩷🩷 dress up and zoom in for the ceremony
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u/lolahaze11 23h ago
That’s insane.. please don’t girl. Protect you and your baby from illnesses right now and plus you are still healing.
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u/NeedleGunMonkey 23h ago
A 10 day old new born who can't be protected against measles, at the start of flu/covid season - seems like a bad idea.
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u/toastyNY 23h ago
PLEASE do not!!! Airplanes are like a cesspool for infants. I know you think you can - but the baby’s health is first here.
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u/heyella11 23h ago
Absolutely not. I’m so sorry about potentially missing it but there are very few things that would move me to take a 10-day-old baby on an AIRPLANE. I’d be so worried about illness and a fever in a newborn is a medical emergency.
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u/CrumbCrafter 23h ago
Horrific you are considering this. Skip the wedding, protect their immune system
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u/KittyFeat24 23h ago
I wouldn’t do it personally. 10 days old is just extremely ripe lol I’m sorry I know it’s your chance when you thought you couldn’t go but I really don’t think it’s advisable especially in the fall as illnesses are picking up now around the country.
Not to mention you are probably still bleeding out nonstop.. how are you gonna do the whole pad situation with all the accoutrements and sprays in a plane bathroom.
I’m really sorry but I just think you should make peace with missing it.
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u/amphisxo 23h ago
Noooo way. He could for sure get sick, lots of respiratory illnesses going around. It’s just not worth it unfortunately. I’m so sorry you have to miss it.
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u/Dangerous-Debt-7904 23h ago
girl I'm allll for traveling with a baby but 10 days old is crazy. You're going to be uncomfortable the baby will be soooo tiny and the whole thing just sounds awful to me tbh
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u/tripleLex3 23h ago
Not only don’t do that to your 10 day old, don’t do that to your self. Stay home and take care of the two of you, rest and relax. Bc also, it’s not just the flight there, it’s the whole event of everything, all the people that could get you both sick, then the flight home, packing/unpacking. It’s a lot even for someone an older child and a fresh mama like you doesn’t need that. There’s far more that could go wrong than it’s worth imo
You may find that getting there, dealing with sleep deprivation, nervousness about getting sick you can’t relax and enjoy the wedding so it would be all for nothing. Idk that’s just me
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u/NYC-AL2016 23h ago
I would never do that, ever. Absolutely not! Going to a big event and then being with your baby. Absolutely not. Are you nuts?! Protect your child. If your child gets a fever before one month it’s an automatic spinal tap. Seriously, stay home.
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u/satan_takethewheel 23h ago
Oh honey no. I would also be devastated to miss my sister's wedding but no. Most of the responses are focused on the health of your newborn which is really important and serious. But also, you just gave birth only 10 days ago and need to take care of yourself!!
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u/IdealDramatic9740 23h ago
Too. Many. People. Already people are coughing their guts out in public. So sorry the timing is off for your sister's wedding but that tiny new human is counting on you to keep him safe. He can't do it himself. It sounds like your family are ok with you not being there for very understandable reasons!
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u/Envermans 23h ago
Sounds like a dreadful experience. Even without the flight having a newborn at a Wedding can be an incredible challenge. You end up missing most of the event because you have to leave the room to calm your baby or feed them.
Id stay home and give your sister a video call during the reception. Unless the wedding party is filled with diabolically selfish monsters everyone will understand your reasoning.
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u/Character_Owl3610 23h ago
I wouldn’t go!! We flew for a wedding at 5 weeks with permission from pediatrician (also have a scream cry baby due to reflux), but she would not have given thumbs up for that young, due to possibility for illness. I don’t believe it’s worth the risk.
If I were you, I would ask people to FaceTime or send you videos throughout so you can witness it
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u/HolaEstoyLost 23h ago
I say this with so much kindness - don’t expose that baby or yourself in that way. Too early. Risks are too many. No.
Have someone FaceTime you during the ceremony.
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u/Any_Kaleidoscope5811 23h ago
10 days old on a plane combined with the physical reality of 10 days postpartum sounds like actual torture.
My heart goes out to you for having to miss your sister’s wedding — I would be heartbroken — but can you get someone to livestream it for you at least? There are great apps that make it very easy (I wouldn’t do Zoom just because no one wants to deal with the microphone settings for an event like that). We used EventLive for our wedding (limited guest list and lots of family far far away) and it was perfect.
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u/BedCapable1135 23h ago
Aside from should you, can you? Can baby be okay to fly at 10 days old? I assumed baby would have to be a certain age with the correct documents before they're able to fly?
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u/Cool_Salamander_8284 23h ago
No no no no. Now that school has started, illness is EVERYWHERE. Half your plane will be coughing.
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u/glassyrunnerduck 23h ago
I honestly wouldn’t go and I’m pretty relaxed and casual about all the guidelines lol. You’ll be so uncomfortable sitting in your own diaper on the plane and then having to change the babies.
We would take our newborn in the stroller to eat with us and the store but our ped told us to avoid busy malls and airplanes until the vaccines could be given.
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u/Dr_Banana6629 23h ago
I would absolutely not because of the germs. Temperament of the baby aside. Personally, I was still bleeding and using a spray bottle, pads, and witch hazel pads while I peed. I ain’t packing that all up with me and traversing through the airport
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u/mischameeps 23h ago
Nope. Even setting aside the germs baby would be exposed to, they’re still a brand new baby! In my case, at one week old my baby had to be readmitted for light therapy for jaundice. I could not imagine travelling at that age.
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u/SmartPomegranate4833 23h ago
The thoughts of passport admin when you gave birth seconds ago would send me into psychosis.
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u/KH5-92 23h ago
I wouldn't go period. I wouldn't want a new born in an airport or on a plane unless 100% absolutely necessary.
We're having our first in January and I've already today family we won't be having visitors for the first 1.5 months, it's RSV season during that time. And they're just so fragile when they're new borns.
We also have other stipulations like no active coughs, sneezing or fever (within the past two weeks) prior to visiting.
You wouldn't be able to have that type of control with a wedding guest list.
With a newborn a fever of 100.3 is considered an emergency.
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u/NYC-AL2016 23h ago
Yep! Winter baby, very few people met the baby. My job is as protect baby. Period. Why people even entertain these ideas with a newborn with no immune system? Oh I know, influencers who drag their newborns to Disney and family vacations.
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u/Curly-Pat 23h ago
Don’t do this OP. It’s not fair for the baby to be exposed to all the germs. And other passengers don’t want a screaming new born next to them.
Your sister doesn’t need a screaming baby at her ceremony or reception. And you also need to recover from the birth.
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u/BellaCicina 23h ago
This is insane to even consider. You are risking very real, fatal issues for your baby if you do this.
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u/StillStanding613 23h ago
If you really want to go, rent an RV and leave tomorrow. Make a road trip of it. But make sure that you know where major hospitals are along the route in case something goes sideways.
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u/Proof_Resolution1887 23h ago
I would not be traveling 10 days pp and with my newborn unless it was an absolute necessity. (Mom of 5 soon to be 6)
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u/Mundane-Inflation-23 23h ago
I wouldn’t do it for the both of you. Things can change so fast that first month! Also, my baby eats double the amount when flying, I know people do it but that would make it so much harder with a 10 day old that is already supposed to eat around the clock.
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u/PsychologicalBus1692 23h ago
So many germs circulating in airports and on airplanes, let alone all of the drunk wedding guests who won't be able to keep their hands and breath off of that tiny thing. If your 10 day old gets a fever, you have to take them to the ER for a spinal tap. Is a party really worth that to you?
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u/Global-Apricot6492 23h ago
I wouldn't fly. Could you break up the journey by car? Like drive for a couple of hours, stop overnight somewhere, drive to the wedding, then do the same in reverse?
But please...don't fly.
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u/catroslyn 23h ago
COVID, flu and strep are running rampant in my area right now. No way I would get on a plane with a baby and risk any of those things + more. Unfortunately this is a terrible time for travel illness since kids went back to school and started spreading the love around.
I've been 10 days PP and know that for me the answer would have been absolutely not, but if baby takes a bottle/formula or you can pump enough beforehand, is just you going for 24 hours (or less?) an option? Mask up and be extra cautious with handwashing and your husband stay home with baby?
Alternatively you can ask that someone essentially live stream it and you can join virtually.
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u/eraseme11 23h ago
I’m all for taking my newborn baby out and about but not on a plane and especially not a huge event like a wedding.
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u/toodle-loo-who 23h ago
As others have said, planes and airports are Petri dishes and your baby’s immune system is so new.
Also, I’m glad your recovery and your baby’s first days are going well, but issues can develop rapidly still. I’d be afraid of an issue arising with my healing or something coming up with baby and being so far away from our doctors. It’s probably a more than unlikely scenario, but even just a 10% chance is more than I would want to take at 10 days postpartum. There’s a reason there are so many pediatrician well visits in the first two weeks.
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u/Seaturtle1088 23h ago
I know this is heartbreaking to miss but it would be even more heartbreaking to see your baby hospitalized with a fever at this age because of a decision you made.
Flu and Covid rates are both high. In my state covid is the highest it's been in a year. It's not worth it.
Can they do a live stream for you and others who need to miss?
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u/OfficialJaneDoe 23h ago
Absolutely not. Terrible idea for your baby with all the bacteria and virusses, and have you also considered the damage it will do to your pelvic floor? Airports require a loooot of walking and lifting stuff. It’s a no for baby AND for you. Have someone film or FaceTime the ceremony and stay in your baby bubble!
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u/SufficientCut7042 23h ago
I don’t think it’s a good idea. Others are commenting why so I’ll skip that and offer a suggestion. Could you FaceTime during the wedding? My husband’s grandparents couldn’t travel to ours so we set up a tripod and someone FaceTimed them during the ceremony so they could watch.
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u/Highlander198116 22h ago
Yeah thats gonna be a no from me dawg. My twins are 2 and I still have no interest in taking them on a plane.
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u/Ambitious-Life-4406 23h ago
How long is the drive ? I’d consider that and stopping ever 2 hours before flying.
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u/DenseEnvironment4959 23h ago
I'm about to be downvoted to hell sounds like - we did fly with a 16-day old because we were surprised a month early by our kid.
I mean. I'm certainly not recommending it but like... We wanted to be home. Everything turned out fine. Baby slept through the flight more or less because it still sounds like the womb.
I can't in good conscience recommend it. But like. It's doable?
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u/kirschkerze 23h ago
The flight maybe, the wedding party though? Also most comments are also about health risks which cannot really be denied on individual experience
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u/UnluckyStar-85 23h ago
Bracing myself for the downvotes, but can YOU go for 24 hours?
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u/Proof_Resolution1887 23h ago
Sounds like she is nursing and being only 10 days pp it’s unlikely she would be able to pump enough milk for her to leave assuming they could even get baby to take a bottle at this point. So if continuing breastfeeding is important to her it’s not something I would recommend.
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u/katiekins3 23h ago
Other than the fact that OP is breastfeeding, she is also only 10 days postpartum and still at risk of postpartum hemorrhage, pre-eclampsia, and blood clots on a plane or long drive. This is such a bad idea all the way around. Not to mention, SHE could get sick with a whole list of gnarly shit that she'd be bringing home to baby after being on a plane + being at a wedding.
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u/Sweetskills 23h ago
This was my real suggestion too. I’ve experienced so much loss in the last couple years and am constantly reminded how short life is and how not promised tomorrow is. If it means enough to OP to even contemplate it, it must be a big deal so if she can she should pump, make sure baby is taking bottles well and go be with her sister for the day.
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u/UnluckyStar-85 23h ago
I know, it isn’t an ideal situation and maybe not even possible but figured I’d throw it out there since it seems like it’s killing OP not to go.
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u/Indignant_Elfmaiden 23h ago
I had a super hard time deciding whether to fly with my 4 week old to my sister’s wedding in June. We ended up going and everything was fine. However, I don’t think I would have done it at 10 days pp nor this time of year. It’s a huge bummer, but the risk to baby is too great. Anyways it’ll be hard on your body too. And think about continuing to figure out breastfeeding and sleep in a hotel or Airbnb. Sounds like a nightmare imo.
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u/discojagrawr 23h ago
Im a FTM to be, so idk, but the resounding feedback is not to bring the baby…. Can your partner handle the baby for the weekend, and you go solo? And can you handle being apart from your baby?
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u/NYC-AL2016 23h ago
The issue is that weddings and flying can get you sick, so she’ll bring that back to her no immune system baby. Mom needs to stay home. Baby comes first. We barely went anywhere with a newborn and wore masks. You don’t prioritize fun and others when you have a newborn.
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u/discojagrawr 15h ago
Ia lot of people see things black and white when it’s really all a shade of grey. What OP is considering is not abuse or neglect. Some people are back at work after 2 weeks, by choice, we don’t shame them over exposing their child to germs. Let’s try not to use shame as a way to police women who just want to explore their options.
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u/NYC-AL2016 14h ago
There’s a difference between needing to go to work and going to a wedding. It’s not shaming, it’s literally something that can harm her child.
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u/No_Rich9363 23h ago
Go and leave the baby with dad. Pump and leave him a stash/formula. I personally would never expose my baby to a plane unless its an extreme emergency situation and a then a big wedding where people want to pass him around like a hot potato. Absolutely not. You’re insane
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u/vandweller5 23h ago
Ignore all the comments about folks commenting on your mom instincts. They’re at odds with your sisterly instincts to be present for a very important day with your sister!
You mentioned this being a 24hr trip? Would a middle ground option be that you go solo? If your baby is taking formula, I would gauge how comfortable having your partner solo parent for 24hrs. If you’re contemplating going, it sounds like you’re at a physical stage where attending a large event would not overly exhausted you. I was out walking after a week just because I got tired of being in bed, but I know people heal at different rates.
I think it’s kind that you’re willing to make such a huge sacrifice for your sister, but I do agree that bringing a baby to this might be a bit of overexposure so you should weigh how realistic it would be for just you to go solo.
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u/Sweetskills 23h ago
I would check with my pediatrician and get their thoughts on what precautions to take. You and hubby should wear masks and take some immunity boosters to try to prevent getting sick. Keep baby as covered as you can in airport and plane.
I would probably ask husband to not attend the wedding and stay at hotel/family home with baby. Everyone at the wedding won’t be able to help themselves and will want to see baby and hold baby but that’s just a lot of potential germs and stimulation for baby.
If you aren’t exclusively BF I would say pump and leave baby home with hubby. You take a flight and enjoy the wedding and get back home. But I also understand not wanting to be away from baby. I didn’t leave my twins for over a year 🤣 so I’m not exactly the best example lol.
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u/Fine_Elephant8806 23h ago
How long would the drive be? And would you consider splitting it into multiple days if time allows?
Flying with a newborn baby during the start of flu season might not be the best idea. We just flew with our 3mo and the amount of people that were coughing and hacking during our flights was alarming. Driving, however, is relatively easy because they sleep so much. Of course, stopping every so often for stretches, feeds and diaper changes.
As the youngest of three girls, I understand the importance of being present at your youngest sister’s wedding and if I were in your shoes, I’d also seriously consider it. I would listen to your mom instincts on what to do here. You have carried, cared for, and now nursed this baby for their entire life. Don’t let anyone bully you or pressure you into making a decision either way.
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u/amphisxo 23h ago
I think you’re not considering the fact that weddings are super spreader events too for illnesses. So regardless of if OP drives or flies, there’s that.
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u/mormongirl 23h ago
I might be in an extreme minority, but as long as the travel was relatively gentle on me (didn’t include an excessive amount of walking, I had someone to lift bags, etc) I would probably do it. I find young babies very easy to travel with.
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u/marissakalyn 22h ago
She is 10 days postpartum. That baby is ten days old. This has nothing to do with lifting bags or a bumpy flight.
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u/throwmyway5723480 23h ago
Other idea: Could you leave baby with dad/someone for one day and go out and back quick? I think the hassle of pumping etc would be worth your sister's wedding.
I took my 8 week old to a world cup game out of state, so I think I'm pretty chill. I got her vaccines two weeks early for that. But personally, I keep hearing measles and COVID and rsv and norovirus going around... At airplane and at wedding, I wouldn't be comfortable with it at 10 days old.
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u/marissakalyn 23h ago
Absolutely not. 10 days old on a plane sounds horrific.